Does your DH like how you dress

I mean, I suspect OH would like me to maybe dress a little more feminine. I'd like to as well but I feel weird in floaty girly stuff. I'd also like to wear what I wore when I was 4 stone lighter and in my twenties! But the clothing isn't your issue here. It's your OH. OP, it's not okay in the slightest that your OH shouts at you about a bloody cardigan. I am so sorry you're living with somebody who thinks it's okay to subject you and your daughter to this kind of behaviour.

My husband never really comments on what I wear, except if it’s something new / especially smart, and then he might say “oh you look nice”. If he tried to tell me NOT to wear something I’d either laugh , tell him to fuck off, or both. But he just wouldn’t !

He sounds awful! My DH definitely has opinions. He likes me in tight black clothing and he dislikes frumpy stuff. But he doesn't say it like I have to take it off, or in an abusive way or try to control me.

He just finds some outfits more sexy than others. I am fine with that as I also like him more in some outfits than others, speaking purely sexually. However that is about the bedroom and what we wear elsewhere is our business.

Wear what you like, OP. Horrible behaviour from your husband!

No he says I always look nice even if I don’t, he did recently ask if we can make an effort and dress up for a date night but he also like to make an effort (we are usually jeans and walking boots people) so we are doing that Sunday. He is far from perfect but does compliment me. I think he knows if he said anything about an item of clothing I’d wear it all the time, inc in bed to annoy him ha.

Yes he compliments my outfits, some more than others as he has favourites and I know that there is a cardigan he doesn't like the colour of but I wear it anyway and he doesn't treat me any differently.

He also wouldn't dream of telling me to use a tea towel instead of an oven glove because I am a grown woman who can make decisions for herself as to what feels best for me.

If you think about this is there anything he would ever say you do right?

Bellowing at your child is just disgusting behaviour.

My OH thinks I am the sexiest woman alive regardless of what I wear, bless him. He very rarely comments, apart from a standing ‘joke’ about animal print (he hates it and compares me to Bet Lynch!). Op, you have much bigger issues here than what you wear as I am sure you know - this is the tip of a very large iceberg.

So he's controlling you then abusive behavioury dh has never mentioned anything regarding what I wear in 9 nearly 10 years

Blimey, he bellows at you for wearing a top he doesn't like? Can't imagine what he'd do if you actually did something wrong. He sounds a horrible specimen of a man

What an abusive twat. I don’t know whether DH likes all my clothes, some I know he does because he’s said “I really like that dress” etc but he’s never once said anything negative about what I’m wearing because frankly it’s none of his concern as he’s not the one wearing it.

As for bellowing at your DD - I’d lose my rag at that.

DH doesn't show a preference for what I wear other than telling me I look nice if I put on something new. He did comment a while ago that I was trendier than him these days as I was wearing wide leg jeans 😂
I don't like everything he wears (hideous green trousers anyone?) but he wears what he likes while I make leprechaun jokes....
The screaming and shouting and telling you to stop wearing certain things is hideous

I have one or two floaty tops which are bead that he comments on "aah, the bangra look". I don't think he likes thwm much but wouldn't go so far as to say so.

His comments include
It's very you dear
You were very presentable
That shows off your cleavage
Is that new (er no, I've had it for five years, do you never look at me)

If he shouted at me like yours @Travellingwifey88 he'd be my ex.

More than 45 years ago I had a date with a chap who told me he liked girls to wear dresses and to help chose their clothes. There wasn't a second date.

Yes, my DP dresses very plainly. Grey or blue jeans, plain t-shirts, plaid flannel shirts, plain jackets, all in muted colours. Buzzed grey hair, no jewellery or tattoos.

I’ve got a dark green panel in my hair, tattoos, multiple ear piercings, tons of silver jewellery, wear Docs, biker boots, leopard Converse and creepers, graphic tees, jeans, fishnet or patterned black tights, vintage-looking 60s style dresses. He gives me plenty of compliments about my style so he appears to like it but we look totally different.

Mine doesn't comment on what I wear and i wouldn't know if he liked something or not, he gives me compliments more on the clothes I know he likes but he would never tell me he doesn't like something I wear, your husband sounds controlling and there seems to be bigger issues in the relationship than him not liking your clothes, don't let him dictate to you what you wear

He's a nasty piece of shit.

My husband doesn't like my tunic.

I put it on and say "its your favourite, it's tunic day!" and he pulls a silly face and rolls his eyes and we laugh.

That's the only opinion he has and he only expressed it because I complained about the tunic being annoying.

I agree with everyone else, your husband is criticising, screaming and shouting at you for ordinary everyday things that other people do not shout about- that is abusive.

You definitely need help, OP, as his 'normal' is not normal, sorry. I would try Women's Aid and take the advice of the great posters on here.

This isn’t about clothes. You have an abusive husband.

This has got absolutely nothing to do with your clothes
And everything to do with him being an abusive, controlling bastard

This

Yes, even when I was six stone heavier he was very complimentary.

did he really scream and shout, he sound like a really odd little man,

Please leave. Your husband is screaming and shouting at you and bellowing at your daughter. Is this the life you really want? Again, please leave, I did. You have to be brave and make a decision for a happy life or an unhappy life. Do it for your child.
and tell the twat that his clothes are all shit.

This. This is about your weight and your looks. As you said he wants you to look and dress like you were in your twenties. The fact that he screams at you about it is very concerning to put it mildly.

I don't know... Sometimes he says something looks really nice.
I don't ask his opinion, actually.
This man seems deranged. Would like to see what he looks like.

He is abusing you and now your daughter. He wants to be in control of you both. My DH has never commented on my clothes, unless to tell me I look nice etc, and I'm the same with him. I wear comfy stuff at home, in the winter socks are tucked into joggers and just random baggy sweatshirts as I like to be warm and comfortable.

He mostly compliments what I wear. He hates animal print though and will compare me to Kat Slater when I wear it. But, he knows I’m not offended by it, that it will not make me change my outfit, and that I just roll my eyes at him anyway.

It’s really not normal to scream over a cardigan and he sounds abusive.