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People saying they’ve never had flu?

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Cumbrianlassie · 17/12/2025 18:00

I find this incredibly strange. I’ve had flu several times in my life and I’m 36, I mean the ‘proper’ flu - body aches, fever, skin pain, headache, cough, no appetite, fatigue for several weeks and weakness.

I had it in January, as did my DS and DP.
Havent had this new strain yet but feels inevitable!

Are some people just immune?

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JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 17/12/2025 20:58

VikaOlson · 17/12/2025 19:49

Around 20% of people get seasonal flu each year.

Yep. And that leaves about 80% of people who don’t. A lot of people think a bad cold is flu. It’s not. It’s not nice but it’s not flu.

123teenagerfood · 17/12/2025 20:55

Im 49 and husband 53, sister, 47 her husband 58. We have 6 (16 and up) children between us and none us have ever had the flu. I don't think its that unusual not to have had it.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 17/12/2025 20:49

SquigglePigs · 17/12/2025 20:32

Some people have better immune systems than others.

I'm in my 40's and have had flu twice that I know of. Once as a kid and once at university, when my parents came and got me and took me home for a week.

DH is the same age and, to the best of his knowledge, has never had it.

In general, bugs that floor me for a week, he can shake off in less than 48 hours with half the symptoms, so this seems in keeping with general trends!

Sometimes it's better immune systems and sometimes it's merely luck of the draw. Some years there are hardly any bugs floating around, or, some people are avoiding all the sick people without realising it.

ADogRocketShip · 17/12/2025 20:49

Im 36 and never had flu. I’ve had plenty of low level colds, couple of chest infections and tonsillitis many times. But never the flu

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 17/12/2025 20:46

I'm in my 30s. Been struck down with flu twice; once in my teens and again in my 20s. Weirdly, the second go round felt much worse. The shivers, chills, muscle aches and fatigue.... I wanted to be put out of my misery.

This time round, I have a cold which has mostly gone, but has left a nasty, vicious, lingering hacky cough which is making me feel totally miserable. My belly hurts and I'm a bit sleep-deprived.

OneDaringGreenBiscuit · 17/12/2025 20:45

Late sixties never had flu. Had streaming colds aplenty never flu, only had jabs last few years as per NHS advice. I never had any childhood illnesses either apart from very mild German measles. My sister a couple of years younger had the lot measles, mumps, chicken pox, German measles and nits 😂

Schoolregret · 17/12/2025 20:39

I've had swine flu but not the run of the mill flu that goes about every year. Definitely a bad cold with temperature and body aches. I'm 44.

thetruthshallsetyoufreebutfirstitwillpissyouoff · 17/12/2025 20:36

I've never had it - I'm 38. Never had covid either (to my knowledge anyway), and can't remember the last time I had a tummy bug or even a temperature. I've had the flu jab every year since my mid-20's though either paid by work, paid by me or on the NHS while pregnant.

DD is hardly sick either - 3 years of nursery and only two days off ill. And no days off school yet...

SquigglePigs · 17/12/2025 20:32

Some people have better immune systems than others.

I'm in my 40's and have had flu twice that I know of. Once as a kid and once at university, when my parents came and got me and took me home for a week.

DH is the same age and, to the best of his knowledge, has never had it.

In general, bugs that floor me for a week, he can shake off in less than 48 hours with half the symptoms, so this seems in keeping with general trends!

Curiousrobin · 17/12/2025 20:31

I don't think it's common to get it that many times at your age. I'm 35 and have only had flu once. Once you've had it you realise it isn't just a bad cold! I collapsed just trying to go from my bed to the toilet.

Dymaxion · 17/12/2025 20:29

I have never been tested for Flu so I cannot definitively say I have or haven't had it. I think I might have had it once as a child and once as an adult.

Maybeitllneverhappen · 17/12/2025 20:24

Nearly 62 and never had flu. I'm really not very healthy, have frequent very bad colds, chest infections two or three times a year. Last few years I've had terrible viral coughs and torn my inter costal muscles. But never had what I believe is flu.

Soontobe60 · 17/12/2025 20:24

I’ve never been debilitated with flu, or at least what may be considered flu. I’ve felt a bit achy and managed that with a couple of paracetamol. DH has never had it either. My ex used to get it regularly at least once a year - really bad. Had to be hospitalised once as his temp was off the scale. He still does get it.

unicornpower · 17/12/2025 20:23

I’m 37 and I’ve never had flu (thankfully- it sounds awful!)

Sadcafe · 17/12/2025 20:22

Had a few bad colds but genuinely dont think I’ve had flu

godmum56 · 17/12/2025 20:22

That's actually an interesting question. Its now being said that the "£20 note" test , while valid for bad flu, may not always be the case and, while that is the typical easy to diagnose picture, its possible to get a sub clinical version with little or no symptoms. I have currently got "proper" shingles....rash, scabs, pain, feeling rough all the things you expect BUT when I did some research online....proper research not chatGPT, I discovered that its possible to get a mild form where you just get skin soreness/sensitivity over the area of skin connected to the nerve. there may not even be any rash at all. I have had this a couple of times in my life but it never occurred to me that it might be shingles. Its not known how common this is because if you just feel a bit sore, you won't go to the GP and its now thought to be similar with flu...the difference is of course that if you have no weeping rash with your shingles, you probably won't be able to infect others with chicken pox but you will still expel the flu virus by coughing and sneezing.

PS have had real flu, the kind that poleaxes you, twice. I don't want it a third time.

WhatAreYouDoingSundayBaby · 17/12/2025 20:22

I'm 37 and have only once had something that I assume was flu.

Went into work fine in the morning then rapidly went downhill over an hour or so, had to come home, got into bed and couldn't really get out of it again for 3 days. Slept pretty much the whole time.

Never had it before or since.

luckylavender · 17/12/2025 20:16

Cumbrianlassie · 17/12/2025 18:00

I find this incredibly strange. I’ve had flu several times in my life and I’m 36, I mean the ‘proper’ flu - body aches, fever, skin pain, headache, cough, no appetite, fatigue for several weeks and weakness.

I had it in January, as did my DS and DP.
Havent had this new strain yet but feels inevitable!

Are some people just immune?

I imagine many people will never have had flu

Crunchymum · 17/12/2025 20:07

Had proper flu when I was 13 and was close to being hospitalised. Had the GP out twice (back then they used to do house calls)

Had all the classic symptoms, I didn't leave the sofa for a week, barring being taken to the loo by my mum, barely ate, was off school for over 2 weeks and even now 30+ years later I've never been so ill (tonsillitis was a close second though!!)

Feeling pretty ropey at the moment with a heavy cold and cough but I'm "walking wounded"

Haven't had a flu jab since being pregnant (all 3 times) in winter.

VikaOlson · 17/12/2025 20:03

Wobblylegs1 · 17/12/2025 19:57

I’ve had very nasty colds with symptoms that match the description of flu, but it was only that bad for 2-3 days, so I don’t think it can have been. I’m 40.

Flu can be mild, you can even have it without any symptoms. No reason why you can't have had it badly for 2-3 days.

countrygirl99 · 17/12/2025 20:03

66 and never had it. Even the Christmas that DH and both DC spent in bed with it. Rarely get colds as well, can go years between them.

VikaOlson · 17/12/2025 20:02

Radiator981 · 17/12/2025 19:58

3 times in 44 years. One time I was in hospital as a result. So no I doubt you’ve had flu that often,

It's one of the most prevalent viruses, why would you doubt someone having it several times?

gemini0606 · 17/12/2025 20:01

I’m 57 and as far as I know have never had flu (have never had flu jab either)

loopylou3030 · 17/12/2025 20:00

I'm 47, never had flu or the flu jab. Guess I have good immunity 💪

AsanteSana · 17/12/2025 19:59

62 and never had flu in my life (or a vaccination, come to that), but I spend most of my life outdoors in a naturally more healthy environment