Miserable, don't want to do christmas

I've got adhd too as does my 21 year old daughter. I do appreciate it must be a shock and your head must be all over the place as they do still feel like kids in some ways.

Not going to pretend the early years weren't difficult for us sometimes and we did get help from my in laws with childcare so we could work as they were retired. See what they decide and maybe sit him down and go over finances with him if they do decide to go ahead with the pregnancy.

Hopefully they make the right decision for them, wishing you an easier, peaceful Xmas.

Do they both work in stable jobs? If they do, honestly it's not the end of the world. I had my eldest unplanned at 19. Still finished my education, still with DH 25 years since we first got together. Good jobs/business, lovely house. I honestly am glad I started young as now at 40 we have so much freedom and have money to actually do as we please.

I'm so sorry for your loss,I know it's really hard I struggled so much when I lost my mum.I hope you've got lots of love around you and people that will help out.💐

I'm feeling the same and I've been beating myself up about it but my DH has really stepped up and is taking on lots and has told me off for being hard on myself.

This past year has been really hard,we lost our Grandson I was with my DD when she had to go through labour with him,my health has got alot worse and then last week I was at my cousins funeral and now reading that back I think it's probably normal that I'm not full of Christmas cheer but I will try.

My DM died very recently, her funeral is in early January. I can’t sleep and the huge waves of grief have brought with them anxiety attacks, where I feel like I’m going to suffocate. I just want the entire damn thing to be over. Fortunately, I’d already got gifts for DC and impulse bought a huge real tree which fills the entire bay window and is monopolising the room and blocking any natural light. So, I’ll sit in the half-dark, and drown my sorrows by the light of my retro 80’s style fairy lights. I used to enjoy Xmas, but suspect it will never be the same without my lovely DM. Basically, Xmas can fuck right off.

No I hear you! Role on the 27th. I can’t be bothered with the rain and mud, the darkness, stress at work, Son home from Uni and causing havoc, love him dearly but my god he is testing my patience.

Maybe my age 51? But sick of the stress every year, if I could stay under the duvet until it’s over that would be great. 👍🏻

“Tis the season to be jolly” hmm?🤔

Same. I'm only one chemo in with my second due tomorrow. DH has been snotting and sneezing today and I worry I've got it just in time and I'll be refused tomorrow as my temperature is very close to being over at the moment. I've been quite anxious about it for the last few days each time the kids have gone to school or whatever that they are going to bring something home.

I feel lukewarm about Christmas since about 16 years old, so I hear you.
It's just me and my husband, (big age difference), who likes to see a small tree and a decent roast, so I will sort that out.
But, very little "Christmas spirit" here, just thinking what will go wrong in the next year. 😅

❤️

Since my DH died, I CBA with Christmas. I laugh and smile my way through for my adult children and adult GC, but I can’t wait for it to be over.

There does seem to be a general apathy with it this year though. Not sure why. 🤷‍♀️

I feel very flat too. I’m taking my tree down the day after Boxing Day, I’m sick of looking at the bloody thing.

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So sorry to read so many of us are having a difficult time. I’m recently bereaved: lost my lovely parent 3 months ago and have had a professionally gruelling year. I’d like nothing more than to pull the duvet over my head till 1st Jan but need to support my remaining parent and show at least a glimmer of optimism for them.

I just want to stay home and at least try to relax and recover from this year.

I am saddened to read some of these posts. I don't like Christmas either but console myself that's it is only a day
My adult son is in prison and I am truly shattered by it all.
Alot of people don't like Christmas for real reasons.
Let's stand together in solidarity 💟

Hugs. My friends buggered off when I was diagnosed with incurable cancer. Fuck the lot of them, eh? X

OP this is my 8th Christmas after DMs dementia diagnosis and it still weighs heavily at this time of year. Between that and anniversary of close family deaths over Christmas, I can see it far enough every year. My DC are young and so excited, I decorate and do the activities for them. I very much go through the motions and am relieved when it's all over.

Be kind to yourself. I understand about soaps, I'm avoiding them too!

Joining you please, cba, skint, no family, friends checked out long ago when mental illness /asd reared it's head, along with bankruptcy. So fuck it all.

Sending you a handhold

Ditto the year of cancer treatment. I’m absolutely exhausted.

So sorry to read this. I hope your family are taking good care of you.

Joining you on the Christmas Avoidance Sofa.
For me it's been a year of cancer treatment. I'm so anxious about feeling ill through Christmas and spoiling it for everyone. I keep telling DP but he's "oh you'll be fine..."

Thanks @Enigma54

We always look forward to his birthday and make it special for him as having a birthday between Christmas and new year sucks!