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No contact with entire family ~ am I that unusual?

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BangingBaubles · 17/12/2025 00:52

I have been disowned by my entire family which obviously hits hard at this time of year. DC also feel it with friends talking about Christmas with grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins etc.

DC said earlier tonight that he’s been invited to a family Christmas party at his friends grandparents house and was a bit sad about not having contact with his which is what prompted me thinking about it tonight.

I don’t know anyone in the same boat as us and nor do DC so it definitely does feel like we’re the weird ones!

AIBU to think we are in quite an extreme situation?

OP posts:
Ppppwwwwww · 17/12/2025 01:38

We are no contact with my family and my DH family. Have been for 15 years, it's hard sometimes but we just continue the best we can as a family and have our own fun together and with our friends.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 17/12/2025 01:08

My dad died last year but prior to that it was really difficult to explain to the children why he lived so close to us (9 miles away) but never wanted to see them. Their only other grandparents are miles away (one in Leeds, one in Australia) so we never get to do a family Christmas, it’s just us. They have got used to it over the years and know why I am no-contact with my brothers now as well. Things will get easier as they get older OP and there’s so much magic you can create in a small family dynamic around Christmas

suburberphobe · 17/12/2025 01:07

I have no-one at Christmas. Just me and my son.

Frankly, preferable to the many toxic family posts on here every day.

CherrieTomaties · 17/12/2025 01:02

That sounds very sad OP, I’m sorry that you’re in that situation. Would there be any chance of reconciliation if you reached out to a family member?

I think it’s probably a lot more common than you’d realise. I think many people are disowned by families for lots of different reasons (be it: religious, cults, crime, sexuality, life choices)