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Why do men hate women so much?

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growingsideway · 18/12/2025 17:18

I’m on the larger side, a size 18. Walking back from work with my headphones in and on my phone and a guy leans out of his car window (passenger side) in slow moving traffic, barks at me like a dog and calls me a fat bitch. Him and his mates in the car then crack up at it and find themselves absolutely hilarious as they’re crawling along next to me.

I know it’s silly to be so upset by it because it’s such a silly thing for them to do, but they took me by surprise and gave me a fright and I just don’t get it. Why are men like this?

OP posts:
TheSweetestCon · 18/12/2025 18:07

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:05

Your luck then but some of us have.

'Not all women' though, surely?

Actually not sure why I'm bothering responding to the whataboutery.

Meadowfinch · 18/12/2025 18:07

growingsideway · 18/12/2025 18:03

I’ve never had a woman shout abuse at me from her car. I’ve never experienced anything like this from a woman.

Neither have I.

I have however been called a f*king dke' while walking to Waterloo station, my first day not wearing my wig when recovering from chemo.

...by a man in a suit.

It really is just men. 🙁

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:05

growingsideway · 18/12/2025 18:03

I’ve never had a woman shout abuse at me from her car. I’ve never experienced anything like this from a woman.

Your luck then but some of us have.

echt · 18/12/2025 18:05

Eesha · 18/12/2025 18:04

@Misscoffee mumsnet is a weird place of very horrible vipers though, ive never had that kind of abuse outside here yet had horrible posts aimed at me on this site

Yet here you are.

Eesha · 18/12/2025 18:04

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:02

I fear women some are utter cxnts is not just men nowdays its both.
Mumsnet is cest pit of women bulling other women.
Even in public ive had the run ins with women.

@Misscoffee mumsnet is a weird place of very horrible vipers though, ive never had that kind of abuse outside here yet had horrible posts aimed at me on this site

Run30 · 18/12/2025 18:04

Vile, misogynistic pigs.
I’m so sorry darling.

TheSweetestCon · 18/12/2025 18:04

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:02

I fear women some are utter cxnts is not just men nowdays its both.
Mumsnet is cest pit of women bulling other women.
Even in public ive had the run ins with women.

Really? You carry your keys in your fist when walking home late at night in case you come across a woman who wants to rape and kill you?

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:04

Ministerofmumbles · 18/12/2025 17:47

What? Are you real? How many females do you know that behave like this? Because I certainly don’t know any and I don’t recall seeing the news littered with incidents of female aggression towards males.

You do know most men dont come forward if they are being abused by women.

echt · 18/12/2025 18:04

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:02

I fear women some are utter cxnts is not just men nowdays its both.
Mumsnet is cest pit of women bulling other women.
Even in public ive had the run ins with women.

Talk about not reading my post.

TesChique · 18/12/2025 18:03

mumofoneAloneandwell · 18/12/2025 17:30

Yanbu, terrible gender.

Sorry girl, i bet he has a small willy and is physically weak and is therefore desperate for his mates approval xx

This makes you no better than the man in OPs story

Hth

Meadowfinch · 18/12/2025 18:03

Because they are immature brainless arseholes, each with the intellect of a dead rat.

A sub species, not worth bothering about.

Tykarimyoureallymadeitgoodtome · 18/12/2025 18:03

Waitingfordoggo · 18/12/2025 18:01

Sorry this happened to you OP- very upsetting.

As to why men behave like this, I have often wondered. Possibly:

-They hate women who have the audacity to be overweight or old because we aren’t sexually appealing to them and that is just rude of us. We should consider what the penis wants every time we leave the house.

-They hate women who are happy and functioning well without a male by their side- it enrages them because they are like little children and they want to feel special and important and needed. (Not saying that you are single OP but if you didn’t have a man by your side at that precise moment then you were fair game in their eyes).

-They’re stronger than us so because they can bully us, they do.

-They’re jealous that we get to grow and birth human beings because let’s face it, it’s the ultimate superpower and something they will never be able to do.

-They thought life was better in their grandad’s day when women couldn’t have bank accounts or object to their husband raping them. That life sounds better because they want to be able to have everything they want. They’re upset that the world has changed.

-They have a sense of humour which is only tickled by making someone else feel shit.

It might be some or all of these factors, or something else entirely. I’ll never understand it.

And the women they find sexually appealing won't give them the time of day.

Eesha · 18/12/2025 18:03

@growingsideway ive been called fat by a random driver, plus people made gorilla noises when I was with my partner (im not white). I think its just scummy people really as no normal sort would do this. But for every weird person like that, there are loads who wouldn't, and who would like you for who you are. I remember coming home and crying that day thinking i should never leave the house. But now i see these are losers in life. I say this as someone who is now extremely successful and has had long term relationships with two super fit, gorgeous men with 6 packs who adored me at a size 16/18.

growingsideway · 18/12/2025 18:03

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:02

I fear women some are utter cxnts is not just men nowdays its both.
Mumsnet is cest pit of women bulling other women.
Even in public ive had the run ins with women.

I’ve never had a woman shout abuse at me from her car. I’ve never experienced anything like this from a woman.

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BillieWiper · 18/12/2025 18:02

I wouldn't even call those entities men. More like amoeba floating in a stinking cesspool. That's the equivalent of their intelligence, attractiveness or relevance level in society.

Misscoffee · 18/12/2025 18:02

echt · 18/12/2025 17:49

When anyone is walking home at night and feels a teeny bit scared, it’s never a woman they fear.

I fear women some are utter cxnts is not just men nowdays its both.
Mumsnet is cest pit of women bulling other women.
Even in public ive had the run ins with women.

Waitingfordoggo · 18/12/2025 18:01

Sorry this happened to you OP- very upsetting.

As to why men behave like this, I have often wondered. Possibly:

-They hate women who have the audacity to be overweight or old because we aren’t sexually appealing to them and that is just rude of us. We should consider what the penis wants every time we leave the house.

-They hate women who are happy and functioning well without a male by their side- it enrages them because they are like little children and they want to feel special and important and needed. (Not saying that you are single OP but if you didn’t have a man by your side at that precise moment then you were fair game in their eyes).

-They’re stronger than us so because they can bully us, they do.

-They’re jealous that we get to grow and birth human beings because let’s face it, it’s the ultimate superpower and something they will never be able to do.

-They thought life was better in their grandad’s day when women couldn’t have bank accounts or object to their husband raping them. That life sounds better because they want to be able to have everything they want. They’re upset that the world has changed.

-They have a sense of humour which is only tickled by making someone else feel shit.

It might be some or all of these factors, or something else entirely. I’ll never understand it.

Noshadelamp · 18/12/2025 18:01

Yourlifeinyourhands · 18/12/2025 17:23

some men I think you mean.

I'm not sure you understand.
Op doesn't need correcting. No she didn't mean some men, it's not about the quantity of men, it's about it being men.
Whether it's some men or not, it's still men, that's the point.

growingsideway · 18/12/2025 18:01

Momtotwokids · 18/12/2025 17:54

I find on this site most women hate men.

I wonder why? This site is full of pages and pages of women who have been treated awfully. From this, to lazy husbands who refuse to help with children, to women in financially, emotionally and physically abusive relationships. It’s a site of women where they can be open and honest about their experiences

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LoopyLeela · 18/12/2025 18:00

They're like this and then have the temerity to cry about poor mental health. I honestly think ones like those would be better off dead

Screamingabdabz · 18/12/2025 17:59

Bringemout · 18/12/2025 17:52

It makes them feel big is all, it’s a way to hype themselves up. I tend to think it’s men who feel more powerless in real life who tend to do it (I may be wrong). There was a study on aggression towards women on the internet/social media and it was basically generally men who perceived themselves to have lower status or value who committed the majority of abuse.

They did it because even they think they are losers.

Yep. They punch down because they know that they’re at the bottom of the male food chain and that is the only power these sad pathetic specimens can wield. They’re cunts.

Kdubs1981 · 18/12/2025 17:59

OP, I’m so sorry this happened to you. It really is about them and that they are deeply unpleasant and deficient humans. Bit of course you are upset, it’s a vile misogynistic thing to do.

Eyeshadow · 18/12/2025 17:59

Bringemout · 18/12/2025 17:52

It makes them feel big is all, it’s a way to hype themselves up. I tend to think it’s men who feel more powerless in real life who tend to do it (I may be wrong). There was a study on aggression towards women on the internet/social media and it was basically generally men who perceived themselves to have lower status or value who committed the majority of abuse.

They did it because even they think they are losers.

Absolutely this and you are 100% right.

No one who enjoys life and is secure in themselves goes around shouting abuse at strangers.

Hurt people, hurt people.

Lagalaha · 18/12/2025 17:59

Sorry OP that’s horrible. Absolutely disgusting behaviour. It’s misogyny but also ties into a wider societal issue of hatred of fat people. When I was overweight I seen immediately how different people treated me. Not loved ones but I mean strangers on the train and in the store etc.

So many men are incredibly superficial and thick. I remember reading on here a story of a woman who came back from work, tired and frazzled looking. She walked past a bunch of young men who began making derrogatory comments about her look. Later that evening she was all dressed up and wearing makeup and the stupid men didn’t recognise her and were wolf whistling etc 🙄

Kdubs1981 · 18/12/2025 17:58

Yourlifeinyourhands · 18/12/2025 17:23

some men I think you mean.

Oh do fuck off dear

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