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Is this really enough food? Fed up of DH’s tightness

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 19:55

To give some background, I live with DH and our DD. We have two sons who are at Uni and will be returning to ours ahead of the weekend for Christmas.

For the first night they are back, we thought it would be good to have party food so DH went out to get this earlier. We are both busy the next two days so this was the only opportunity - we also live very rurally so can’t just pop down the round for a shop.

He has come back with the following:

-2 lots of ‘3 for 2’ party food so 6 in total - things like breaded prawns and spring rolls. Not massive portions at all
-Two share bags of crisps
-Olives and a small pack of antipasto (salami etc)

Now, both DS’ are 6 foot plus rugby playing young men. They eat us out of house and home at the best of times. DD is really slender but has a healthy appetite too.

I don’t know what DH was thinking - I’d clearly said to buy double that amount of party food. Having discussed with him, it comes down to money which is ridiculous. He earns six figures which is complimented by my own salary and we have ample disposable income.

He maintains its sufficient food for the 5 of us. AIBU to disagree?

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:15

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 22:12

Has he bought any drinks to go with it? Personally we only drink water because we don’t drink calories, but perhaps some effervescent alcohol-free options might fill the tummies?

Kindly, this sounds a bit tragic. We are well stocked with booze fortunately - for his flaws, DH isn’t shy to purchase some fine French wine.

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aneelli · 17/12/2025 22:15

Defo not enough but can’t get over the fact that they won’t be served an actual meal, I’d feel sick eating all that frozen stuff. I can’t believe someone on six figures with lots of disposable income is denying his family eating well

Franjipanl8r · 17/12/2025 22:14

There’s nothing less attractive than a miserly man. Someone earning six figures and denying their kids and wife enough food to eat is the absolute pits.

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:14

shhblackbag · 17/12/2025 22:07

How unattractive. I'd tell your sons to eat before they come home, since their dad is too cheap to feed them properly. I'd be mortified.

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I’ve arranged a post Christmas spa day for me and a friend. Screw him, he can sort the food out in my absence and take the stick from the DC.

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ThePerfectTimeToPanic · 17/12/2025 22:13

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:11

DH is now claiming he doesn’t remember me saying how many items we’d need. I often wonder if he has got early onset dementia sometimes!

111 NOW!

Minjou · 17/12/2025 22:13

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 22:12

Has he bought any drinks to go with it? Personally we only drink water because we don’t drink calories, but perhaps some effervescent alcohol-free options might fill the tummies?

Or even better, alcohol.

Alycie · 17/12/2025 22:13

Definitely more food needed. Can’t you ask your boys to buy some groceries to bring on their way home? Xx

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 22:12

Has he bought any drinks to go with it? Personally we only drink water because we don’t drink calories, but perhaps some effervescent alcohol-free options might fill the tummies?

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:11

DH is now claiming he doesn’t remember me saying how many items we’d need. I often wonder if he has got early onset dementia sometimes!

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sprigatito · 17/12/2025 22:11

Chazbots · 17/12/2025 21:49

So this is only a symptom, not the issue....

If it's cycling, golf or fishing, then it's not outing. It's only if it's luging, medieval sword fighting, horse jousting or some other exceptionally niche sport would it be an issue.

Deeper problems by the sounds of it. Msg the DC and get them to shop on the way home.

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MSG the DC 😱😱😱

I knew MN was a hotbed of wanton gluttony, but never did I think I would see a mother advised to roll her children in Chinese seasoning and serve them up as dinner!

Wow. Just…wow.

Whereismyfleeceblanket · 17/12/2025 22:09

Nuts and seeds? They're op's dc not her budgies....

ThePerfectTimeToPanic · 17/12/2025 22:08

Taweofterror · 17/12/2025 21:51

Ok, now I know you're taking the piss

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It was obvious from the first post. I can’t believe some posters are taking it seriously. They must be new.

Minjou · 17/12/2025 22:08

That's a perfect amount of food.

For nibbles either drinks before an actual meal. If that's all you give them I'd advise having a Dominoes menu ready to dial as well....

shhblackbag · 17/12/2025 22:07

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 21:39

He is tight with money these days unless it’s to do with his (outing) hobby.

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How unattractive. I'd tell your sons to eat before they come home, since their dad is too cheap to feed them properly. I'd be mortified.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/12/2025 22:07

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:05

I’m peri so not much is happening in that department these days.

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💐💐

Can he not go back to the shops in the morning? I know youre rural but do you not drive?

Or i'd ask the sons to pick up a load of food and send them the money?? x

Stucknstoopit · 17/12/2025 22:06

ColinOfficeTrolley · 17/12/2025 20:03

Who the flip wants lentil salad at Christmas?

Or indeed any time?

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:05

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/12/2025 22:04

Is he as selfish in bed as he is in life op? If so, ltb xx

I’m peri so not much is happening in that department these days.

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/12/2025 22:04

Is he as selfish in bed as he is in life op? If so, ltb xx

AngelicKaty · 17/12/2025 22:03

@ChristmasfoodQ YANBU OP. I'd be livid with him - I hate mean people (even more so when it's not justifiable in any way). On the night, plate up the food for you and DC and give old tight-wad an air sandwich!

Terrier2046 · 17/12/2025 22:01

Cancel the cheque OP.

Justchilling07 · 17/12/2025 21:55

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 21:27

Should have gone to booths and got a massive salad and a chicken to roast, would have fed you for a week. No need to eat again till Christmas.

Op’s rural, that’s the whole point.

ChristmasTreeTop · 17/12/2025 21:54

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/12/2025 21:16

We are rural and Dominoes still deliver here. Clearly there is rural and then again, rural!

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We are rural (having moved from the city so massive culture shock) and the nearest takeaway is a 25 minute trip on 70mph roads in the car. Absolutely nothing delivers around here, can’t even get a supermarket delivery.

ShoveYourMaskUpYourArse · 17/12/2025 21:54

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 21:39

He is tight with money these days unless it’s to do with his (outing) hobby.

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Nicely done, OP. I was beginning to think I was in an alternate universe reading this thread 🤣😂

Maybe add some naice ham and a couple of Pom bears?

Taweofterror · 17/12/2025 21:51

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 21:39

He is tight with money these days unless it’s to do with his (outing) hobby.

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Ok, now I know you're taking the piss

Chazbots · 17/12/2025 21:49

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 21:39

He is tight with money these days unless it’s to do with his (outing) hobby.

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So this is only a symptom, not the issue....

If it's cycling, golf or fishing, then it's not outing. It's only if it's luging, medieval sword fighting, horse jousting or some other exceptionally niche sport would it be an issue.

Deeper problems by the sounds of it. Msg the DC and get them to shop on the way home.