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Christmas dinner police

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Namechangesecretsignature · 18/12/2025 00:07

Can’t sleep and endlessly reading MN. Oh how I loathe the Christmas dinner police. Policing what “should” be on a Christmas dinner, calling it Christmas lunch (urgh), all the formalities and “musts”. Reminds me of my ex DP who was aghast for about 4 years straight that no one in my family liked turkey so we had beef for Xmas. His mother called my mother to clarify it was true (after a drink) and I’d go round to theirs over the Christmas period and the whole (large) family would be saying things like “I can’t believe you don’t have turkey on Christmas dinner.” “It’s not Christmas dinner without” “without turkey it’s tasteless” (????) “you must buy a turkey and a ham for Xmas even if it doesn’t get ate its tradtition” from the same people who buy 3 turkeys (Xmas day, New Year’s Day redo, then another on Easter(!!!!))

anyway I digress, I loathe it!

OP posts:
Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 19/12/2025 10:18

Aluna · 19/12/2025 10:12

London is a big place.

Grin
Aluna · 19/12/2025 10:13

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 19/12/2025 09:57

You ask why - because they’re very tasty! Hot or cold.
They’ve been a Thing for Christmas dinner for many decades, but when I was a child they were just called ‘bacon-wrapped sausages’. The ‘pigs in blankets’ term came later.

Pigs in blankets are meh, never understood the obsession with them. We have herby chipolatas and devils on horseback

Aluna · 19/12/2025 10:12

mydogisthebest · 19/12/2025 09:52

Never used the word supper.

Mum and dad said "breakfast, lunch, tea" so I have followed. DH's parents the same. I was born in North London and DH in South London.

Never known anyone to call their evening meal supper. Some call it dinner but most call it tea

London is a big place.

Alondra · 19/12/2025 10:12

I can't say I've seen threads with the "Christmas police". I've posted a typical Australian menu on MN, and no one bat an eyelid. I also mentioned much I dislike turkey and hate Brussels sprouts on a thread where 90% of posters loved them to pieces, and no one cared 😁

Honestly, I think the majority of posters, with few exceptions, understand that we all have different tastes, come from different cultures/countries, and traditions may be great, but are there to be broken if your family's taste buds want something different.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/12/2025 10:00

I’m a very strong believer that everyone should do what makes them happy (as long as it’s not hurting anyone else - but what you eat for Christmas dinner isn’t going to do that!)

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 19/12/2025 09:57

isthismylifenow · 19/12/2025 06:27

I live in another country and I see that folk here take their Christmas food very seriously.

It is not like that everywhere. We have a more go with the flow attitude.

But one thing that is on every single thread is pigs in blankets. I have never eaten one in my whole life, but there seems to be an obsession with them. Why? They sound more like a breakfast item to me.

You ask why - because they’re very tasty! Hot or cold.
They’ve been a Thing for Christmas dinner for many decades, but when I was a child they were just called ‘bacon-wrapped sausages’. The ‘pigs in blankets’ term came later.

StationSquare · 19/12/2025 09:56

if I turned up for someone's for Christmas dinner (at lunch time) and it wasn't turkey I would be put out, but if I don't have to partake, do as you will.

In Essex, at school in the 1970s/80s in the register you were "packed lunch" or "school dinners" (or "home") which I think proves that dinner is the hot main meal, whenever you eat it!

mydogisthebest · 19/12/2025 09:52

Aluna · 19/12/2025 09:46

I’m a lifelong Londoner. I say breakfast, lunch, supper. Never heard any Londoner say tea - to me that’s a northernism.

Tea is a cup of tea and cake around 4pm.

Dinner is only used for formal evening meals either people dining with you or dining out.

Edited

Never used the word supper.

Mum and dad said "breakfast, lunch, tea" so I have followed. DH's parents the same. I was born in North London and DH in South London.

Never known anyone to call their evening meal supper. Some call it dinner but most call it tea

mydogisthebest · 19/12/2025 09:50

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 19/12/2025 09:45

Also a Londoner. It’s breakfast, lunch and supper, unless you have people round for dinner, in which case it’s a dinner party (and you’re still living in the Eighties). Tea is at about half past three in the afternoon and is a cup of tea and cucumber sandwiches and a slice of Battenberg.

I never use the word supper. To me supper is something you eat not long before you go to bed which is something I never do.

Aluna · 19/12/2025 09:49

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 19/12/2025 09:45

Also a Londoner. It’s breakfast, lunch and supper, unless you have people round for dinner, in which case it’s a dinner party (and you’re still living in the Eighties). Tea is at about half past three in the afternoon and is a cup of tea and cucumber sandwiches and a slice of Battenberg.

Exactly.

Aluna · 19/12/2025 09:46

mydogisthebest · 19/12/2025 09:23

Londoner here. It's breakfast, lunch and tea. DH (also a Londoner) says the same

I’m a lifelong Londoner. I say breakfast, lunch, supper. Never heard any Londoner say tea - to me that’s a northernism.

Tea is a cup of tea and cake around 4pm.

Dinner is only used for formal evening meals either people dining with you or dining out.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 19/12/2025 09:45

mydogisthebest · 19/12/2025 09:23

Londoner here. It's breakfast, lunch and tea. DH (also a Londoner) says the same

Also a Londoner. It’s breakfast, lunch and supper, unless you have people round for dinner, in which case it’s a dinner party (and you’re still living in the Eighties). Tea is at about half past three in the afternoon and is a cup of tea and cucumber sandwiches and a slice of Battenberg.

WilfredsPies · 19/12/2025 09:43

isthismylifenow · 19/12/2025 06:27

I live in another country and I see that folk here take their Christmas food very seriously.

It is not like that everywhere. We have a more go with the flow attitude.

But one thing that is on every single thread is pigs in blankets. I have never eaten one in my whole life, but there seems to be an obsession with them. Why? They sound more like a breakfast item to me.

Oooh! I know I said I was pretty relaxed about Christmas Dinner, but you’re going too far! Back away from the pigs!

And everyone knows that Breakfast on Christmas Day is either a selection bix, a Terrys Chocolate Orange or some concoction involving bagels, cream cheese, scrambled eggs and salmon. There is no fourth option!

Aluna · 19/12/2025 09:42

AmateurDad · 18/12/2025 23:45

And if Yorkshire puddings (as a food stuff and a name) are bad (which they undoubtedly are), the word ‘Yorkshires’ is from the fiery depths of hell

Agreed.

mydogisthebest · 19/12/2025 09:23

MasterBeth · 18/12/2025 22:49

Lunch is a light meal. Dinner is the main meal. Tea is a light meal. Supper is a light meal or snack.

A big roast meal is Christmas dinner whether you have it at lunchtime or teatime.

Londoner here. It's breakfast, lunch and tea. DH (also a Londoner) says the same

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/12/2025 07:23

AmateurDad · 18/12/2025 23:45

And if Yorkshire puddings (as a food stuff and a name) are bad (which they undoubtedly are), the word ‘Yorkshires’ is from the fiery depths of hell

Yorkies?

(Please don’t @ me about chocolate or happy little dogs.)

isthismylifenow · 19/12/2025 06:27

I live in another country and I see that folk here take their Christmas food very seriously.

It is not like that everywhere. We have a more go with the flow attitude.

But one thing that is on every single thread is pigs in blankets. I have never eaten one in my whole life, but there seems to be an obsession with them. Why? They sound more like a breakfast item to me.

JingleMyBellsChristmasSmells · 19/12/2025 06:26

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 19/12/2025 06:10

Oh, you big meanie! 🤣

I like my meat already dead. That way, I can reason well, it's dead anyway! Doesn't make any difference now!

I know, I know!
I like to think they had a good life before they were 'despatched'. Believe it or not I have often thought of going veggie, mainly because I wholeheartedly disagree with the way supermarkets have taken control of farming in this country! However that's a thread by itself so I will stop now.

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 19/12/2025 06:10

JingleMyBellsChristmasSmells · 19/12/2025 06:06

Oooh I'm definitely having notions! I grew up eating goose, venison, veal etc etc. I feel very posh now!
In reality I grew up on a working farm! If goose was required for the Christmas plate one simply selected one and dealt with it before the day🤣

Oh, you big meanie! 🤣

I like my meat already dead. That way, I can reason well, it's dead anyway! Doesn't make any difference now!

JingleMyBellsChristmasSmells · 19/12/2025 06:06

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 18/12/2025 19:34

Oh, they are SO having notions! The most stuck-up people I know have goose. When you just know they're secretly DYING for turkey but they have to be all posh.

Oooh I'm definitely having notions! I grew up eating goose, venison, veal etc etc. I feel very posh now!
In reality I grew up on a working farm! If goose was required for the Christmas plate one simply selected one and dealt with it before the day🤣

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 19/12/2025 06:01

@WilfredsPies We love every single bit of Christmas in our house, because we eat, drink and do exactly what makes us happy

Happy? HAPPY? What's happy got to do with it? For one day, you should have turkey with very specific accompaniments no matter how miserable it makes you! It's TRADITION! You have 364 days of the year to eat wellies stuffed with beef, like some people on here.

Should be called Mumsnut.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 19/12/2025 05:55

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 19/12/2025 00:45

I don't care! We haven't had turkey for years ( I do a beef Wellington because everyone prefers)
Its Christmas! You should have whatever people in your family love!
I do do a pre-Christmas dinner (Sunday dinner before Christmas)which is traditional turkey etc, but its not special enough for Christmas day!
Police away!

🫨 Weird, weird, weird!

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 19/12/2025 05:52

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 18/12/2025 19:42

Goose is soooo much nicer than turkey, and you can have all the usual lovely English Christmas stuffings and side dishes and sauces with it. I love it! Darn it, now I wish we could have it this year, but it is not to be!

You also need to have Christmas lessons!

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 19/12/2025 05:51

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/12/2025 19:35

We have goose, @NewNameforThisPost2025 - because it is delicious, and dh is not a fan of turkey.

You both need to go to Christmas lessons. 🤣

BebbanburgIsMine · 19/12/2025 05:41

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 01:08

My only gripe is when people have Yorkshire puddings on their Christmas dinner, now that IS shocking! Yorkshire puddings are gorgeous but they’re for roast beef and have never been part of Christmas dinner. I just don’t get why people stick to some of/all of the other traditions of stuffing, sprouts, roast potatoes etc and then shove yorkshires on?!?! Why don’t people know the difference between a Sunday roast and Christmas dinner?!

Yorkshires are for whenever you fancy them! There are no rules about eating as you like. I’ve never had turkey for Christmas dinner, why would I when I hate it?

We have chicken for Christmas, or occasionally beef, if I can afford it. I don’t do anything different for Christmas, it’s just a normal roast, and not something I cook all that often. To say some people don’t know the difference between them is very strange and quite offensive.

If DD and I fancied a beef stew or spaghetti bolognese that’s what we’d have!

The 25th of December is just a number on the calendar, and people can eat whatever they want.

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