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Christmas dinner police

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Namechangesecretsignature · 18/12/2025 00:07

Can’t sleep and endlessly reading MN. Oh how I loathe the Christmas dinner police. Policing what “should” be on a Christmas dinner, calling it Christmas lunch (urgh), all the formalities and “musts”. Reminds me of my ex DP who was aghast for about 4 years straight that no one in my family liked turkey so we had beef for Xmas. His mother called my mother to clarify it was true (after a drink) and I’d go round to theirs over the Christmas period and the whole (large) family would be saying things like “I can’t believe you don’t have turkey on Christmas dinner.” “It’s not Christmas dinner without” “without turkey it’s tasteless” (????) “you must buy a turkey and a ham for Xmas even if it doesn’t get ate its tradtition” from the same people who buy 3 turkeys (Xmas day, New Year’s Day redo, then another on Easter(!!!!))

anyway I digress, I loathe it!

OP posts:
Soontobe60 · 18/12/2025 06:48

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 00:23

I don't wish to be unduly pedantic but unless you're eating in the evening it's most definitely Christmas lunch

Not if you’re Northern - it’s most definitely Christmas dinner no matter what time you sit down to eat 😂

Maraudingmarauders · 18/12/2025 06:44

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 01:08

My only gripe is when people have Yorkshire puddings on their Christmas dinner, now that IS shocking! Yorkshire puddings are gorgeous but they’re for roast beef and have never been part of Christmas dinner. I just don’t get why people stick to some of/all of the other traditions of stuffing, sprouts, roast potatoes etc and then shove yorkshires on?!?! Why don’t people know the difference between a Sunday roast and Christmas dinner?!

We have beef for our Christmas dinner so Yorkshires are definitely part of the meal….

OP I just ignore or join in with the scandal. We have beef every year now, previously had goose. If people are shocked we don’t have turkey (which I don’t find often these days) I just say “oh I know, scandalous isn’t it” and then talk about how nice and quick cooking a fillet of beef is compared to all day thinking about a turkey.

edited for a rogue apostrophe

Bamboozledbylife · 18/12/2025 06:42

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 00:23

I don't wish to be unduly pedantic but unless you're eating in the evening it's most definitely Christmas lunch

Well, you are being.

Sunflowermoonbeam · 18/12/2025 06:42

There are only three of us this year and my son and I are veggie so on actual Christmas day we've opted for (homemade) pizza and prosecco (lemonade for my son) for our Christmas main meal with a side of crispy roasties. We've done it before and it was amazing and liberating! People I've told are surprised but then enthusiastic for us. No doubt next year it will be a full roast again. In our house the rules are there are no rules. If I ate meat I'd certainly mix up my roast dinner choice each year!

ChopstickNovice · 18/12/2025 06:40

I hate turkey. This year it's honey glazed ham with Yorkshires and garlic bread (don't knock it til you have tried garlic bread dipped in gravy).

Mumtobabyhavoc · 18/12/2025 06:39

Lamb on Christmas Eve;
Duck Christmas Day.
left-overs of both on Boxing Day.

MurkyMo · 18/12/2025 06:32

People having pheasant or goose for Christmas dinner are just having notions! It must be turkey!

sickofbeingjudged · 18/12/2025 06:31

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 01:08

My only gripe is when people have Yorkshire puddings on their Christmas dinner, now that IS shocking! Yorkshire puddings are gorgeous but they’re for roast beef and have never been part of Christmas dinner. I just don’t get why people stick to some of/all of the other traditions of stuffing, sprouts, roast potatoes etc and then shove yorkshires on?!?! Why don’t people know the difference between a Sunday roast and Christmas dinner?!

We have beef for Christmas dinner!

MurkyMo · 18/12/2025 06:30

I must admit to being the Christmas dinner police. It's not Christmas dinner without bread sauce and sprouts! We need the Christmas dinner police or it all goes to pot

dinesaurrawr · 18/12/2025 06:30

I don’t like turkey, prefer beef or gammon or even chicken ! But this year we have FIL and he would be disappointed with no turkey lol

baubletime · 18/12/2025 06:17

I haven’t seen threads policing food but plenty on when people out their decorations up and more so when they take them down. Just let people be.

AquaForce · 18/12/2025 06:08

UncharteredWaters · 18/12/2025 05:42

My mother decided one year that no-one wanted the cocktail sausages/pigs in blankets!!!!!!

there was a mutiny on Xmas eve!!

we were all teenagers. It’s still referred too.

Oh, I'm sorry you had to go through that. The damage and trauma caused by one reckless decision......😂

Alpinette · 18/12/2025 05:52

UncharteredWaters · 18/12/2025 05:42

My mother decided one year that no-one wanted the cocktail sausages/pigs in blankets!!!!!!

there was a mutiny on Xmas eve!!

we were all teenagers. It’s still referred too.

I have a ‘no one wants xyz’ / ‘I don’t want xyz’ mother too. It cheers me to find I’m not alone. Usually used in ‘nobody could possibly eat any pudding’ context, with the undercurrent of unsaid ‘unless they are total pigs’. She gets overruled every year by us pigs.

UncharteredWaters · 18/12/2025 05:42

AquaForce · 18/12/2025 04:01

A few years ago my mother unilaterally decided that 'no one' (her) wants Xmas pud anymore. She served lime jelly. It nearly broke our family. Normal service was resumed the following year but the trust is gone. She's a loose cannon.....😧

My mother decided one year that no-one wanted the cocktail sausages/pigs in blankets!!!!!!

there was a mutiny on Xmas eve!!

we were all teenagers. It’s still referred too.

Nos4r2 · 18/12/2025 05:37

I don't care what people have for Christmas dinner ( its dinner not lunch ).
We have always had turkey, no Yorkshire puddings, though they are delicious.
I love the smell of turkey cooking in the oven, its the smell of Christmas to me.
Eat whatever you like, It's not as if I going to yours for Christmas so I have no say in put you have. Merry Christmas!🎅🤶

K0OLA1D · 18/12/2025 05:29

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 00:23

I don't wish to be unduly pedantic but unless you're eating in the evening it's most definitely Christmas lunch

I have my dinner at dinner time. Mid day 😉

CoastalCalm · 18/12/2025 05:26

We love Turkey , stock up when they’re reduced and often bemoan the lack of availability outside of Christmas / Easter time - one year we ended up with 8 in the chest freezer

ThePerfectWeekend · 18/12/2025 05:22

CherrieTomaties · 18/12/2025 00:25

Not unless your northern. Breakfast, dinner then tea. Lunch doesn’t exist.

Is North Yorkshire northern enough? Whilst I wouldn't have corrected the OP, we eat lunch and dinner in our house.

MaggieBsBoat · 18/12/2025 05:14

My in laws had eaten the same meal at Christmas for 40 years until I insisted that we hosted one year (to give poor MIL a break) and they loved something different. Now we alternate. I agree it’s ridiculous, for no real reason, to say anything is the way it should be for ever and ever just because that’s what you always done. This applies to pretty much anything. Change is vital.

Mothership4two · 18/12/2025 05:13

You have got to be a man @IainTorontoNSW

GooseberryGreen · 18/12/2025 05:10

My family was Irish and we say dinner and we do mean dinner in the evening. We're in the Antipodes so it's the middle of our summer. My husband doesn't like turkey or days spent eating turkey leftovers. I am just contemplating what we will have for dinner and toying with the idea of a beef wellington now that I have acquired a meat thermometer. Or perhaps lamb or fish. Nobody cares what I am planning to serve.

skilpadde · 18/12/2025 04:52

I hadn’t noticed any threads policing Christmas dinner / lunch.

But this thread appears to be doing a good job of filling that void.

Wynter25 · 18/12/2025 04:52

CherrieTomaties · 18/12/2025 00:25

Not unless your northern. Breakfast, dinner then tea. Lunch doesn’t exist.

Im northern and say lunch

IainTorontoNSW · 18/12/2025 04:50

As I'm in the Antipodes, where most states and territories call the middle of the day meal LUNCH or DINNER interchangeably and the evening/night meal can be called DINNER or TEA (depending on whether one's ancestors were British or mainland Europeans), you can call it what you like.

The post 1990s modern Australian "new tradition" is to have the protein part of the midday xmas meal include seafoods or fish. The out and out favourite choice for many families is prawns ... as many as you can afford.

There is still a rump of traditionalists out there who cover the old style protein foods of roast beef, legs of lamb and massive leg hams.

The years I feel like a change from seafood on an unseasonably cool or wet xmas day, I prefer a big grilled porterhouse or rib-eye beef steak with a garden salad.

(At 70 years old and xmas #71 only a week off now, I can say I've not ever eaten tasteless gawd-awful bl00dy turkey at xmas lunch/dinner. I can count on one hand all the times in my life I've ever eaten turkey other times of the year.)

But, I guess, the best thing about this xmas will be the Aussie team going 4-0 in the Boxing Day cricket test. It's 4pm on Day 2 of the 3rd test and England are deep in excreta and currently 0-2 in this series.

Suck it up, Englanders!

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 18/12/2025 04:40

Namechangesecretsignature · 18/12/2025 00:07

Can’t sleep and endlessly reading MN. Oh how I loathe the Christmas dinner police. Policing what “should” be on a Christmas dinner, calling it Christmas lunch (urgh), all the formalities and “musts”. Reminds me of my ex DP who was aghast for about 4 years straight that no one in my family liked turkey so we had beef for Xmas. His mother called my mother to clarify it was true (after a drink) and I’d go round to theirs over the Christmas period and the whole (large) family would be saying things like “I can’t believe you don’t have turkey on Christmas dinner.” “It’s not Christmas dinner without” “without turkey it’s tasteless” (????) “you must buy a turkey and a ham for Xmas even if it doesn’t get ate its tradtition” from the same people who buy 3 turkeys (Xmas day, New Year’s Day redo, then another on Easter(!!!!))

anyway I digress, I loathe it!

They’d have absolutely hated my family! We always had Mexican food for Christmas (spent several years living miles from the Mexican border - we make our own from scratch). Tacos, enchiladas, chips, guacamole - the only thing we “ordered out” was the tamales as Grna had a friend who would make them from scratch to sell over Christmas. I still have my Gran’s taco sauce recipe and I’m hoping to make it during this Christmas period.