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Does your DH like how you dress

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Travellingwifey88 · 17/12/2025 19:45

Dh hates the way I dress. Everything i wear he has a comment on. Everything

For context I don't like my figure at the moment and am actively trying to drop.some weight (have lost a stone so far) my clothes usually consist of black trousers, plain t-shirt/top or ocadsusobally jeans and a plain top

I like patterned tops but DH doesn't like flowers in tops so I have stopped wearing them. But then.oans plain t shirts make me look old and funky

When i am in the office I have a few nice work tops. He moans they are boring as well

Today it kicked off as I have a black cardigan I like to wear. My WFH soace ia cold so I need a jumper / cardigan. He hates this cardigan. I wore it. He screamed and shouted

Dd later picked it up (she's 10 but likes to wear this cardigan) she was wearing it when he came down and he bellowed at her to take it off.

Dh wants me to dress like I did when I qas 4 stone later and in my 20's. I'm currently mid 40's and a lot bigger.

OP posts:
PiggieWig · 17/12/2025 19:50

He screamed and shouted over your choice of cardigan?

Seriously worrying. Do you feel safe?

reversegear · 17/12/2025 19:50

My DH is very honest and if I ask he will let me know his thoughts but if I don’t ask he never says a word about what I’m wearing, in fact he always says I look lovely. The only one thing he has ever said is that he dislikes jumpsuits on women, I’m shirt so it’s not an item of clothing that suits me anyhow, but that’s it. He also rarely comments on other women right to be fair.

yiu shouldn’t be getting yelled at for wearing a cardigan that’s nasty, he sounds awful OP and your poor daughter, who made him the fashion police.

SassyGoldFinch1 · 17/12/2025 19:50

To scream and shout about something you are wearing is not normal. As someone else wrote above, is he like this about other things? The most I’ve had is “I’m not… sure about that one but you still look great!”

Mauro711 · 17/12/2025 19:50

I’m dying to know what this specimen of a man looks like. I’m assuming women are falling over themselves when he walks down the street.

3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 19:50

Thoroughly depressing to imagine your poor kids

3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 19:49

No way is this a happy healthy marriage.

Will be tip of the iceberg of a rotten marriage

Summerhillsquare · 17/12/2025 19:49

He screams and shouts at you?! Not on. If it wasn't your clothes, would it be something else?

My exH wanted me in tight fitting things, but he didn't scream and shout over it. And hes still an ex.

NormasArse · 17/12/2025 19:49

He screamed and shouted about a cardigan you wore indoors??

That man has real issues.

couldthisbe2501 · 17/12/2025 19:48

Have you tried telling him to fuck off?

PickleJelly · 17/12/2025 19:48

Sorry but your husband sounds like an abusive dick. You shouldn't be screamed and shouted at because you put a cardigan on. You should wear what you like and no one should dictate what that should be. It's abusive.

Toomanyhats88 · 17/12/2025 19:48

I think this is bigger than your clothes. Your husband shouldn’t be screaming and shouting at you. Nor should he or you think it’s acceptable for him to dictate what you wear.
This sounds controlling. Do you have a network of good people to talk to?

epicpaydat · 17/12/2025 19:48

I can honestly say I have no idea. He has never really commented on what I’m wearing that I can remember.

GladFatball · 17/12/2025 19:47

What an abusive twat.

Hohohohohohoho2025 · 17/12/2025 19:47

Is he abusive in other ways too?

HoneyParsnipSoup · 17/12/2025 19:47

Do you like what he wears?

SpanThatWorld · 17/12/2025 19:47

I don't think my husband has passed a single comment on how he would like me to dress in 26 years of marriage.

Statsquestion1 · 17/12/2025 19:46

I mean, he does like what I wear, but if he didn’t, that wouldn’t stop me wearing it it’s not his fucking choice! Why are you letting him dictate what you wear?