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Christmas dinner invite taken back due to grown up sons hissy fit

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Darkcat · 18/12/2025 17:47

Earlier this year, I was invited to spend Christmas Day with my partner’s family. That invitation was made months ago, and I’d been planning around it.

Recently, however—just a week before Christmas—one adult member of the family has decided they don’t want me present and has pushed for the invitation to be withdrawn. On top of that, they’ve also stated that I’m no longer welcome at my partner’s home where he lives.

This has left me in a difficult position. With such short notice, it’s too late to make alternative plans, especially as my own child has already arranged to spend the holidays elsewhere.

I’m struggling with whether it’s unreasonable to expect my partner to stand up for me and say that I should still be included, particularly given that I haven’t caused any conflict or done anything to justify this reaction. At the moment, it feels like the situation is being allowed to continue without challenge, despite the fact that everyone involved is an adult.

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Untailored · 18/12/2025 17:52

Why don’t they want you to come?

And how can they banish you from your partner’s home? Do they live with him?

whathaveiforgottentoday · 18/12/2025 17:52

I do think your partner needs to deal with this. Unless there are very good reasons why the adult child doesn’t want you there, they need to stand up for you.

obviously, difficult to give you an answer without knowing all the details though.

I wouldn’t have wanted my step mother on Xmas day but I never invited my dad over on Xmas day. We did put up with her at other times as she was the partner of my dad (despite the fact we couldn’t stand her).

Joopy · 18/12/2025 17:51

Do you know why this person doesn't want you present?

Could you and your partner spend the day together and avoid his family?

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 18/12/2025 17:50

What reason have they given?

What has your partner said? How long have you been together?