House guest unwell — should they stay or leave?

You are suggesting the vomiting guest goes to a Travelodge? To potentially infect dozens of people? Jesus wept. Moving her out of the house now is not going to prevent the next guests catching it when they arrive at OP's house unless some serious bleaching and airing out goes on. The home owners will already be infected by that point anyway if it's noro.

I wonder if the OP is not coming back because they have sent the poor girl home and/or are going ahead with all their festivities without considering other people could get infected too?

You should cancel your other plans and the poor girl should be allowed to rest up at your house, imagine her having to travel like that 😱

As awful and disappointing as it is, I think you should leave her at yours to recuperate and cancel all your other plans. If it's noro you do not want to be spreading that around. You'll ruin things for possibly many many more people if you go ahead with plans.

What did you decide to do OP?

You HAVE to treat it as though it's a norovirus unless you're certain it's not something else. (If you absolutely must know, ask your GP if they will send a stool sample for testing).

Plenty of hand washing, hand sanitiser and cleaning surfaces likely to be touched with a bleach solution should prevent its spread, but it's almost inevitable that your son will get it, if it's a viral illness.

That’s gross. Why go through all that rather than stay in bed and run to the loo as required?

I wouldn't in the least be offended if the family offered to pay for me to stay elsewhere, or I could afford it myself, especially if they had other family who might be old/ill/pregnant etc visiting. I'd probably want to go, not meet my potential in-laws (?) when I've got that kind of bug, because if I was very young and healthy (and on the plus side, that would mean I'd throw it off soon, and want to go as I'd still be a risk to others), it's far less of a threat to me. Now whether I'd be well enough to go to a hotel/travel home is another matter. Personally I'd have cancelled coming to you at the first sign of that bug, but if there were no signs until I had already arrived, that's just how it is. So you're not unreasonable to gently suggest, but the fact she hasn't already left suggests she doesn't feel like she could cope to leave. Either that, or it's very strange, as who would want to stay in that situation if they didn't have to?

@grittie hasn't come back so IMO this is a dodgy thread

Wow. Just wow. Maybe take a moment and think about what you’ve said. If it was your husband that was ill would you evict him to the local premier inn?
let’s hope for her sake that the relationship fizzles out so she has a chance of finding a decent mother in law.

I don't see how she'd be comfortable travelling or driving that much if she was sick. She's already ill so the horse has bolted as far as the possibility she's passed it on goes.

I think you can't really make someone violently ill leave the house surely?

Norovirus is doing the rounds at the moment.
My friend has been so sick with it.
If there was any chance it is that, I would be avoiding it.

The poor girl. Just imagine this was your daughter. Not a nice way to spend time with your potential in laws.

Id leave her lots of liquids, ask her kindly to stay in her room / hopefully en-suite bathroom until she feels better, I’d get some tummy friendly foods and electrolytes to leave for her to heat up when you go out over the next few days and she’s under no obligation to join you until she feels upto it

When she’s feeling better ask her if she wants to wash some clothes.

If there is a local travel lodge or a nice hotel locally they might be willing to move there (if it was me I would be desperate to get out of potential in-
laws house if I was that ill), but I can't see how it won't sound rude to ask. Could you suggest it to your DS and get him to present it as his idea, more privacy, their own bathroom, etc. Rather than mum and Dad don't want us here. But the proper thing to do is look after her and warn the other guests, she will probably prefer to stay in her room if she's ill, but if it's a bug DS has probably got it already and likely you too.

Personally I wouldn't want to be going near a house with it

With WHAT though? We have no idea what the cause is?

Yes I'm in agreement with you too💚

Yes completely concur with you & also if they were going to pick up the bug from her, they most likely would've already picked it up by now anyway
I can't imagine recommending someone drive for 4 hours whilst so unwell 💚

But shit all over you and your clothes, if a mattress protector is necessary? The stench must be intolerable.

Your DH is unkind and wrong.

Oh I certainly have. I carry a superking mattress protector with plastic waterproof backing. The entire car seat and backrest and even floor can be covered. So no shit on car.

A very difficult one.
There is an awful dose going.
I don't think you can, maybe offer to put them up in a hotel?

But tell family and give them a choice.
Personally I wouldn't want to be going near a house with it.

Is Panto a thing outside the UK? I assumed she was in the UK because of that.
Hopefully, the whole house isn’t awash with vomit by now 🤮

I am baffled by this thread. OP posted this morning and said that the GF had been sick all night.

Maybe she ate too much rich food? Drank too much? Is pregnant? Isn't used to OPs cooking? Is nervous about staying in a strange house for Christmas? Has social anxiety? None of us know

Or, maybe, she has a stomach bug. So she just needs to keep to herself and implement sensible hygiene precautions (along with the rest of the household).

Some of the reactions on this thread are insane. She hasn't been diagnosed with Ebola (or, indeed with anything). People get "bugs" sometimes although everyone on MN definitely has Norovirus Ask her not to shit/vomit into anyone else's mouth. Or maybe OP should just burn their house down to be on the "safe side".

If she wanted to go home she would have gone.

Ahh poor girl, vomiting bugs are THE worst! She’s probably mortified it being at her boyfriend’s house too. I don’t think it’s acceptable to expect her to travel 4 hours with a sickness bug as it’s very likely making an exit from the opposite end too.. the only reasonable situation here is she stays, self isolated as much as possible and you relocate the event to another relatives house or cancel altogether you absolutely cannot invite people into a house with a sickness bug, especially not with younger children etc I’d be furious if I went to someone’s house a week before Christmas with my children and they didn’t tell me their was a violent sickness bug in the household. Xx