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To think we romanticise people buying houses with huge parental deposits?

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BeCalmNavyTurtle · 18/12/2025 15:37

Good for them, truly. But AIBU to think the media and influencers present it as personal achievement when it’s really generational wealth doing the heavy lifting?

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JamMam11 · 18/12/2025 15:47

WulyJmpr · 18/12/2025 15:43

I suppose they may care as boomers drawing down pensions early etc to give to their kids actively increases house prices.

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Such is the economy though, we have had years of buy to let pushing house prices through the absolute roof so this is just another thing doing it. I appreciate it’s frustrating but honestly his post is just an excuse to be pissy that some parents can and do help their children and some can’t or don’t. As it’s always been, surely everyone who can help their children should? You always want better for them than you had, I don’t think this is wrong at all.

Snorlaxo · 18/12/2025 15:45

I disagree.

I think that making/saving enough money to offer your child(ren) house deposit(s) could be romanticized as it could be seen as an achievement.

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BeCalmNavyTurtle · 18/12/2025 15:44

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/12/2025 15:39

How can it be presented as personal achievement?

They are just very lucky!

That’s exactly my point. What I’m reacting to is the way these stories are sometimes framed or received, where the focus is on the individual’s hard work, discipline or “getting on the ladder”, while the parental help is treated as a footnote rather than the main enabling factor. So not that everyone sees it as a personal achievement but that the wider narrative often downplays how decisive generational wealth actually is.

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WulyJmpr · 18/12/2025 15:43

JamMam11 · 18/12/2025 15:41

“Good for them, truly” but actually not and here is why I think so 🙄
Jealous much? Let people live. As long as they aren’t buying a house with your money why do you give a hoot?

I suppose they may care as boomers drawing down pensions early etc to give to their kids actively increases house prices.

OttersMayHaveShifted · 18/12/2025 15:42

Romanticise? In what way? I don't think I've ever seen it described as an achievement unless it's through self-earned money.

ElfieOnTheShelfie · 18/12/2025 15:42

An achievement for the parents, you mean? How could it be an achievement for their offspring?

JamMam11 · 18/12/2025 15:41

“Good for them, truly” but actually not and here is why I think so 🙄
Jealous much? Let people live. As long as they aren’t buying a house with your money why do you give a hoot?

Soony · 18/12/2025 15:40

I've never thought it was romanticised or classed as an achievement.
It's divisive for sure, more so in the SE where home ownership is very difficult without it. Lots of resentment and envy among those who didn't get parental help.
I suspect it's always been a thing, albeit on a smaller scale, that some parents will give what they can to help their children and others don't or can't.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 18/12/2025 15:40

I don’t think what you are describing is the romanticisation of buying from parental wealth. It’s the misrepresentation, together with giving the buyers undue admiration for what is not really their own achievement.

gogomomo2 · 18/12/2025 15:40

I don’t think anyone does, if anything it’s those who do it without help that are praised (and I know several young people in their 20’s that have bought houses with no help, by working really hard and having 2nd jobs on top

WulyJmpr · 18/12/2025 15:39

If anything it's seen as, at best, totally cringe or, at worst, some kind of crime.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/12/2025 15:39

How can it be presented as personal achievement?

They are just very lucky!

SwedishEdith · 18/12/2025 15:38

I've never heard anyone romanticise this at all.