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If money was no object, would you live alone?

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SantiagoShaming · 18/12/2025 16:34

I love DP, but I also always loved living alone. We ended up living together because it makes economic sense, but having had this debate with a few female friends recently, almost all of us said we would actually prefer living alone and having two homes if money wasn’t an issue—even the married ones!

Plenty of research exists to show men are better off when living with women and women don’t benefit in the same way by living with men. Just interested in opinions. For me, it’s mostly about knowing the place will be beautiful, quiet, tidy, clean and that I can be alone if I want.

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Lastfroginthebox · 18/12/2025 23:07

Jamesblonde2 · 18/12/2025 18:21

Absolutely not, I love the company of my DH and DC.

I love the company of my partner and my DC, but I need time on my own and love having my own space. I get exhausted by constant company.

CookingFatCat · 18/12/2025 22:04

Yes. Once kids have left home.

SouthernNights59 · 18/12/2025 21:53

I do live alone, and I too love it. No partner, no kids.

user362905 · 18/12/2025 21:38

No, because my husband is lovely and not a selfish arsehole.

We also respect each other having our own space in the house so I have never felt the need to literally move out

Marylou2 · 18/12/2025 21:36

No.I like living with DH as we give each other space and he's tidy and pulls his weight around the house. I doubt I'd bother to look for anyone else you if he wasn't there.

Forever1973 · 18/12/2025 21:31

No, I like company in my daily life. Clearly it would be better to live alone than with the wrong person, but as long as I can live with someone who has compatible tastes, I'd rather do that.

Fibrous · 18/12/2025 21:27

I don't have any kids but we do have two dogs and two cats. The pets could all stay with me, except one of the cats, who is a sadistic bastard. My DP can have him. Although to be fair we'd probably put a pet flap in the wall between the two houses. They'd all still stay with me though, as my house will have comfortable things like cushions and clean beds. DP would only change the bedding when it starts crawling and he is always complaining about the pointlessness of cushions.

GalaxyJam · 18/12/2025 21:07

YellowCherry · 18/12/2025 20:49

No! I like living with my DH and DC.

I’ve been wondering if all those saying they’d rather live alone mean without their kids too!

JLou08 · 18/12/2025 21:01

Yes. I'd have DH in a house next door. I'd visit him but keep my own clean, tidy and relaxing space.

YellowCherry · 18/12/2025 20:49

No! I like living with my DH and DC.

TwistedWonder · 18/12/2025 20:40

BauhausOfEliott · 18/12/2025 18:02

I don't think couples who live apart are any less of a partnership than couples who live together.

Completely agree. If I did get into another relationship, I wouldn’t ever think about cohabiting. I love my peace too much

TwistedWonder · 18/12/2025 20:37

I’m not well off but I’ve lived alone for 4 years since my DS left home and I couldn’t ever live with anyone again,

Its 10 years since I lived with a man - no money in the world could get me to ever cohabit again

MermaidMummy06 · 18/12/2025 20:35

Absolutely. But my DH is useless. Hasn't cooked a meal in 25 years or gotten his arse out of bed for DC or to do washing etc. I dream of only cooking for myself and only my tiny washing.

We have DC but he'd have them part time & I'd be free half the time. What bliss! I can never afford it though. I'd live in poverty.

MagicStarrz · 18/12/2025 20:32

Yes if we could afford to have two nice houses I would love that. Thought I was weird 😂

bushproblems · 18/12/2025 20:29

No but I would like separate bedrooms and bathrooms.

FancyCatSlave · 18/12/2025 20:03

Yes.
Well I am going to be anyway soon but if I were still married I would still prefer my own house. My divorced parents have been back together but living apart longer than their marriage was and they love it.

I don’t envisage that with my ex but I love living alone, it’s fantastic (just expensive).

PearlMember · 18/12/2025 19:59

DarkEyedSailor · 18/12/2025 16:38

I do live alone. With my daughter, but no man. It's perfect.

So you don’t live alone then.

Marble10 · 18/12/2025 19:57

Oh yes. DH knows if I ever had a lottery win, I’d be off 😆

happysinglemama · 18/12/2025 19:33

I was just thinking about this when the kids were at school today . I coparent and love it when am on my own. I love my kids company of course but I also enjoy my own company. Living with a man in the future is a no no for me. We can go on holidays together but separate at the airport.

GalaxyJam · 18/12/2025 19:13

I loved living alone, but I love living with my DH more.

TheeNotoriousPIG · 18/12/2025 19:12

Yes, and I do! I am never living with another adult again! (I do, however, appreciate that I'm lucky in that my house comes with my job; if I didn't have that, and its very low rent, and a walking commute, I'd struggle financially).

It has the perks of being able to have some downtime after being at work. It's as clean as I like, it's quiet, I can have as many pets as I want, I can starfish in bed, and I don't have to compromise (I spent my childhood doing this, and generally lost out to my sibling) on anything, from decorating or what to have for dinner! Oh, and I can eat as much fish as I like without anyone complaining that it smells.

taxguru · 18/12/2025 18:54

Nope, I love living with DH and would hate to live alone. And that's after I was very independent in my 20s and 30s, and waiting 10 years after meeting DH, not living together throughout that time, but going on holidays together and spending most evenings and most of the weekend together, before we got married.

We never lived together before marriage and bought our home jointly just a couple of weeks prior to the wedding, but still didn't move in till wedding night.

Barely ever spent a night apart since, only when one of us has been in hospital or a couple of time (in nearly 30 years) when one or other of us had to stay over in a hotel for work.

We both say we'll hate it when one or other of us dies, but neither of us has any intention of marrying/living with someone again either.

3678194b · 18/12/2025 18:51

I do live alone. Not through choice but I'm pretty sure I'd neve want to live with another man.

You just have to look at those who win the lottery and end up divorced.

Catwalking · 18/12/2025 18:51

FigAboutTheRules · 18/12/2025 17:41

What's really sobering is that women people who answer yes to this question are basically saying that they only live with their partner/husband for financial reasons.

welllll, DH could well only be living with me because a) nobody else would; & b) he absolutely cannot (& doesn’t really want to) look after himself -or any1 else, I do it all.

BorgQueen · 18/12/2025 18:51

My DH of 40 years and I agree that we’d have a massive house with a wing each, we’d probably share a bedroom but it would be two doubles pushed together with seperate duvets. I love going on holiday when it’s two big beds.
I’m very happy in my own company.

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