DDs dad has always been a bully. They were estranged for 10 years. He’s been back 6 months and he already feels comfortable snapping at her and being abrasive.
The other day, she got in trouble for having him on loudspeaker whilst she did her hair. He lectured her and said don’t do it just ring me tomorrow. She responded with OK fine.
2 minutes later he rang back twice. Then text saying:
Don’t you ever speak to me me like that again. I don’t know who you think you are.
3 minutes later he followed up with:
And don’t ring me again unless it’s to apologise.
She responded with:
I feel so nervous to speak to you because you get angry so quickly 😭😭😭😭😭 I just wish we could have nice conversations as I get anxious 😭😭😭
He’s started true to his ultimatum and hasn’t spoken to her since.
She is now querying whether she should say sorry just incase he doesn’t speak to her again. My position is, HELL NO.
When we were together, he was a violent bully. He did exactly the same thing to me. Teach me how to comply using the silent treatment.
Should she say sorry? Or risk estrangement again by holding firm?