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To have let this women know her lights were on

63 replies

gigbroken · 18/12/2025 09:18

I parked up in Tesco park and in the car next to me was a women eating a sandwich but her car headlights were on. When I come back out after doing my shopping she was still there with the lights still on. I assumed she'd forgotten to turn them off and motioned for her to roll down the window and I told her that her lights were on and they might drain her battery.

She responded by telling me to 'f off and mind your own business'. Was I wrong? I just thought I'd want someone to tell me. It's really not that serious

OP posts:
AzureCats · 18/12/2025 09:31

Karma will get her when she forgets and leaves them on overnight. Hopefully on a cold frosty morning so her battery is dead flat and she's in a rush somewhere. 🎻

CoatiCutie · 18/12/2025 09:29

Was her car switched on, how old was it? My car has auto lights, I never manually switch them on or off.

I would be pissed off to be disturbed too - if I'm sat in a car park eating, then I obviously need some damn space that I can't get elsewhere

SuePlarr · 18/12/2025 09:26

Merry Christmas OP, I would have thanked you in that situation.

Tinkerbellthefairy · 18/12/2025 09:25

I wouldn’t have said anything. 15 mins is unlikely to flatten a decent battery.

SumatraTa · 18/12/2025 09:24

Bold of you to assume I got a membership.

colddarkdarkcold · 18/12/2025 09:23

Yeah, that was ridiculously rude.

honestly though, I’d think it. I wouldn’t dream of saying it but I’d think it.

noidea69 · 18/12/2025 09:22

I wouldn't have bothered to be honest.

She was probably someone who just wanted 15 minutes peace.

UxmalFan · 18/12/2025 09:22

It's exactly what I would have done. I love helping strangers and being helped by them. But sometimes it isn't appreciated. She was rude. Perhaps she was having a bad day and your comment felt like criticism.

gigbroken · 18/12/2025 09:22

SumatraTa · 18/12/2025 09:21

If I'm eating a sandwich at a Tesco car park or means I don't have my shit together. I wouldn't want to be disturbed either

So you would be happy waiting to RAC/ AA to jump start your car because your batteries dead instead??/

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JudgeBread · 18/12/2025 09:21

If it's not that serious why are you still thinking about it?

You really don't need other people's permission to acknowledge that yes, she was rude. People can be sometimes. Life goes on.

PegDope · 18/12/2025 09:21

What is wrong with people?????

You were trying to do a nice thing OP. She was incredibly rude.

SumatraTa · 18/12/2025 09:21

If I'm eating a sandwich at a Tesco car park or means I don't have my shit together. I wouldn't want to be disturbed either

Ddakji · 18/12/2025 09:19

I wouldn’t have said anything but she was unnecessarily rude.

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