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To ask what you think to head teacher saying this

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EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 11:22

I work in a school, as a TA. And over heard a child saying to the head teacher that they’d forgotten her name. And she said to him ‘’but I’m not the most important person here’’ not in a jokey way either. Then she looked over at me in a way like she was looking down at me.

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VickyEadieofThigh · 18/12/2025 13:40

EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:39

Well, no I don’t feel appreciated and some others don’t

Ah, you have issues with the headteacher and were looking for more...

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EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:39

Well, no I don’t feel appreciated and some others don’t

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worrisomeasset · 18/12/2025 13:38

If a child in one of my classes said they couldn't remember my name, I could see myself replying in mock horror along the lines of "but I'm the most important person in the room!" It's called a J O K E.

As for 'she looked over at me in a way like she was looking down at me", what did she actually do with her face to give you that idea?

BringBackCatsEyes · 18/12/2025 13:35

EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:15

She said as if to say, how could he have forgot her name. She’s the most important

I don't really understand what you're trying to explain, but the head teacher pretty much is the most important person in the school.

Do you think the Head believes that YOU think you're the most important person and was putting you in your place?

Applespearsandpeaches · 18/12/2025 13:33

EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:15

She said as if to say, how could he have forgot her name. She’s the most important

To be honest unless this child has disabilities, just arrived last week or maybe is in nursery class I’d be a bit surprised if they didn’t know the headteachers name!

She made an off the cuff remark probably in surprise, maybe not the absolutely best judged comment in the world but come on, you’ve never said anything even slightly off in your time in school?!

PigeonsandSquirrels · 18/12/2025 13:29

I mean… she’s the head teacher and you’re the TA.

You are her employee/subordinate so even if she is looking ‘down’ at you… that is in fact your position in the hierarchy. So I don’t see an issue.

It’s not like she insulted you she made a joke with a child and then looked at you.

SparkleSpriteDust · 18/12/2025 13:23

I would think they were very full of themselves.

BadgernTheGarden · 18/12/2025 13:22

EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 11:22

I work in a school, as a TA. And over heard a child saying to the head teacher that they’d forgotten her name. And she said to him ‘’but I’m not the most important person here’’ not in a jokey way either. Then she looked over at me in a way like she was looking down at me.

Should that be, 'I am the most important person here'? I don't understand.

ClawedButler · 18/12/2025 13:21

Kindly, I think you're projecting your own feelings onto this non-event.

Do you feel under-appreciated?
Do you feel you could do more?
Do you have anything you'd like to achieve in your job?

SilenceInside · 18/12/2025 13:19

I think that nothing that was said nor any look was any kind of a dig at you.

NotForTheMoneyandNotForTheApplause · 18/12/2025 13:18

EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:13

Sorry, it meant to say
’but I’m the most important person here’

So the complete opposite of what you originally posted?

Thatsalineallright · 18/12/2025 13:18

You take offence easily and you're not very good at explaining things... Is this the job for you? Working with kids you need a thick skin!

GinAndJuice99 · 18/12/2025 13:17

In that case the head was humorously teasing the child.

VickyEadieofThigh · 18/12/2025 13:16

EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:15

She said as if to say, how could he have forgot her name. She’s the most important

i think it's been a very long term, you're tired and you need to get a grip.

Original poster
EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:15

She said as if to say, how could he have forgot her name. She’s the most important

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Original poster
EmilyyH9 · 18/12/2025 13:13

Sorry, it meant to say
’but I’m the most important person here’

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Celestialmoods · 18/12/2025 12:19

What’s the problem? You sound like you’re looking for one.

KilliMonjaro · 18/12/2025 12:18

Eh?

surreygirly · 18/12/2025 12:13

This is a problem ?
You actually came here to post this?
Really
The world has gone mad
Totally mad
Barking mad

arethereanyleftatall · 18/12/2025 11:58

Actually, is this a reverse? Are you the HT and were being kind but that TA has bizarrely taken offence?

TootsMaHoots · 18/12/2025 11:57
Confused

You have made a whole lot of nothing out of something there.

AmIthatSpringy · 18/12/2025 11:57

no idea what your issue is, to be honest

Purpleharlow · 18/12/2025 11:55

Eh?

ColdAsAWitches · 18/12/2025 11:54

Absolute batshit. There is no way to interpret that comment as looking down at you.

IceIceSlippyIce · 18/12/2025 11:54

Agree with those saying she looked at you as an example of an important person in the school.