If money was no object, would you live alone?

This absolutely.

I can't have dogs now and I am widowed too.

No, I kind of like having him around but if money were no object then I’d be living in a massive country estate and he would have his quarters and I would have mine.

Why would I not want it to be every day?

If I want to go and do something on my own I can. But I'm not going to commit to what is essentially a part time relationship with someone. I can't think of any scenario in which my relationship with my partner would be improved by spending more time apart.

I get the quality time thing. We're not at all joined at the hip, we have very separate and very active work and social lives, so we're used to making the most of our time together. We wouldn't want that time to be lessened.

I live alone it’s fantastic!!!

Definitely not. But I would have a super big house with a huge garage for all his crap, a boot room so we weren’t rowing over shoes / bags / coats left lying abouts his and hers en-suites, cleaner daily etc

so life would be made easier but I’d still want to live together and be in the same room too

No, I enjoy his company and we split the chores. I was a single mum for 14 years before we lived together, and I was fine living alone, and I'm glad I had that experience because it helped me be socially independent. But life is happier with him around because we get on and we're a team. I expect there's a good chance I'll end up living alone later in life (because we're the same age, and statistically men die earlier than women), and I know I'd be fine with that too.

No. I love having some time to myself in the house, but overall I love living with DH.

Plus I have absolutely no idea how the dishwasher works.

My ideal would be to each have 2 semi detached next to each other with a connecting door that had to be unlocked from both sides- like in a hotel room, so we both would have to choose to unlock it. I’m sure most of the time it would be unlocked but the thought of having my own clutter free space is very tempting.
I may have thought this through a bit too much.

Yes I do.
It may sound bad to some, but my father was terminally ill and he discussed what was in his will. I was the sole executor and beneficiary. So I started divorce proceedings immediately.

@Zov

I imagine most people who are desperate to be alone/live alone don't have very good relationships. To be married/in a long term relationship and not want to live with your partner anymore doesn't scream 'solid, loving relationship' (to me.) JMO.

This always gets trotted out and its utter bollocks. I hate the way cohabitation is used as some marker of quality in a relationship on here. A lot of people are naturally happier living in their own space and being in control of their domain. It's hard to live with another adult: however emotionally compatible you may be you have to compromise in a lot of areas.

Cohabitation doesn't bring out the best in people, particularly men, many of whom are hardwired to default to doing fairly little even if they know they should pull their weight. Even if they're not like this, everything about cohabitation draws you towards mediocrity and lack of adventure. People get boring when you're having conversations on repeat, which is sort of unavoidable. They bicker over domestic routines, food, television choices, lifestyle choices, bedtimes. People take one another for granted: there's usually less spontaneity, less sex, less going out.

And no one can find anyone who is totally compatible with them: anyone who claims they are is compromising in some way. Which is fine: some compromise is necessary in a relationship. But not everyone loves this.

Also the domesticity of modern life isn't sexy or intellectually stimulating. There's often no excitement, little attempt to think differently or adopt a growth mindset. People get set in incredibly predictable routines and roles. Some people love that, others find it incredibly stifling.

I live with my DP and daughter and by and large it works pretty well. My DP is loving and considerate and generally the upside of living with him (just about) cancels out my inherent feeling of being stifled by living with a man. But I still yearn for the eight years I lived alone with DD: it was a wonderful time. And I can promise you if DP and I split up I would never cohabit again.

No. I absolutely love my husband and we love spending time together. Some of my favourite time is the time we just lie and chat before falling asleep each night and then the hot cuppa he brings me in the morning.
We have time apart and aspects of our lives that we do independently of each other but then it’s great to reconnect again.

You have misunderstood me. I live alone and love it - I will never live with any partner again. But if you read the original question in the title, it is really meant for people who already live with a partner. These people are basically saying that they only live with their partner because it makes life more affordable. Which I said was sobering, not horrifying. I think it's sad and says a lot about relationships.

Women are more often doing the skivvying at home, so I think this is a gendered issue and men benefit more from living with women.

Sounds good, curious, do you each spend a night or two at each others each week, are your homes near to each other?

Yes, living alone is so much better.

Absolutely not, I love the company of my DH and DC.

No. I love my partner and couldn't imagine not living with him. He's tidier than me, cooks often and we have fun together. I wish he could be home all the time

We’re all different. I prefer to live alone and didn’t struggle at all during Covid. I know people that did and until Covid I had no idea that some people really struggle with their own company. I couldn’t live with anyone. I’d be really unhappy/ depressed if I had to.

Duck yes

I’ve lived alone for 15 years (aside from my now adult children) and it’s been financially difficult, but never so difficult that I’ve considered cohabiting with a partner. I’d honestly rather be poor than deal with the stress of another relationship.

I live alone and love it.

Really sad that so many only seem to want sex not the companionship. Why even be with a man you seeming don't like or enjoy time with? It makes me wonder if a lot of woman are just desperate to leave their partner and think that resentment is normal in a relationship.

No I wouldn't live alone, such an odd thing to 'rose tint' the glasses of. There is a reason people talk about loneliness as a bad thing and a reason special measures need to be brought in during Covid because those living alone faced MH crisis and why older people living alone often suffer cognitive decline at far higher rates.

Do I get annoyed by little things DH does sometimes? yes, but that would STILL be the same if he just visited (and for most of the first 10 years of our relationship that is how it was). I mean he still stacked dishes wrong or left his slippers in the middle of the floor as a regular stay over guest.

He slowly stayed over more and more until we basically lived together because we where 'happier' spending time together, not because it was 'financial' (we are actually worse off since moving in together).

I understand things like maybe needing separate bedrooms as you age (say if one has prostate problems that means they wakes a dozen times a night and disturbs the other etc...) but not whole other houses for the purpose of being 'alone'.

I don't think couples who live apart are any less of a partnership than couples who live together.

I always say that the reason I can live with my DP is because living with him is as good as living on my own. And he feels the same way. We both lived alone for a long time before we met we and before we moved in together, and we both loved living alone. Moving in together was a big decision because both us like our own space so much. But it does work OK for us, simply because we both place value on independence and being alone and we don't ever feel any pressure to be in each other's company the whole time or to be doing the same things when we're home together, plus we have pretty similar views on what makes a house a nice place to be. So I enjoy living with him as much as I enjoyed living alone, and that's high praise coming from me.

No. I would hate it. I like being a partnership.