Brother saying he would never date a British girl

I’d also point out that I personally have insurance that would protect my income in the event of serious illness. Sudden loss of fortune can often be mitigated against, although I appreciate not in all cases.

Totally get that. Everyone has a metric for what attracts them. For me, British male culture just isn’t it, for you, shorter, non rich guys aren’t. Same principle, different metric.

Is "foreign" a proxy for "thin" here? It is true that there is far less obesity in Asia, South America and Eastern Europe than there is here.

Phew 😁

We all have our preferences but I’ve never been rigid in my preferences other than when it comes to character. I’d rather date a green flag British man than a red flag Argentinian (or whatever other country) and vice versa.

British girls are a wide range of looks and personalities, values and ambitions so he's ruling out a huge amount of potential partners. That's his loss. But having cuture and different country of origin marriages in our family it is very obvious that not having a shared native language and cultural reference points generally adds to the challenges in relationships. Obviously plenty make them work but there is no doubt it brings a different layer of compromise and adaption if children and extended family are involved.

If such a thing happened within weeks of meeting then yes probably. Years down the line and in a committed relationship / marriage then no of course not. I would be willing to support them. But there’s no way I’m bank-rolling a guy from the outset.

Haha, boys then men as I got older. To say that even when I was a young girl this was true.

YABU that’s his personal preference I know a girl who will only date black men.

You’ve always been attracted to boys than men? I’m guessing it’s just badly written?

Income is not a specific fact at all. Someone in a high paying job could lose it all if they had an accident or became ill or were made redundant. What then?- they get dumped?

The amount of average looking Irish Blokes who get laid just because of their accent shows this isnt something that's just limited to you men.

@T1Dmama I hate that Asian fetish stuff, I am half Chinese and have had an extra layer of weird crap from men because of it sometimes, Submissive, well he needs to date a Hong Kong woman as they would tear him a new one as submissive they are not.

My DH has a Norwegian branch in his family, opposite of submissive.

These are specific facts. A short person can never be a tall person. A low earner will not be able to travel the world with me in 5* luxury (unless I pay for him).

But British men are not all bullying, misogynistic binge drinkers. I’m my experience they are a minority thankfully, but I appreciate the specific area you live in or industry you work in may skew your perspective.

But I get it, it’s a gut reaction. I don’t think all men from Liverpool are abusive pricks, of course not, but as soon as I hear that accent it takes me straight back… shudder.

Not being funny but I have known many people of other nationalities who speak English as a second language who are a heck of a lot more proficient than some native speakers

No you havent. Native English speakers are always perfectly proficient in their particular variety of English.

The political element there will be that Armenians alive today will likely have lived through communism and the collapse of the USSR, therefore they understand the warning signs much better than you or I. Katie Melua is a good example as she's Georgian (she has citizenship to three countries; Georgia, Ireland and Britain) and was born in 1984, she'll have been around 8 years old during the collapse of Soviet Russia. She and her family then emigrated to Ireland right in the middle of The Troubles, so she spent the majority of her life growing up in politically-unstable/war-torn countries. Don't forget also that Russia occupied Georgia as recently as 2008 and there are still frequent protests in the capital today.

Long story short, if the young man in the OP has a preference for Armenians, he's likely to date a girl who isn't outwardly left-wing.

I find it absolutely hilarious that some posters are calling him out for his supposed biases and assumptions yet are inadvertently revealing their own! PMSL that only the British, Americans, Canadians and Australians can be strong independent women who take no shit and all the other women in the world (as a group) are more submissive, traditional and somehow on the back foot 😂 Any foreign national who has taken the leap to leave their home country and move to a new one (especially where the language is different) is pretty tenacious in my book and probably has a degree of smarts about them. Also having lived in other countries myself, male tomfoolery is more or less all the same, different flavours sure but all still ice cream at the end of the day.

Also, just because brits aren’t big on second languages doesn’t mean the rest of the world aren’t and it’s actually quite insulting to assume being foreign means you can’t be proficient. Not being funny but I have known many people of other nationalities who speak English as a second language who are a heck of a lot more proficient than some native speakers.

Some of the responses on this thread are reminding me of what some men do when you reject them which is to take it personally and insult us, call us names and say there must be something wrong with us rather just accepting we’re not interested, it’s not a personal slight and keep it pushing.

I mean “accents are hot” is a pretty common view point, in a jokey way, I just wouldn’t expect anyone to take it to the point of actually not dating a British person.

I think it’s called “exoticising” when you date people based on them seeming foreign and different, and is frowned upon by the young! Quite reasonably.

I also think the fact he won’t date people from other anglophone countries is weird - that’s the bit that grabs me. I mean those peolle
have accents to our eyes, but clearly speak English as a native language. It’s as though he wants his girlfriend to be communicating in her second or further language and be at a disadvantage in the conversation.

Would he consider learning a foreign language so that he can have a “hot” accent in the girlfriend’s eyes?

@Glambow I think it's an unusual preference, but he's allowed to have it. We all have preferences in a partner - I'd never date a smoker or someone with tattoos, but those are just my preferences and I wouldn't expect anyone else to share them so I think YABU.

“accents are hot and I just don’t like British girls”.

I agree some accents are very appealing. We have many different ones across the UK to be potentially charmed by. Not a problematic comment at all.

However, 'I just don't like British girls' is an odd, rather disturbing, remark. I strongly suspect the majority of British women feel the same way about your brother just based on this comment. What a twattish and sweeping opinion.

I suspect he is still angry/disappointed by being rejected by several British girls at a time he could be reasonably described as a British boy. So he's preemptively rejecting them all first. That'll show them!

I'd have been tempted to agree with him, and repeat his words slightly tweaked in return..

"Yes, I agree. Most British boys are awful. Their neediness and unrealistic expectations are so off-putting. They demand so much, yet offer so very little in terms of intelligence and personality. I'm not surprised our marriage and birth rates are falling."

Then make my excuses and go home to my lovely (British) partner.

I had an ex colleague who said this, “English women are just out for what they can get” he claimed, though how he knew this was a mystery since he never went out. He was a slob of a man, with terrible halitosis and the social skills of a slug. Then he got scammed by someone who he met on line who claimed she needed money first for her mothers operation, then to save her dogs life. He flew over to see her and got beaten up for his pains by her live in boyfriend.

Did he learn his lesson? No. He then found a Russian woman half his age who he paid a fortune to get visas for and marry. She then pretty much drained his bank account buying amazing clothes (and having her hair done at a very expensive celebrity hairdresser) but then got fed up of waiting for him to get his huge inheritance from his very wealthy parents and doting aunties and divorced him. I knew their next door neighbour and apparently the rows were spectacular.

Being attracted to people who are different to you is probably an evolutionary instinct to bring fresh dna into tbe gene pool

Sounds like a win for the women of Britain tbh!

There are plenty of liberal male misogynists. I find it a particularly dangerous category of sexism.

To edit:

Because they feel emboldened to comment on feminism and assume as “liberals” their opinion should have gravitas.

It's the whole 'I'm not racist but...' convo.

Rejecting a whole nationality or ethnicity. I've heard it from otherwise lovely people. Sad.

Either that or he's a passport bro. Looking for a submissive woman. Assumes a woman from Asia or South America will bend to his will. Deluded but buying into the racist stereotypes.