To cut my sister off if she does this again this year?

Just don't give her a present. Ever. That is the way to handle it. But don't cut her off. Overreaction.

My sister didn’t bother wishing my daughter a happy birthday, I couldn’t give a crap about cards or gifts a simple text to acknowledge her on her birthday was all I expected and my sister couldn’t even be bothered to do that, would have taken 5 seconds out of her day. It was the final nail in the coffin for me after a string of selfish behaviour from her, I then didn’t wish her a happy birthday when it came to her birthday and she went crazy full on mental I was evil apparently!! Anyway we haven’t spoken since her tirade of abuse, it’s been years now and I couldn’t be happier, she always was a selfish little twat and I’d imagine she still is 😬 !! OP I’m with you, it’s not about cards or gifts it’s acknowledgement showing she cares for her niece!

I've got 2 sisters and I've got 3 children they have 1 each. Wet don't buy anything for anyone. Just a card birthday to 1 sister the other I don't as she can't be bothered with it all. She'll tell you they went into the bin.. They don't send my kids nothing and I don't theirs.. We talk we see each other. We don't care about the fath.. As long as you buy your child.. If her grandparents see her right.. What's your problem. Are you a wee bit jealous of the lifestyles have. Just have a Lovely time with your daughter and that's that

Just be nice to your sister, without expecting anything back

Your update is a massive drip feed and it’s obvious that irrespective of her Christmas gift giving you don’t like her at all. So ‘cut her off’ for that reason if you must but I can’t help feeling that you’re revelling in the drama of it all to be honest.

If you have a problem with your sisters behaviour just avoid her but be civil. It’s the adult thing to do. And don’t say it’s over Christmas gifts as frankly that just sounds pathetic.

Yabu - what a silly thing to go no contact over. Teach your dd that spending time with people is more important than gifts. Measuring people’s affection by the presents and cards they give you is embarrassing OP.

Do we share the same sister, mine is also 25 living at home and a selfish cow! Just today I was talking about her selfish behaviour to my other sister. I haven’t bought her anything this year, I will see her for Xmas and usually when I do I buy her lots of gifts that I know she wants however I had a baby in the summer, she came with my parents, 4 hour drive and didn’t even think to get a little something for my kids, just sweets or chocs, that would cost a few quid not even expecting an actual gift from her. When I’m at my parents, she goes to the shop a 100
times and not once has she got anything for her nieces and nephews, she could buy a bag of lollies for a pound! Also for me nothing, not even a drink or chocolate to say thank you for the expensive gifts I’ve given her. This year I decided what I would’ve spent on her, I’d rather spend it on my own children. She doesn’t show any gratitude, isn’t in anyway helpful, is very selfish and only thinks of herself.
however I wouldn’t cut ties with her, just won’t be buying any gifts for her anymore. Fed up of being the nice big sister

You all dislike her, so why on earth should she buy you gifts?

You sound like a toxic bunch.

Your sister is thoughtless but you are over the top. Just don't buy her anything in future

Gifts are not her love language. Annoying but hardly cutting off material.

Jesus you really hate your sister. She's your sister. Only a very cold and heartless person would cut their own sister off
Shes 25. She's still got a lot of growing to do as a person. The reason you gave was that she doesn't give presents. Are you insane? So she doesn't give presents. Right, who gives a fuck? Just don't give her presents. Seems the relationships in this family are disfunctional.

Like other poster said, very grabby. Not for you to decide, I don’t understand why people expect others to buy their children gifts. So entitled.

Seriously? Cutting someone off because they don't buy gifts? Not really in the spirit of Christmas op.

I don’t think I would ever consider cutting my brother off for not buying gifts to my children. I think your sister might not understand how important is for you so maybe just share your feelings with her and try to reconnect on this. Relationships with siblings are much more valuable than gifts.

When you called her out on it last year did she explain why she chose not to buy your daughter a birthday gift?

You all sound quite hard work.😬

Please say you don’t actually spend Christmas together @CrimboDilemma1 ??? I can’t imagine how awful the atmosphere be for everyone

Completely agree

It's thoughtless to not even buy your daughter a card. Let alone a gift.

You could go no contact. But there would potentially be a knock on effect. How would it affect your family dynamic. Will it cause distress to your parents? Your other sibling?

You could keep her at arms length rather than going totally NC.

Have you told her how much this issue annoys you?

Cutting her off as in not speaking to her anymore? That seems extreme.

These threads drive me crazy - the OP posts a question but only wants people who agree with her to reply.

Sounds as if selfishness runs in the family.

No of course don't "cut her off" that's an extreme over reaction. Just accept she doesn't do gifting, don't buy for her, focus on the positives in life