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To not give the postman a Christmas bung

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MurkyMo · 18/12/2025 06:38

...to not give the postman a Christmas card with a fiver in it. Husband wants to but I say no. As for the bin men, not a chance !

What do you do?

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itbemay1 · 18/12/2025 21:37

We always give the postie a card with £10 in. Ours is brilliant! Loves a chat and great for a local gossip!

Redandwhiterose · 18/12/2025 21:36

ohtowinthelottery · 18/12/2025 21:29

@Redandwhiterose I do tip certain people who give a good service but sadly the Postman doesn't fall into that category these days.
On the few days that they do deliver it is not unusual for us to have next doors mail mixed in with ours or in fact only their mail put through the letterbox. And after having to cancel my credit card due to a fraud of unknown origin a few weeks ago, I was not impressed that one of my neighbours delivered my post which included my replacement credit card as a batch of our mail had been delivered to his house.

Agree thats annoying, it sounds like very bad sorting.
Where I live there have been so many new houses built that the postman can no longer complete the rounds each day so they have to stagger what they take out. The post office hasn't employed extra staff.
In 20 years I'm told that this is the worst Xmas for post volume. I've had delays in parcels since the beginning of November.

RessicaJabbit · 18/12/2025 21:34

Notmyreality · 18/12/2025 06:47

No tips here. They are doing the job they are paid to do. Why would I tip them? I don’t tip the people on the checkout at Tesco or the people behind the counter at any of a hundred shops I go in. Or my Evri driver or my Amazon driver(s)…..

You don't give tips to anyone ever as a thank you?

hipposcanweartutus · 18/12/2025 21:30

We tip our postman because he is amazing! We moved house to the next road and it all got very complicated (several redirections in place in different names!) and he just knows what post is ours and delivers it to us. He is one in a million!

ohtowinthelottery · 18/12/2025 21:29

@Redandwhiterose I do tip certain people who give a good service but sadly the Postman doesn't fall into that category these days.
On the few days that they do deliver it is not unusual for us to have next doors mail mixed in with ours or in fact only their mail put through the letterbox. And after having to cancel my credit card due to a fraud of unknown origin a few weeks ago, I was not impressed that one of my neighbours delivered my post which included my replacement credit card as a batch of our mail had been delivered to his house.

Autumngirl312 · 18/12/2025 21:28

We don't have a regular postie any more, but I did leave a card with a fiver in for my milkman - he's only a young lad and he's out in all weathers at all hours. I have left a card and chocolate for my postie a long while ago when we had a consistent delivery guy though.

theyrenotfeedingtheadults · 18/12/2025 21:20

I find the whole concept of tipping posties and bin men completely bizarre. Hardly ever see a postie, and bin men are different people every time. I’ll give my hairdresser and beautician a bottle of wine or £10 each though as I see them regularly throughout the year.

Redandwhiterose · 18/12/2025 21:20

One of the nicer things about having a little spare cash is being able to tip people I find. It gives me satisfaction to show my gratitude to someone who is pulling out all the stops to do a good service and since I have friends in retail, postal service and nursing I know that it is enormously appreciated. If you are working a 6 day week of 12 hour plus shifts in the rain to deliver Christmas despite the enormous backlog of mail that tip is much appreciated

mummybear35 · 18/12/2025 21:19

I used to when I’d get daily posts and the same postie…now I’m lucky if postie (several different ones sometimes) cones once or trice a week! Lots of mail delivered late despite having first class stamp on them and lots of mail lost..post at times flung near post box as opposed to IN postbox so if raining, post gets wet…so no, there will be no tips this year 😒

cockandbullstories · 18/12/2025 20:25

Zov · 18/12/2025 14:22

Exactly. Apart from being out of date, and having no place in the 21st century, tipping is quite patronising. It kind of screams 'oh here you are you poor lamb, have five pounds from me, coz I know you are poorer than me..,' Wink

That's such a sad attitude.

user1492757084 · 18/12/2025 20:24

It's a yearly Christmas gift, not a tip.

They leave us a card and wrapped toffee, we leave a card and small gift of cash..

aredrosegrewup · 18/12/2025 18:31

Notmyreality · 18/12/2025 06:48

That’s just you making a statement look at us we have money to burn.

Projection much?

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CluelessAboutBiology · 18/12/2025 18:11

I leave beer/chocolates/biscuits for the bin men. They do a job that very few people want to do - but are happy to complain about - it’s very poorly paid, they’re outside in all weathers, no matter how hot, cold or wet it is.

i don’t give them cash tips (although I know others do) as they’re not supposed to accept any gratuities/gifts/tips and I wouldn’t want to put them in an awkward position or get them in trouble.

Fbfbfvfvv · 18/12/2025 18:07

My postie barely delivers anything, never see them on the street anymore, wouldn’t even know if we had a regular one or not. What I do know is I’ve had a lot of lost mail this year, so no, I won’t be giving mine a tip.

BringBackCatsEyes · 18/12/2025 18:02

TryingAgainAgainAgain · 18/12/2025 17:29

You have rubbish that has sat in your bins for up to a couple of months?!

I could easily only get my black bin and dry recycled emptied every couple of months. There is nothing that would go off in there. I guess after many, many months it would degrade and turn to mush.
The food bin....now that would be grim!

TryingAgainAgainAgain · 18/12/2025 17:29

Friendlygingercat · 18/12/2025 17:04

I give my regular postie a cash gift. However Im in business and he has done me a few extra favours over the years. I dont tip the bin men because I am single and only put the bins out every couple of months when they are full so I dont "know" the bin men.

You have rubbish that has sat in your bins for up to a couple of months?!

Friendlygingercat · 18/12/2025 17:04

I give my regular postie a cash gift. However Im in business and he has done me a few extra favours over the years. I dont tip the bin men because I am single and only put the bins out every couple of months when they are full so I dont "know" the bin men.

ohtowinthelottery · 18/12/2025 16:31

I haven't tipped the postman since we last had a permanent one and that was about 20 years ago.
We currently only get letter deliveries twice a week and that's not because there's no letters for us, it's because they only deliver packets/parcels every day and then you get a batch of letters on the day you do get a delivery.
I've never tipped the binmen. We've got wheely bins which we have to wheel to the edge of the drive. They move them about 2 meters onto the truck and then randomly scatter the streets bins back on the pavement.
Growing up, binmen provided a back yard/garden service where they came and collected your non wheeled bin from it's storage place, took the lid off, hoicked it onto their back and carried it around the front to the road to empty, before returning it to the back of your house and putting the lid back on. Now that was worthy of a tip!

winterbluess · 18/12/2025 16:30

Never even thought about tipping the postman tbh 🙄
I give the binmen a tenner though because they always take all my extra bags 😂

Luxio · 18/12/2025 16:15

HugglesAndSnuggles · 18/12/2025 15:31

Maybe no-one writes to you? That being said, we don’t tip either.

It's not because there is no post it's because they limit the deliveries to each street so they only deliver regardless of how many letters a few times a week. It's been happening for years and we're not even a rural area, quite the opposite. I'm always amazed when other areas actually have 5 days of deliveries.

HugglesAndSnuggles · 18/12/2025 15:31

Luxio · 18/12/2025 06:42

No Christmas tips here. We're lucky to get post more than twice a week at most and on about 3 occasions this year our whole street has been missed during routine bin collections.

Maybe no-one writes to you? That being said, we don’t tip either.

BethBynnag86 · 18/12/2025 15:30

When I was a child, back in the 60's, I remember the binmen and the window cleaner actually knocking on the door asking for tips at Christmas! They used to refer to it as the 'Christmas Box'.

MurkyMo · 18/12/2025 15:20

Zov · 18/12/2025 14:19

Sounds like they are. (And judging by how angry they are, it sounds like most people haven't given them a Christmas tip this year!) 😬

Never mind a Christmas bung!

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