DS reception nativity - what would you do?

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christmas2025nativity · 17/12/2025 15:05

DS has ASD diagnosis and is in the process of obtaining an EHCP. He has just had his nativity today, he got upset as it started and didn’t leave a teacher (who is not in his class) knee the whole time. We only had tickets for today. Am I being unreasonable to suggest to his teacher that I attend tomorrow and sit on the side with him so he can join in. The TA in his class was occupied with the other children which I totally understand. I know he will get upset if my husband or I are not in attendance tomorrow and I want it be inclusive for him and him not to miss out. He will not have the understanding to reason with him why we won’t be there tomorrow.

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FuzzyWolf · 17/12/2025 15:09

I think YABU (and I have three autistic children). However, you can and probably should withdraw him altogether.

There will be lots of other ND children and children with need in the school, so they can’t accomodate parents attaching themselves onto nativity plays. It would also be really disruptive to all of the other children because they won’t see it as fair that their parents aren’t at both shows and holding their hand.

FunkyFringe · 17/12/2025 15:09

I really wouldn’t. Lots of children become overwhelmed during their first few school events. The staff members know what to do. Honestly, they don’t want parents ‘trying’ to be helpful.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 17/12/2025 15:08

Edited because I really can't read today, sorry.

I agree with others to leave it. You won't be the only parent wanting extra tickets and the staff don't need more hassle - planning this kind of thing with young children is a colossal headache.

Newnames123 · 17/12/2025 15:06

You can suggest it but also don't be surprised if they say no.
Numbers are usually very tight for school events so they can't have extra parent.

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