Where have people's manners gone?

i was a Boots Saturday girl and we were too. I loved working there, it was a coveted job back in those days

The flip side of the people who push past others in shops etc are the ones walk sooooo slowly and dither and block aisles with trollies etc.
They are just as rude!

I'd say please/thank you if it were me. I just naturally do it, without even thinking.

But equally, I really couldn't give a shit if someone who's just buying a jumper off me on Vinted doesn't bother with those sorts of pleasantries. If someone says 'Hi hun, lovely jumper, could you just possibly let me know if it's true to size for a 12 or is it more like an oversized fit? Thanks so much xx' that's fine, but the response isn't any less of an effort for me than it would be if they just said 'is it a true 12 or oversized' and it doesn't bother me at all.

I would respond with a screen shot of the ad with the dimensions circled in red

All more reason to be polite otherwise if it were my friends I'd be saying "yo dickhead".

I agree that 'please' and 'thank you' is basic courtesy and society is better for it. Just to add, I have sold a lot on Vinted this year and I would say that around 80% of people I was in contact with were polite and friendly. It makes such a difference. I did the same as a PP said with the rude ones, I just ignored them.

I started serving customers in our family "corner shop" as a young teenager. Saying hello, please, thank you and bye, was basic manners and certainly nothing that someone needs to be trained for! You shouldn't need "training" to say thank you to the shop assistant when they give you your change and receipt any more than the assistant should need training to say "please" when they ask for the amount due after ringing through the till. The World has gone mad when people seem to think they need "training" for basic manners! It's what parents and teachers are there for!

I agree op. It is very easy to say please and thank you. I must live somewhere very odd in the fact that cashier here say please and thank you and also chitchat if they can.

Sorry, but I'm laughing at the idea of cashiers having 'customer service training', We get half an hour with a till operative when we first start, everything else is picked up along the way - there is no 'customer service training.' There is very little training AT ALL.

(I always said please and thank you, by the way, but I'm old).

Same with walkers/ramblers on our canal towpath. They come 2/3 abreast and expect everyone else to jump out of the way. I used to but don't anymore and now just stand my ground and they always look shocked that they have to fall into single file. Bad manners and arrogance isn't the preserve of the young nor male. Older/elderly women are just as entitled, especially in groups!

Nail on the head. Nothing wrong with simple pleasantries and they don't take up any time at all. It "oils" your social interactions with other humans.

I agree. I walk with my feet when it comes to shops and other service providers who can't be bothered with even the faintest of manners. Likewise, as a seller on Facebook, Ebay and others, I either ignore or sent blunt replies when a potential buyer has no manners or asks stupid questions.

I'm too old to tolerate it anymore.

Same with my business. I'm 100% pleasant, helpful and polite to my clients, hence not losing a client for several years and most clients staying as clients for 10-15 years and over. But when I get an email/contact form from a potential client and there is no sign of manners, I don't engage and don't take them on. I have enough work and don't have the mindspace to deal with difficult, arrogant or ill mannered people.

Long before that. Covid just made it worse.

How old are you?

Funnily enough, that's exactly how I see it when I choose to ignore the rude, entitled individual and give whatever I have on offer to someone else. 😂

I completely agree with you OP - it doesn't take a minute to say 'please' and 'thank you' People's manners are sadly lacking these days - just look at the horrific 'can I get' in a cafe or pub! What happened to 'please may I have' or 'could I please have'??

I agree and I agree it went with Covid. People don’t see people as other humans anymore.
people used to smile and say thanks in a shop if you let them go. Now they just ignore you, maybe just walk at you until you move.

I think I might try that. Thanks for the tip

What a bizarre comment. Do you not say please and thank you when making a transaction of some kind?

But I went through Covid too and I haven’t become rude and entitled

Neither do I. I am never rude to shop staff. Never.

I see questions from customers on a Facebook business page eg "do you have steak in stock". It's so rude especially since the lovely busy business owner who we all know the name of replies quite quickly. What's wrong with "Hi (name) do you have any steak in stock please?"

Apart from the fact it feels good to be polite, basic manners get you further in life. I’m a teacher and I always pull pupils up on please and thank you. I teach teenagers. I also notice manners in others, very much. If you want your kids to get on in life, good manners make a big difference.

I agree and people are even worse when it's free. I remember receiving follow up messages two minutes apart "Dimensions... ???... Hello??? "

I say please and thank you to my hens when I ask them to move out of the way when I collect the eggs. I think if it's bred into you, you can't not do it.