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People saying they’ve never had flu?

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Cumbrianlassie · 17/12/2025 18:00

I find this incredibly strange. I’ve had flu several times in my life and I’m 36, I mean the ‘proper’ flu - body aches, fever, skin pain, headache, cough, no appetite, fatigue for several weeks and weakness.

I had it in January, as did my DS and DP.
Havent had this new strain yet but feels inevitable!

Are some people just immune?

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justasking111 · 17/12/2025 19:15

I had it 50 years ago when I was living in a house share I think. Boyfriend nursed me a bit. I don't remember much I was so ill.

I don't get colds these days. DH still gets them but doesn't share thankfully.

No secret that I can think of except a fondness for wine 🍷. I'm having my flu jab tomorrow.

Hummusanddipdip · 17/12/2025 19:14

I don't recall ever having it. Dh has had it twice in the 14 years we've been together, he is 35.

I work in a school so am very much prime for sickness, but don't tend to get ill, however, if any of the children are unwell, theres a very high chance I'll bring it home to dh... I had my first cold in years last week, proper stuffy and sinus pressure. Dh and dcs didn't get ill for a change though 🤷‍♀️

Throughahedgebackwards · 17/12/2025 19:12

Never had the kind of illness people describe as being unmistakable flu. Flu like symptoms that have kept me in bed for a few days several times but nothing lasting weeks. But was recently found to have antibodies for various stains of flu, so must have had it several times. I'm sure plenty of people have fairly mild symptoms and don't really notice or think it's flu. 55 and never been vaccinated.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 17/12/2025 19:10

49, I've definitely had it once, possibly twice. I've have a flu jab the last few years (paid for, I'm not eligible for a free one)

marmaladeteal · 17/12/2025 19:10

64 and only had flu twice.

Rycbar · 17/12/2025 19:10

I’ve never had it so far. I’m a reception teacher and I worked in nurseries since I was 19 so my immune system is solid. I never had covid either! I would say that I don’t know many people who have had actual flu - to have it that many times at 36 seems more than average - though I may be wrong!

StudentDays · 17/12/2025 19:09

I only got it for the first time when I was 36. Since then I had the flu jab annually. Except this year. When I bloody got it again.

I think 35 is generally the cut off when prone-ness to illness starts showing.

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/12/2025 19:08

IndolentCat · 17/12/2025 19:07

I’ve had bad colds and I’ve had covid; I’ve never had flu. Touch wood! I’m 47.

i have been pretty lucky, mind. Covid is the only named illness I’ve had since I was about 9 (I had them all as a kid, including mumps and whooping cough) and I have even avoided vomiting bugs (touch wood!) since my teens.

Lots of people say they have flu when they mean they’ve got a cold. Similar to the way people say they have a migraine when they mean a headache.

As a migraine sufferer that really annoys me! Especially as for me, and a lot of people, the headache is the least of the symptoms!

TheaBrandt1 · 17/12/2025 19:08

I don’t think it’s any sort of virtue or proof that you are a superior person. It’s chance as to whether you’ve come into contact with the virus or not. DH and I were both early 30s super healthy and fit when we got it we were both floored by it.

Zero2ten · 17/12/2025 19:08

50 and never had flu. Also never had vaccination as don’t qualify. i do get coughs and colds etc as much as the next person.
This year seems higher than usual but think you’re fairly unlucky to have had actual real flu (as opposed to bad cold) as often as you have

Crushed23 · 17/12/2025 19:07

I’ve never had flu for ‘several weeks’ but I have had flu. I’m sure I get it after every festival I go to. Usually lasts a week.

IndolentCat · 17/12/2025 19:07

I’ve had bad colds and I’ve had covid; I’ve never had flu. Touch wood! I’m 47.

i have been pretty lucky, mind. Covid is the only named illness I’ve had since I was about 9 (I had them all as a kid, including mumps and whooping cough) and I have even avoided vomiting bugs (touch wood!) since my teens.

Lots of people say they have flu when they mean they’ve got a cold. Similar to the way people say they have a migraine when they mean a headache.

LemaxObsessive · 17/12/2025 19:03

41 and have never had what you describe. I’ve had the body aches, fever, skin pale, cold sweats, cough and sickness for a few days but no, I’ve never had anything for more than 2 days.
However I do have Parkinson’s. I’ll happily swap you 1/2 bouts of flu per year for this hell.

Going back to flu though, I’ve always sworn that me being a heavy milk drinker has helped my good immune system. I drink 4 pints a day and have done for the last 25 years. I never got covid and the last time I was ill with any cold or flu symptoms was 2017

BashfulClam · 17/12/2025 19:03

I’ve had flu had it bad twice, I have had ‘flu like’ viruses. DH had never had flu till last year where he was floored for 3 weeks with it.

TheaBrandt1 · 17/12/2025 19:02

I think if you’ve had proper flu you certainly know about it! It’s not like a heavy cold.

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/12/2025 19:01

The way flu is described and how I have seen other people with it, no I dont think I have ever had it. I am 52.

I dont tend to get much in the way of colds either but I have do seem to have a weakness when it comes to tonisilitis. Any sore throat inevitably ends with really bad tonsilitis.

Ted27 · 17/12/2025 19:01

Im 60. Never had proper full blown flu or Covid.
I am a bit prone to bronchitis though and have had a couple of very rough episodes

TheaBrandt1 · 17/12/2025 18:59

51 had it once at 32. Omg it was bad. I genuinely could not care for my baby and had to give her to a family member for a few days. Wiped out for weeks after it.

couldthisbe2501 · 17/12/2025 18:56

42 and have never had the flu. I never had covid either.

Leftsidefacing · 17/12/2025 18:56

I think what really talking about here is the severity of illness rather than the technicalities of which virus we’ve had, because really, how do we know without testing?

So I’m going to change my answer to ‘I’ve never been significantly unwell with a cold or flu like virus”.

Doesn’t change my view on why or the fact that my Mum and grandparents could have said the same even though they lived through many 20th century flu epidemics including the one in 1918.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 17/12/2025 18:56

I'm 50 and have never been ill with flu either.

ExperiencedTeacher · 17/12/2025 18:56

40, never had it. Only had flu jab once.

Miranda65 · 17/12/2025 18:55

I'm 60. I'm pretty confident I've never had flu. It's not that unusual. Lots of people have bad colds and think they've got flu, tbh.

SkipAd · 17/12/2025 18:54

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 17/12/2025 18:49

You can buy tests for flu A & B

But isn’t that a new thing? People who said they had it 20/30 years ago, how do they know?

dannyufcfan · 17/12/2025 18:53

I've been bed ridden one time in my life with a virus. That was about 25 years ago. I presume that was the flu.

Touch wood, but I appear to have a grade A immune system. Any time I can feel a cold coming on it just seems to bounce off me in a couple of days with minimal symptoms.