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Is this really enough food? Fed up of DH’s tightness

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 19:55

To give some background, I live with DH and our DD. We have two sons who are at Uni and will be returning to ours ahead of the weekend for Christmas.

For the first night they are back, we thought it would be good to have party food so DH went out to get this earlier. We are both busy the next two days so this was the only opportunity - we also live very rurally so can’t just pop down the round for a shop.

He has come back with the following:

-2 lots of ‘3 for 2’ party food so 6 in total - things like breaded prawns and spring rolls. Not massive portions at all
-Two share bags of crisps
-Olives and a small pack of antipasto (salami etc)

Now, both DS’ are 6 foot plus rugby playing young men. They eat us out of house and home at the best of times. DD is really slender but has a healthy appetite too.

I don’t know what DH was thinking - I’d clearly said to buy double that amount of party food. Having discussed with him, it comes down to money which is ridiculous. He earns six figures which is complimented by my own salary and we have ample disposable income.

He maintains its sufficient food for the 5 of us. AIBU to disagree?

OP posts:
ibeka · 17/12/2025 23:24

If you normally do the shopping, he probably has no idea how much food costs these days so baulked at prices that would seem reasonable for nice party food to you. Rural as you are, he’s going to have to go back out for more!

chipsticksmammy · 17/12/2025 23:15

Crushed23 · 17/12/2025 22:59

This thread is like Mumsnet bingo!

Live rurally
6-foot rugby-playing DS’s
Very slender DD
Six-figure salary
Taken in ironing
Husband’s outing hobby
Always cook from scratch
Early onset dementia
Perimenopause

LOVE it!

It’s a quick mover too.

Need to add having ‘a brace hanging in the out house’ to that list 😂

Wonderlandpeony · 17/12/2025 23:03

Always better to have too much than too little, if it has good sell by dates can you freeze anything that isn't used?

Crushed23 · 17/12/2025 22:59

This thread is like Mumsnet bingo!

Live rurally
6-foot rugby-playing DS’s
Very slender DD
Six-figure salary
Taken in ironing
Husband’s outing hobby
Always cook from scratch
Early onset dementia
Perimenopause

LOVE it!

Somethingneedstochange78 · 17/12/2025 22:58

I would struggle to make that stretch between me and 2 adult children. Needs more protein and some carbs.

Welikebeingcosy · 17/12/2025 22:58

99bottlesofkombucha · 17/12/2025 22:49

I’d tell dh he fixes it or he sits back, looks relaxed, and doesn’t touch the food for 45 minutes until everyone has had a chance to eat what they’d like. And if there’s nothing left well, there’s nothing left.

this is brilliant

Welikebeingcosy · 17/12/2025 22:57

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:11

DH is now claiming he doesn’t remember me saying how many items we’d need. I often wonder if he has got early onset dementia sometimes!

that''s such a cop out- he's a grown middle aged man (presumably) who is clever enough to earn 6 figures. he can work out a quantity divided by 5 and has spent his whole life eating and years of figuring out what the people around him like....

99bottlesofkombucha · 17/12/2025 22:49

I’d tell dh he fixes it or he sits back, looks relaxed, and doesn’t touch the food for 45 minutes until everyone has had a chance to eat what they’d like. And if there’s nothing left well, there’s nothing left.

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 22:48

Living rurally have you not got a brace hanging? I’m sure the boys can be put to good use if there’s any jobs to be done.

Jellybean23 · 17/12/2025 22:44

Add jacket potatoes and grated cheese. Got any tins of tuna and salad stuff? Living rurally, you must have got something in the freezer you can dish up.

MiddleChildX · 17/12/2025 22:43

soupyspoon · 17/12/2025 20:09

Trouble with these threads is it brings out the competitive over eaters

A 12 year old would eat all that on their own. Really. Really.

Competitive over eaters?

idontknowhowtodreamyourdreams · 17/12/2025 22:39

Definitely not enough.

user1476613140 · 17/12/2025 22:34

frozendaisy · 17/12/2025 20:20

Send him back out with a list

😂😂

Wreckinball · 17/12/2025 22:31

Leave DH to it but do a back up and freeze it to bail your boys out if they are hungry. Try chicken and chorizo soup made with yellow peppers, tinned tomatoes and stock, quick, easy and delicious, can be a stew too, serve with rice. Good luck

Original poster
ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:28

ChaliceinWonderland · 17/12/2025 22:25

Is he usually this mean ? Just order a delivery, that's going to be sad get-together. My 15 year would eatbthatnby himself.

Blimey, he must be a big lad!

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:26

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 22:23

Could your daughter cook some food? Perhaps a trifle? I’m sure you’ve got an old Swiss roll and some jam in the cupboard and the custard takes mere moments to knock together.

She mentioned trying to get to shops herself on Friday. She is a student so no regular income but has taken in ironing a lot this year and says she wants to treat us.

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ChaliceinWonderland · 17/12/2025 22:25

Is he usually this mean ? Just order a delivery, that's going to be sad get-together. My 15 year would eatbthatnby himself.

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 22:23

Could your daughter cook some food? Perhaps a trifle? I’m sure you’ve got an old Swiss roll and some jam in the cupboard and the custard takes mere moments to knock together.

stomachamelon · 17/12/2025 22:22

@ThePerfectTimeToPanic I was literally thinking the same thing. Just missing a chicken that last a week and it’s BINGO!

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ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:20

ThePerfectTimeToPanic · 17/12/2025 22:18

Amateur. Over 2 hours from first posting and you’ve only booked a spa day. You could have left him by now in a fast moving, live thread such as this.

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It takes time to line up one’s poultry, although I don’t think that’s appropriate here.

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ThePerfectTimeToPanic · 17/12/2025 22:18

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:14

I’ve arranged a post Christmas spa day for me and a friend. Screw him, he can sort the food out in my absence and take the stick from the DC.

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Amateur. Over 2 hours from first posting and you’ve only booked a spa day. You could have left him by now in a fast moving, live thread such as this.

ApplesinmyPocket · 17/12/2025 22:18

I know OP lives rurally (as do I, and also suffer from no Dominos etc deliveries ) but surely she must have basics in, like, as others have said, bread, butter, ham, cheese? which would fill quite a few gaps nicely here?

Baked jacket potatoes with butter? those are lovely.

Or just ask (as others have said) the DC to bring something each to supplement the fancier stuff.

Twofortheroadwanderlust · 17/12/2025 22:17

Taweofterror · 17/12/2025 21:51

Ok, now I know you're taking the piss

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Yep, she just lost me…

shhblackbag · 17/12/2025 22:17

ChristmasfoodQ · 17/12/2025 22:14

I’ve arranged a post Christmas spa day for me and a friend. Screw him, he can sort the food out in my absence and take the stick from the DC.

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Ha! Perhaps he can take them gofling/cycling...

FurForksSake · 17/12/2025 22:15

Doesn’t alcohol make people want to eat more? I’m sure people often go to fast food places or Tesco express after drinking don’t they? It might not help matters.

Perhaps eggnog? That’s like alcoholic custard I believe? It may kill two birds with one stone?