Does your DH like how you dress

To add to the masses here, my husband has never screamed and shouted at me. This is not normal nor acceptable behaviour. Does he like the way I dress? Most of the time yes, he has often complimented my outfits. However, when something is not to his taste he probably just wouldn’t comment. If I asked for his opinion he would probably say ‘it’s not my favourite’ as a worst case scenario tbh. If he thinks you would look nice in something, he can always buy you a gift and see if you like it. Otherwise, respectfully, he can shut up. If he continues to scream and shout at you and your children, please plan your exit. I had a dad that screamed and shouted and a mum that didn’t get brave enough to leave until I was in my late teens. Not fun for anyone involved, especially my poor mum.

Awww this is sad 😢 my husband isn't perfect but he always tells me I look nice when he can see I've made an effort, and always very proudly comments on an accessory I've chosen (positively!). I don't know what he's read that's told him to notice small things and compliment them but it works because I enjoy it.

I don't know how people manage in relationships like this, why be with someone who is regularly mean to you and brings you down about your appearance? Or who screams and shouts, neither of us have ever screamed at eachother about anything.

This isn’t about the clothes. He’s abusive and controlling to you and your poor daughter. Awful.

This is why I thought too! Does he check what friends you have, when you can see your family etc?

This sounds like the tip of the iceberg. A very abusive iceberg!

How is your home life, @Travellingwifey88?

Does your husband work outside the home? Does he have acknowledged mental health issues or anger management difficulties?

Given that he ill-treats your child as well as you, I would be looking to change your situation. This is no way to live.

Yes he does but I couldn’t give a fuck if he didn’t. I mostly wear black, vintage band tees, jeans, flares, shorts with tights and mini skirts. I wear a lot of chunky jewellery, chunky platform boots or loafers. I’m very heavily tattooed, he isn’t. We look like an odd couple from the outside I guess but he wouldn’t dream of commenting on anything unless it was a compliment.

What an AH!! Who the fuck shouts at someone for the cardigan they chose to wear?! I’m so sorry you live a life where you don’t immediately understand how abnormal that is :(

Wear whatever the hell you want. Whatever you like, feel good or feel comfortable in.

In response to the actual question, my dp likes the way I look and has a generally positive opinion of my clothing choices. And I probably would feel a little self conscious if he really didn’t like a particular item of clothing. But actually I would be self conscious because he makes no comment on my clothes generally so if he was really against a particular item I would wonder why and think maybe it really wasn’t flattering or something. But if he frequently moaned about my clothing then I would think he was definitely the problem, not my clothes!!

I hope, despite him, you love yourself ❤️ well done on your weight loss. You have value and you matter regardless of your weight, but I’m sure you’re working hard and showing up for yourself and I hope you feel good about that (for you, no one else) 💐

Mine isn't interested in the slightest but he will say I look nice if he thinks so.

Dh compliments me on some clothes, others he passes no comment on. I’m fairly sure he’d like me to dress like a porn star but has enough sense to keep his opinions to himself.

Your dh sounds awful and frankly a bit unhinged. Is he abusive in other ways? Are you safe?

He's abusing you. Call womans Aid for help. You must know his behaviour is abusive and controlling.

He’s a dick. My husband absolutely hates leopard print - I bloody love it. So I wear it. Simple.

I can genuinely say that's it's not something I have ever thought about.

But this isn't about clothing. It's way bigger than that.

Your husband is a wanker at best, abusive at worst.

My DH does like what I wear I think, whilst he never makes specific comments on my clothes, he tells me I look lovely. If he didn't? It'd be tough titties I'll wear what I like. Your DH sounds abusive OP, yelling because you or DD wear a cardigan he doesn't like? What a nob.

I don't think he particularly cares but not in a bad way, he's just not interested in clothes, though if I looked ridiculous he probably would comment

I don’t know and I don’t care.

Your husband is a controlling maniac. What kind of utter loon screams and shouts at a cardigan?! Your thread title doesn't address the problem you have. The problem isn't whether your husband's taste in clothes aligns with yours. The problem is that a) he thinks he has the right to say what you and your daughter should and shouldn't wear and b) that he thinks it's ok to shout and scream at you and her. What an absolute arsehole.

Tell him you will be wearing whatever you want with immediate effect and this is coercive control, which is a criminal offence.

He sounds like a bully. My DH does like what I wear but if he didn’t I wouldn’t give a toss; I dress for me, not anyone else. You’ve got a bigger problem going on here than your wardrobe.

I don't think DH has ever expressed an opinion on my clothes to be honest.

Also in almost 20 year together he has never 'screamed and shouted' at me. About anything. That's not normal.

I’ve never asked my Husbands opinions on my clothes

He’d never offered an opinion

He thinks spending more than £20 on any item of clothing should be a crime

He’s never shouted or screamed at me about anything in our 20 year marriage

OP, your problems are not clothes, they are your abusive husband

I’ve not asked him but I suspect he would like me to dress up a bit more. I’m very much jeans & top kind of person. So he has to put up with that.

I would be interested to know what your DH wears. Is he in good shape?

Yes DH loves what I wear but even if he didn’t I would still wear it. Is your husband abusive in other ways? Because this is not normal

Yeah like others have said he’s mental. He shouldn’t be yelling at you over clothes.

But yes, my husband does like how I dress and always compliments my looks. I dress quite sexy - weight has fluctuated by 3 stone over the years. He actually prefers me heavier. But even at a big size I still dressed quite sexy - not mutton dressed as lamb but with attractiveness in mind.

If you’re feeling unattractive it sounds like you’re almost trying to dress for invisibility? You can look amazing at any size with the right clothes. At a bigger size I like a baggy high waisted trouser with a slim fitting / skimming top. Dark colours, red lip for the pop.

But do it for yourself not for him. When you feel sexy you can find a new husband who’s nice to you ;-)

He screamed and shouted because he didn't like your cardigan, then bellowed at your daughter? This goes way beyond the issue of not liking your clothes. In what world is it reasonable to scream at a woman and bellow at a child over a cardigan? Are you frightened of him?

I have no idea. I wear what I like,not what he dictates.