Page 5 | Brother saying he would never date a British girl

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Glambow · 19/12/2025 09:11

SunnySideDeepDown · 19/12/2025 08:57

We all have preferences though. I wouldn’t date someone with very long hair, who was very overweight, I wouldn’t date a salesman, or someone of another religion. The list goes on. We’re allowed to choose who we date, marry, spend our lives with!

Your brother can’t help who he’s attracted to, although I’d imagine it limits his pool.

Out of interest, is your brother attractive?

I’d say he is conventionally attractive yes. He is sporty and ludicrously tall (6’4). He’s a lovely guy in my opinion I just felt his “absolutely no British girls, I haven’t even been on a date with a British girl since 2019” was very dramatic! It all started as we were talking about how he met his current girlfriend and I joked he must be hanging around embassies a lot as they are never British.

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jewelfantasy · 19/12/2025 09:10

ProfessionalPirate · 19/12/2025 09:04

I think that goes to show that by writing off an entire nation you will end up over-generalising. So it’s really just a certain type of British man that you find unattractive, rather than all British men. Because of course, there are many British men out there who are teetotal, mild-mannered and hold feminist values. But I can understand why your experiences might lead you to feel that way - I had an abusive ex from Liverpool and I must admit I’ve been put off scousers for life! It’s not a rational decision, just a negative association that I would struggle to get past.

The height thing is a question of physical attraction. Simply, I wouldn’t date a man who I was not physically attracted to. I wouldn’t anything out, but the attraction is either there or it isn’t. There are many physical attributes that I either find attractive or a turn-off. I don’t think it’s really the same as white-washing an entire nation’s personality.

If it turns out that the OP’s brother doesn’t like British girls because he thinks they are all sexually promiscuous and bitchy, just for example, I think that would be quite objectionable.

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Ah, I see, my personal dealbreakers, shaped by experience and taste, somehow need explaining, while yours—like height and wealth—are self-evidently perfectly reasonable. Got it.

That said, I’m not saying all British men are off the table—just that my experiences have left me less attracted to certain traits I’ve repeatedly encountered, much like your height preference isn’t about every shorter man, just what sparks attraction for you personally. With regards to appearances, I also generally dont find British men on the whole that physically attractive.

In both cases, it’s about personal taste, not sweeping judgment.

Chantzaba · 19/12/2025 09:10

But even "firey" is such a weird shorthand 😅 What does that mean? Does it involve being from a spanish-speaking country and being all artistic and shit a la Vicky Christina Barcelona?

What's up with this British women "willing to please" thing too?

I thought we were all roaming the streets like packs of baying dogs, getting pissed and screaming at the menfolk using our rubbery pornstar lips 😂

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Glambow · 19/12/2025 09:06

To provide more context I don’t think it’s anything to do with wanting submissive women, his type (inferred from the 4 long term relationships he’s had) have been conventionally attractive, university educated women. He’s definitely not misogynistic (at least not in the typical sense) he’s rather liberal leaning actually. I’m not sure Norway (his longest relationship) is really known for having submissive women anyway? His current partner certainly isn’t what I’d define as submissive if anything she’s probably more opinionated, firey and less willing to please than the “stereotypical British girl”.

I guess I thought it was interesting as he gave accents as the reasoning but then ruled out anyone from an English speaking country effectively, which is interesting as you certainly get a diverse range of accents within native English speakers.

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pilates · 19/12/2025 09:05

Your brother sounds immature and shallow to lump every British woman into the same category.

gannett · 19/12/2025 09:05

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 19/12/2025 09:00

Yes...

Not sure why he felt the need to share this, it's a bit like giving you the lowdown on his favourite positions.

However, when I opened the thread I was expecting the reveal that he was an Andrew Tate devotee, so, this is a lot better than that.

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The OP asked him, and then she "pressed a bit" - a phrase I feel is doing a lot of heavy lifting and might be closer to "interrogated".

I agree sharing one's preferences when no one's asked is uncouth. So is pressing someone else about theirs, though.

ProfessionalPirate · 19/12/2025 09:04

jewelfantasy · 19/12/2025 08:46

I have dated British men in the past and found them to be very bullish, male British culture to be extremely focused on alcohol and quite misogynistic. I have also worked in many male dominated environments in the UK and found them to be frankly, gross.

I am not saying all British men are like that but there is a certain type of British maleness that I find very unattractive and really repels me. I wouldnt refuse to date another British man but I simply have not found myself attracted to one so why would I go out of my way to force myself to date someone I dont find attractive?

You said you dont find short men attractive so I could equally ask you- would you go so far as to refuse to date a shorter man? what is it about short men that repels you so much?

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I think that goes to show that by writing off an entire nation you will end up over-generalising. So it’s really just a certain type of British man that you find unattractive, rather than all British men. Because of course, there are many British men out there who are teetotal, mild-mannered and hold feminist values. But I can understand why your experiences might lead you to feel that way - I had an abusive ex from Liverpool and I must admit I’ve been put off scousers for life! It’s not a rational decision, just a negative association that I would struggle to get past.

The height thing is a question of physical attraction. Simply, I wouldn’t date a man who I was not physically attracted to. I wouldn’t anything out, but the attraction is either there or it isn’t. There are many physical attributes that I either find attractive or a turn-off. I don’t think it’s really the same as white-washing an entire nation’s personality.

If it turns out that the OP’s brother doesn’t like British girls because he thinks they are all sexually promiscuous and bitchy, just for example, I think that would be quite objectionable.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 19/12/2025 09:04

Dollymylove · 19/12/2025 08:55

Perhaps he prefers a natural look rather than all the plastic. The huge lips, the slug eyebrows, 17 layers of eyelashes, the huge arses, the orange fake tan, the jet black dyed long straight hair.
A little individuality can go a long way 😉

That's quite a specific pool of British women!

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 19/12/2025 09:00

BeQuaintRubyRobin · 19/12/2025 02:17

It’s an exoticism fetish.

Yes...

Not sure why he felt the need to share this, it's a bit like giving you the lowdown on his favourite positions.

However, when I opened the thread I was expecting the reveal that he was an Andrew Tate devotee, so, this is a lot better than that.

Chantzaba · 19/12/2025 09:00

Salvadoridory · 19/12/2025 08:58

After more than 25 years living in the Middle East and Asia, I can honestly say that every single white, misogynist weird angry man i have encountered has had a mail order wife. Every single one. Except weirdly, Scottish engineers.

What have the Scottish engineers had?

inamarina · 19/12/2025 08:58

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 19/12/2025 08:25

Argentinians speak Spanish. Armenia is a former satellite state of Soviet Russia, so there could also be a political element in his choices here. Having such a strong outgroup preference (preferring women of totally foreign cultures) is concerning, but not all that uncommon these days.

What would the political element in dating someone from an ex Soviet country be?

Salvadoridory · 19/12/2025 08:58

After more than 25 years living in the Middle East and Asia, I can honestly say that every single white, misogynist weird angry man i have encountered has had a mail order wife. Every single one. Except weirdly, Scottish engineers.

SunnySideDeepDown · 19/12/2025 08:57

We all have preferences though. I wouldn’t date someone with very long hair, who was very overweight, I wouldn’t date a salesman, or someone of another religion. The list goes on. We’re allowed to choose who we date, marry, spend our lives with!

Your brother can’t help who he’s attracted to, although I’d imagine it limits his pool.

Out of interest, is your brother attractive?

Bundleflower · 19/12/2025 08:57

Dollymylove · 19/12/2025 08:55

Perhaps he prefers a natural look rather than all the plastic. The huge lips, the slug eyebrows, 17 layers of eyelashes, the huge arses, the orange fake tan, the jet black dyed long straight hair.
A little individuality can go a long way 😉

Are you implying this is all British women? Why do so many of us Brits (assuming you’re a Brit) feel the need to talk ourselves down so much? I know nobody in my day to day life that fits your stereotype, BTW.

SwedishEdith · 19/12/2025 08:57

He just sounds immature. Of course, a lot of foreign accents sound sexier to us but, when he does eventually hit it off properly with someone, her accent won't be the key reason.

Bundleflower · 19/12/2025 08:56

I get where you’re coming from. Big feeling of misogyny that all British women are somehow the same unworthy of him.

I know of one or two men who only date women from poor countries. Now THAT I find fucking weird and a play on equality if that makes any sense.

Dollymylove · 19/12/2025 08:55

Perhaps he prefers a natural look rather than all the plastic. The huge lips, the slug eyebrows, 17 layers of eyelashes, the huge arses, the orange fake tan, the jet black dyed long straight hair.
A little individuality can go a long way 😉

Imdunfer · 19/12/2025 08:54

Glambow · 19/12/2025 02:13

My brother is 27, we met up tonight for some drinks as we won’t see each other over Christmas, we aren’t especially close as there is a large age gap.
We got onto chatting about his dating life and he said “yeah I don’t know I’d just never date a British girl”, I was confused by this so pressed a bit and he expanded saying he wouldn’t date a girl who was raised in the UK or had spent most of her life in the UK. He also said he wouldn’t date Americans, Australians or Canadians. His reasoning was “accents are hot and I just don’t like British girls”.
This does appear to be true as his current girlfriend is from Argentina and his exes have been Norwegian, Italian and Armenian.

AIBU to think this is a very strange preference? Part of me can’t help but feel like there is something off about it.

It's normal to find foreign accents sexy. Fish Called Wanda?

shhblackbag · 19/12/2025 08:54

And I can’t imagine being romantic in Danish!! The accent/ language does actually kill it for me 🤣

This is so true for me as well 😂

Abhannmor · 19/12/2025 08:53

How do Danes reproduce @ElleintheWoods ? Do they learn Italian or English so they can seduce one another? 😉

Bougainsillier · 19/12/2025 08:53

I would never date an Asian man. Some would call me racist.

shhblackbag · 19/12/2025 08:51

NameChangeElaine · 19/12/2025 03:34

Oh ffs, I would also never date anyone with the same heritage (or adjacent heritage) as me either and it’s most definitely not a fetish.

Everyone is allowed to have preferences and unless illegal, it doesn’t need to be justified or questioned by anyone else.
What’s wrong with live and let live?

While he didn’t word what he said in a politically correct, “mature” or articulate way; it was a conversation with his OWN SISTER over drinks and I’m sure we’ve all been there or do the rest of you go through life always saying everything perfectly lest you end up being dissected on a forum? It doesn’t seem like he goes around broadcasting his view to all and sundry either as even OP didn’t know till now.

Honestly some of you need to get off your high horses before you get nose bleeds.

Absolutely all of this.

reversingdumptruckwithnotyreson · 19/12/2025 08:48

It’s difficult knowing whether it’s a problem or not without knowing his actual motivations, it could simply be a preference that has lined up so far. If he was after cultures he deemed subservient I’d side eye him, but I doubt he’s getting that from Norway, for example.
I’ve also heard the opposite, men going specifically for British women because they assume they’re “easy”, which is a disgusting attitude to have.

I can’t imagine myself ever dating anyone from my home country ever again, especially after being with a British man. Of course problematic men exist worldwide but some cultures are worse off. We still have crazy levels of DV and deep rooted sexism, I’m not interested in dealing with all that again.
I suppose there’s also an element of novelty in dating from different countries, we end up having the best of both worlds in a way.

Abhannmor · 19/12/2025 08:47

Some British accents are hot though? I don't think OPs brother is looking for a meek submissive woman. Not too many of those in Norway , Argentina or Italy. Maybe it's the other way around - he wants someone to run his life 😅

ElleintheWoods · 19/12/2025 08:47

It can be a little strange to hear for sure. I do find British guys that would only date foreign women a little strange, eg ‘I’m only attracted to Asians’ or ‘I love Scandinavian women’.

Then again I’m the same. I never have and doubt I would ever date anyone from my country (Denmark) or neighbouring countries. I’m just not attracted to tall blonde introverted guys! I also don’t really click with people that have never left their country. And I can’t imagine being romantic in Danish!! The accent/ language does actually kill it for me 🤣

I’m a world traveller that wants to learn about other cultures and languages, my environment, including my partner, needs to challenge me in that way or I get bored. Can’t imagine dating someone from the same neighbourhood or schools as me, what would we even talk about? If someone is a complete homebird, eg born and raised in London and never left, I doubt they’d understand my mindset. In my circles, living abroad is normal and expected.

I’ve only ever dated men with a different heritage from me, who have emigrated from their country of birth.

I’d also never date an American… The culture is just too vastly different. Probably also some other countries but haven’t given it thought.