If money was no object, would you live alone?

Ditto. Money gets tight but I’ve learned to cut my cloth accordingly and I wouldn’t give up my peace for a multi millionaire.

I do live alone and it's bliss, partner is local and we both love our independence. I love my alone time, I actually need time where I don't interact with anyone.

This is really lovely. I have a wonderful relationship with my dad and probably could've done this when he was younger. I wouldn't now he's in his 80s though - the house is too warm and I hate loud tv.

I live with my two small children and a close friend as a temporary lodger. It's awesome. I know my DP would love us to live together at some point but I'm not sure. My best friend is about to choose to live with a man again now her children have grown and I can't help thinking "but whyyyyyyy?!"

Yes

Or both working from home. I’ve worked from home for 16 years. Unfortunately the pandemic resulted in my DP joining me and his company only brought back in one day a week in the office post pandemic. He loves it. I hate it. We have a small house and he’s always in it as he has few friends/hobbies that take him out of the house.

Me, too! Money's definitely an object, nonetheless.

I value my costly selfishness 😎

Is there no way you can leave him? Have you checked your options e.g. any benefits you may be entitled to, moving to a cheap area. Life is too short to be putting up with such poor treatment.

Also, stop cooking his meals.

Yes I would now. I would be happier with a small house, tiny patio. Instead we have a big house and garden, but I have my own bedroom but I’ve had enough of his mess around me. He has adhd and just leaves stuff everywhere. I suspect that would signal the end of the relationship though.

I've always LOVED living alone and did for 10 years. When pregnant with DD I moved in with my dad. It works perfectly. Both of us are really chilled out and get along grand. We haven't had a single argument in the 2.5 years I've been in his flat (even with all the lack of sleep etc). It's lovely for DD to see her grandad before he leaves for work. We often have a cup of tea and a chat at 2 am when DD is in bed, which I love. We leave little notes for each other on the whiteboard in the kitchen. ""Spag bol in fridge!", "Have a great day!" Etc. If I was a millionaire, I would want to keep the same arrangement, maybe just by a bigger place with an extra bedroom.

I would never live with a boyfriend/partner etc. Just no.

Didn’t Tim Burton and Helena B-C live in adjoining houses?

No way. Love every minute with my dh. But there’s no one else I could live with.

Side by side penthouses would be my choice.

Maybe with an adjoining door, but maybe not.

No but we have three reception rooms, don't share a bathroom and I have my own dressing room. Also DH is immaculately clean and tidy.

If anything happened to DH I woukd never, ever live with another man.

When the children were lottle (grown up now) I used to have fantasies abput living in a flat with white carpets.

I’ve never lived with anyone except for my family and then halls at uni!

If you don't count pets then Ive lived alone for about 30 yrs.
Don't think i could deal with having to make allowances for another person now.

I think you have hit on something here! Living alone as a woman can feel like a luxury - even on a modest budget.

I think it maybe worked better back in the day when men were out at work and women at home because women got that time alone in the house. But now with both out working (and perhaps the women even working longer hours), i suspect alone time at home is a scarce resource and coveted.

I dont think this is true for all women - I know some people crave company and dont like alone-time. Maybe a significant minority?

No. I could do that if I wanted, but I don’t. DH is a fully functioning adult therefore he takes on at least 50% of “life shit”. I also have all the nice fabrics and quiet that I want!

I would much rather do life with him than without him. That said, I am perfectly happy in my own company and he is the only other human I can spend prolonged periods with (holidays don’t count!). If anything was to happen to him? I would quite happily live alone, I can see the advantages, particularly if you live with a man who is a lazy shite.

With my children.

I tend to think that's part of the reason the slacker in these situations does the slacking. I.e., they know that the victim will only make life harder for themselves if they escape. Staying put is the least-worst option.
In addition a situation like this leaves the victim feeling overloaded/stressed/resentful all of which makes it harder to weigh things up objectively & plan ahead.
Even so, please start resisting @MermaidMummy06 stop doing things for him, little by little, boil him like a frog.

No way!

I only ever lived by myself once and absolutely hated it.

No, I would get very existential and depressed if I lived alone.

I LOVE being alone and crave it, but if I was home alone for more than a day or so then I stay home and would become an unhappy recluse very very quickly.

Yes, definitely.

DH is good company and he does his share around the house so I have nothing to complain about really, but I think I’m just a natural loner. I feel so much more peaceful when I’m alone in my own space. My mental health has never been better than during the two years I spent living alone in my own house.

My dad is like that. Has never done anything for himself. He has never had a bank account. DM as always managed his finances... wages, and now pension. He has never gone clothes shopping once in his life. HIs mum, then my mum.... they have done it for him.
DM is not happy. She is a pensioner but still works so she had time out the house. She has savings, ISAs etc all over the place but if she left DF, he would get half and drink it away. So she stays.
DF was in hospital for a few days last year, and DM's smart watch said she had the the best quality sleep.

Dear God what is the point of being with someone like this?