Brother saying he would never date a British girl

😂

Look at Rod Stewart, he would only date tall blonde women. I’d don’t think he would have appreciated being told he had to date a 5 ft brunette.

Norway and Italy, two famously non-Western nations.

The using economic power to play the white Knight saviour and then expect eternal gratitude and subservience, is particularly nauseating in male behaviour and not uncommon, unfortunately. And not restricted to targeting women from overseas either.

Yes, whether you agree or not about rigid preferences we are very fortunate we live in a culture where we are at absolute liberty to date the types we prefer (as long as they are consenting adults).

Hmm I think it depends. The majority of my exs are foreign but I wouldn’t write off a British man. They just aren’t normally attracted to me. I often get mistaken for Slavic so maybe that’s why I tend to attract men from these countries more. I lived abroad for many years which probably also contributes to most of my exs being foreign.

I find most British men my age (twenties) around me at least are still partying and not wanting to settle down.

Having said that, I once dated a British man who seemed to have a fetish for Slavic and Asian woman. Hi exs we’re all from there and he would always say how I didn’t look English.

He once said he preferred these woman as they were more submissive and loyal but that his ex was a goldigger. When I pointed out men from her country are providers he went in the huff.

I think a lot of British men want a woman from said countries but are then shocked when the woman expects them to provide.

I don’t know about now as I cashed mine in twenty five year’s ago when I was diagnosed with cancer. It paid off my mortgage at the time on a flat. My only regret was that I didn’t take out a bigger policy but of course had no idea I would get cancer (I also pondered many times about cancelling it but was very glad I didn’t).

Armenians are more likely to understand the warning signs of what exactly? Communism/ socialism/ far left politics creeping in?
I’m from a similar background by the way, albeit not Armenian.
And OP’s brother doesn’t seem to have a particular preference for Armenians, it was one relationship out of several.
It doesn’t seem to me like he’s specifically seeking out women from one particular background.

I don't find this weird at all

People are going to date who they want to date, to suggest they do anything else is madness

I agree. Regardless of what you personally think about their reasons, to encourage someone to date another person when they arent really attracted to them is utter stupidity.

Imagine how it would feel to be dating someone and then find out they werent really that into you but were only dating you because they had been told by their family that their preferences were wrong and they had to give you a chance.

I cant imagine more of a turn off or a blow to self esteem than finding out someone was treating me like a dating experiment to see if they could make themselves find me attractive as I wasnt their usual type.

Yuck.

I'm the opposite, I'd probably only date people who grew up in the UK, or maybe even just England. I really like having all the same cultural references as the person I'm closest to. I travel a lot and have friends all over the world, but when it comes to dating I want someone who feels really familiar in that way. DH has dual nationality but grew up in England.

People are going to date who they want to date, to suggest they do anything else is madness.

Yeah, I don’t think it’s the accent. My initial
thought was preferring less ‘emancipated’ women, brought up to be more submissive to a man, etc, but probably it’s not that if dating Norwegian, etc.

However there’re men on YouTube who preach to other men to not have British/ American gf’s for the reasons above and these videos are very popular.

As someone who is married for 27 years to someone from a different country with a different accent, which was very attractive on meeting, you don't actualy hear it after a couple of years. So it's probably just part of that initial attraction that we have but can't always explain completely.

It's well for some people isn't it? When we were young being Irish was more likely to get you arrested than laid. It was about as cool as dandruff or halitosis. Plays tiny 🎻.....

Nothing wrong with that.
There are some men that I would never date.

@Coffeeandbooks88 not from me either. I think responses would be much the same as you’ve got on here - mixed. There wouldn’t be a consensus on if it’s offensive or not just like in this thread. People have various views on this.

IMO it’s just a case of people saying the quiet part out loud when they voice preferences.
POC here and btw in the real word white men do regularly voice their disinterest in dating Black and other woman of colour 😂 (and vice versa to be fair) And if they don’t go out of their way to voice, it clearly shows in their choices and attitude.

Anyone Ever watch Love Island? I know it’s a reality show and attracts certain type of young people but many woman of colour have said this is their real life experience. For context for those have never watched it, it’s a reality dating show and so many stunning Black, Asian and mixed race women are basically sidelined by the men in favour of the blonde or brunette, and I know women of all races can have that hair colour but it’s usually used as code for white women. Lol.

When someone says they prefer or only date blondes and many white men do say this- they typically aren’t referring to Black or Asian women.

OP I think it’s fine your brother doesn’t want to date British women. It may be as someone suggested he gets to feel more special if they for example like “British accents” or he may just enjoy learning about those other cultures.

I typically don’t date British men and that’s ok too. I feel it would be more problematic if he said he only likes eg. Thai and Filipino women because of the whole stereotypes about those women being submissive and dependent on western men. He didn’t say anything bad about British women did he?

You’re comparing two different metrics here.

Native English speakers who have learning difficulties and non-native English speakers who have had access to learn a second langauage.

Of course you’ve met people who speak English at a higher level as a second language than English people with learning difficulties.

And NO LEARNING DIFFICULTIES just means they haven’t had access to the appropriate tests etc.

I'm fairly ordinary looking. But ... On a couple of business trips to the USA I found my voice to have a mesmerising effect on American men 🤣

I can really relate to a lot of what you’re saying, including the bit about not being able to imagine being romantic in a particular culture/ language!
As odd as that might sound, I know exactly what you mean.
I can just about imagine being with someone who was born and bred in and never left somewhere like London, because that’s still different to my own culture (“exotification fetish”, here I come!), but not really with someone from the same country as me who also never left.
Not sure why exactly, but that’s just the way it is.

He's a passport bro.

It's all about rejecting Western women and dating for women with more traditional values, who are seen to also be more attractive/desirable and feminine.

I know 2 men who will 'only date asians'. It's definitely a sexual fetish thing with them and also, in one case, he's arrogant and full of himself and would never date an English woman with similar earning power as he likes to boss people around and play the big hero, rescuing the girl from poverty with his vast (not true but that's how he spins it) wealth

Yes I have. I’m not talking about accents, regional dialects and variations nor colloquial speech here; I’m talking about people who unfortunately have not been able to access the education system for one reason or another (specifically those with NO learning difficulties or disabilities) and cannot read and write and also cannot articulate themselves fully nor can they fully comprehend others either; I know because I used to advocate on their behalf. If it was solely about their own particular variety of English then they wouldn’t need help within their own local communities but yet they do.

is it expensive?

I have a brother I no longer speak to - who said he would not date a British woman. Especially with non natural hair colours, and tattoos. But in his case, its because he is a total cunt, and I told him he was. Some people are just destined to be bitter and alone. We no longer talk.

He told me, "Men with any sense avoid women with tats and weird looks, they are generally damaged people."

and when I called him out on his behaviour to his own children (he was ranting about our mother)

You have no idea about my behaviour with my children, I treated them well, I kept any promises made, their mother is the one to blame, there is a lot you do not know about her, and even if you did, due to your brain washed, feminists beliefs you would still be supporting her, there are a lot of women like you about, but fortunately a lot more who will put the blame where it belongs.

and

Most men are misogynists these days, it is a natural reaction to feminists behaviour.
I see by your foul language you are not as smart as you think you are, just a mouthy little key board warrior, say that shit to my face and you would not do it again Karen.
Andrew Tate has points, some good, some bad, he is not the problem, just a by product, if he was wrong, then why do so many agree with him?????
Men are no longer taking crap from women, we are discussing the current societal miscreants and understanding where the problem is, there are some major changes on the way, Men (I don't mean simps) have had enough.

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