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Why do men hate women so much?

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growingsideway · 18/12/2025 17:18

I’m on the larger side, a size 18. Walking back from work with my headphones in and on my phone and a guy leans out of his car window (passenger side) in slow moving traffic, barks at me like a dog and calls me a fat bitch. Him and his mates in the car then crack up at it and find themselves absolutely hilarious as they’re crawling along next to me.

I know it’s silly to be so upset by it because it’s such a silly thing for them to do, but they took me by surprise and gave me a fright and I just don’t get it. Why are men like this?

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Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 17:57

Momtotwokids · 18/12/2025 17:54

I find on this site most women hate men.

Came to say the same thing.

Eyeshadow · 18/12/2025 17:56

I wish you could speak to my friends.

I have 2 who are both size 6-8 and have done a lot of modelling.
They are stunning and are not fat at all but both of them have been called fat multiple times.

Its an insult that men think is the thing that will hit us the hardest and I guess it often does.

Ignore them.
They were obviously out to wind people up because they’ve got nothing better to do with their sad little lives and you were just one of many I imagine.
It would not have been personal.

TheSweetestCon · 18/12/2025 17:55

Momtotwokids · 18/12/2025 17:54

I find on this site most women hate men.

Wrong, try again. Employ critical thinking this time.

Momtotwokids · 18/12/2025 17:54

I find on this site most women hate men.

happysunr1se · 18/12/2025 17:54

I think it's because they are jealous.

They are jealous of women's advancements, since recently being chattels we have evolved rapidly and have plenty of room to go further, we in general are willing to work on ourselves.

Whereas these type of men are stagnating at best and disdain women because they hold up a mirror to their lazy backwards ways, unable to evolve as individuals.

They are probably aware they are shoddy and they resent that aswell and become bitter.

Curiousrobin · 18/12/2025 17:53

Bringemout · 18/12/2025 17:52

It makes them feel big is all, it’s a way to hype themselves up. I tend to think it’s men who feel more powerless in real life who tend to do it (I may be wrong). There was a study on aggression towards women on the internet/social media and it was basically generally men who perceived themselves to have lower status or value who committed the majority of abuse.

They did it because even they think they are losers.

That makes sense - like incels.

Bringemout · 18/12/2025 17:52

It makes them feel big is all, it’s a way to hype themselves up. I tend to think it’s men who feel more powerless in real life who tend to do it (I may be wrong). There was a study on aggression towards women on the internet/social media and it was basically generally men who perceived themselves to have lower status or value who committed the majority of abuse.

They did it because even they think they are losers.

randonneuse · 18/12/2025 17:52

You poor thing, @growingsideway , that is a horrid thing to happen. If it is any consolation, I have had the exact same thing happen although I was on my bike rather than walking - only I am a size 8, and the man in question is the husband of my (some years prior) midwife. 🤮

I wonder if there is something about being in a vehicle that empowers these type of men. Something about their safety and our vulnerability perhaps? A power trip? Imagining they are in car adverts where the man drives fast in Italian mountainsides and gets the girl?! Goodness knows.

didgeridid · 18/12/2025 17:51

Sorry this happened to you . I hope you don't let it with on you.
It's people like that that give men a bad name, not all are absolute arseholes but the ones that are, are mega arseholes.
Wake up tomorrow with a fresh start 💐

GreenCandleWax · 18/12/2025 17:51

The usual incel apologists are out in force on here - men no doubt - with their ridiculous fallacies about not all men, and men are victims. Take no notice, they are not worth engaging with, as they just repeat the same old rubbish rather than engage.

MinnieCauldwell · 18/12/2025 17:50

Germaine Greer was right. Men are scared a woman may laugh at them, women are scared a man might kill them.

If you don't think men hate us, try attending a feminist meeting. You will have to fight your way through howling loons to get in.

Curiousrobin · 18/12/2025 17:50

growingsideway · 18/12/2025 17:30

It’s just made me feel horrible about myself. I know that’s silly but it really has.

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Please know that there is nothing wrong with the way you are. So many of us have had our looks mocked by "men"/boys (myself included). Those sort of immature excuses for men push me to make sure I raise my son to be nothing like them.

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growingsideway · 18/12/2025 17:49

Aimtodobetter · 18/12/2025 17:48

That was a horrible thing to say but try to remember comments like that reflect on them and not you.

I think the shock of it more than anything has upset me. They were probably about two feet away from me, it frightened the life out of me!

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anytipswelcome · 18/12/2025 17:49

174ghxt · 18/12/2025 17:45

The majority of victims of violence are men.

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And what sex are overwhelmingly (more than 90% in fact) the perpetrators?

echt · 18/12/2025 17:49

When anyone is walking home at night and feels a teeny bit scared, it’s never a woman they fear.

HansHolbein · 18/12/2025 17:48

I am so sorry you had to go through that. It’s just awful.

Aimtodobetter · 18/12/2025 17:48

That was a horrible thing to say but try to remember comments like that reflect on them and not you.

Ministerofmumbles · 18/12/2025 17:47

rwalker · 18/12/2025 17:25

I don’t think it’s gender specific there’s vile women as well as men

What? Are you real? How many females do you know that behave like this? Because I certainly don’t know any and I don’t recall seeing the news littered with incidents of female aggression towards males.

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 18/12/2025 17:47

174ghxt · 18/12/2025 17:45

The majority of victims of violence are men.

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And the vast vast majority of the perpetrators are other men!

echt · 18/12/2025 17:46

174ghxt · 18/12/2025 17:45

The majority of victims of violence are men.

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At the hands of other men.

GreenCandleWax · 18/12/2025 17:46

174ghxt · 18/12/2025 17:45

The majority of victims of violence are men.

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Yes of violence perpetrated by MEN. Got it now?

anytipswelcome · 18/12/2025 17:46

rwalker · 18/12/2025 17:25

I don’t think it’s gender specific there’s vile women as well as men

Do you really not think there is more evidence of men harming women through hatred than vice versa? Statistics re violence, sexual assault, harassment and murder back up that this absolutely is a gendered issue. That doesn’t mean all men are vile or no women are vile. Seems silly to deny the reality that is backed up by statistics.

HeadyLamarr · 18/12/2025 17:46

Yourlifeinyourhands · 18/12/2025 17:23

some men I think you mean.

I've had it happen to me more times than I can remember, and it's always bloody men.

It's not all men, but it always a man.

If one in ten Malteser was a ball of crap, would you risk eating one?

Kigalicaif · 18/12/2025 17:45

I probably would have screeched back and maybe said they had a small willy..but completely understand you OP.

Horrible stupid scum.

174ghxt · 18/12/2025 17:45

Screamingabdabz · 18/12/2025 17:39

You do know that men commit most of the violent and sexual crime? The overwhelming stats just make your statement sound ill informed and a bit silly.

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The majority of victims of violence are men.

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