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Love my husband but think I fancy another man?

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Hiits · 17/12/2025 23:51

So, I love my husband so much, I would never cheat on him. He works very long hours so I don’t have to work and can be here for the kids, we have 3 under 5, he lets me sleep in every weekend and lets me buy anything I want, never talks about money. Our money is ours, no matter who’s earned it.

He is a bit grumpy when he comes home as he’s tired from a 15 hour day. Hardly sleeps,
something I feel neglected.

Recently, I have found myself attracted to a school dad, I haven’t spoken to him, never would. I wouldn’t entertain anything. Is this strange? Is this not normal? Why have I felt like this when I love my husband so much?

OP posts:
Gowlett · 18/12/2025 00:04

It’s quite okay fancying a bloke who’s not your husband.
And for him, as well. As long as neither of you act on it.
Can you work on improving your own intimacy at all?

Mrsnothingthanks · 18/12/2025 00:04

He sounds like a great husband who must be exhausted supporting you all by working such long days. Doubt he's got much time for you so I can see why you might feel neglected, but that's the decision you both jointly made.

HopSpringsEternal · 18/12/2025 00:04

He needs to work less. You both need to spend time together. You need to ignore the crush. It will pass and you will think thank fuck I didn't act on that (many of us have been there).

SwedishEdith · 18/12/2025 00:01

A 15 hour day? That's not healthy. What does he do?

Icouldwriteabookonmydisastrouslife · 17/12/2025 23:59

i think you’re feeling neglected and maybe this attraction is coming from a place where you’re feeling something is missing in your relationship at home .
It’s dangerous and can escalate very quickly , don’t poke the bear … you’re just window shopping that is all , stay window shopping …

otherlineeyes · 17/12/2025 23:59

It’s a crush, it will pass

ForZanyAquaViewer · 17/12/2025 23:57

You’re allowed to find other people attractive. Tbh, I’m surprised this is the only time it’s ever happened to you.

Nothing to do with cheating or your love for your husband.

NearlyMonday · 17/12/2025 23:54

Don’t over think this, finding other people attractive just means you’re still alive! Just admire from a distance and no harm done!

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