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To blow friend out for cheating on husband?

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Larose123 · 16/12/2025 21:20

I've been wondering this for a while. If you had a friend/ friend of a friend who cheats on her husband and sh*gs anyone she can get her hands on, would you blow her cover?
I cross paths with this man once a week, I've never spoken to him though.
Is the moral thing to stay out of it, or is the moral thing to let the man know?

I was cheated on by my ex husband, I always wonder why no one ever told me about him. Clearly everyone in his circle knew.

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Larose123 · 16/12/2025 21:38

@Cookiecrumblepie exactly!! You would tell on people that do other horrible stuff like SA, stealing, abuse, neglect. How is cheating more acceptable?

How can I do it anonymously?

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Thisisnotmyid · 16/12/2025 21:38

Stay well out of it. You don’t have absolute evidence and it could end up with you looking like a crazy person depending on how good a spinner the women is.

sorry op but I think your past feeling are clouding your judgement on this. Yes it would have been nice for someone to let you know but sometimes the messenger gets shot

TheonlywayIcoulddothatwasifyouwantedmetoo · 16/12/2025 21:36

The messenger is frequently shot in my experience.

Mooninjune · 16/12/2025 21:35

I agree with @Catza
If you have concrete evidence then I think you should say something.

sprigatito · 16/12/2025 21:35

vincettenoir · 16/12/2025 21:31

I wouldn’t do this to someone who was my friend. But it sounds like you don’t like her.

Lots of people don’t like liars and cheats 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would tell him. He has a right to know his wellbeing and sexual health is at risk, and to make an informed decision about his future.

whyohwhyisitalwayswet · 16/12/2025 21:35

I would stay out of it. You never know what arrangement they have. Maybe it is an open marriage.

Cookiecrumblepie · 16/12/2025 21:34

I don’t understand this say nothing mentality. I think cheating is horrid and would tell someone or tip them off anonymously.

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Larose123 · 16/12/2025 21:33

@vincettenoir I dont much like her or dislike her! Shes friendly enough!

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Larose123 · 16/12/2025 21:31

Because she is a friend of a friend there isnt personally much to lose for me. Also, I could never be friends with someone who does those kinds of things.

@Roobarbtwo so just because everyone else said nothing in that situation, it makes it right for you to say nothing?

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vincettenoir · 16/12/2025 21:31

I wouldn’t do this to someone who was my friend. But it sounds like you don’t like her.

Roobarbtwo · 16/12/2025 21:24

I would personally stay out of it - it could backfire on you and surely if it's a friend of a friend there are other people who could let him know. I had a friend who cheated on her partner - she later married him. I could never have told him because he was horrible and didn't treat her well.

I'm not excusing the cheating but if I had told him I would have come off worse. Lots of her relatives knew as well. About her cheating and said nothing. I hoped that she would leave him - she was clearly very unhappy, but she married him

Arlanymor · 16/12/2025 21:24

Well she's either a friend or not. If she's a friend I would have stern words with her. If she's pretty much unknown to you then I would just give her a wide berth.

Catza · 16/12/2025 21:24

Do you have concrete evidence? Have you seen the act of cheating taking place? The spouse of the said man attending events with the affair partner?
If not, then it's all hearsay and probably not worth getting involved. Now, if you personally witnessed them shagging behind a garage or something, then I would consider... Because I also often wonder why the hell none of our "friends" told me about my ex's side chick.

Upthenorth · 16/12/2025 21:22

I would stay out of it and not socialise with someone who thinks that’s ok.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 16/12/2025 21:21

I would stay well out of it.

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