Son dumped by gf -update

Well his double shot himself in the foot now.

Likely she’s scared of him a bit if his become so ott while she’s gone after dumping him and being kind enough to give him till after Christmas to leave.

I expect she will have a group of men with her when she finally comes back to make sure he is gone and I would advise her to if she was my
friend or daughter.

This ^^

It also occurred to me that she might have had her head turned and wants to give it a go.

Shes come to realise there’s chaps out there who fancy her and she hopes for more from the bigger pool than your son was currently offering.

She did ask him, more or less. If he didn’t want to get married he should have taken himself off instead of being a wet lettuce. Good for her.

I'm assuming in Poland on holiday, not that its her home country, it doesn't say that, she's going to her parents for xmas when she gets back.

Understandably so. Your son had his chance.

I doubt it. I’m not in the least bit sorry as he was given the opportunity to develop the relationship and chose not to.

There would have been a very uncomfortable atmosphere.

She did want to get married though. He clearly would have said no if she had asked him, as she asked him for a timeline of when they would get married and he dismissed her and said he wouldn't giver her one. Anyone can decide they don't want to gt married but they cant then be surprised if their partner, who does want to get married tells them to piss off out of their house and stop wasting their time!

Sounds like she waited to do it until she was 100 per cent sure which means she’s already grieved the relationship and has mentally moved on. He’s disappointed her and she’s let it go. It’s understandable. Remind him in future to listen when women say how they feel. It’s absolutely ok that he didn’t feel ready - it’s probably a sign it really wasn’t the right relationship for him and he will look back and be glad she released him.

I think it's unwise to chase, but I don't think it's harassment really. My dear grandad took my grandmother a bunch of flowers every day for 6 months as she point blank refused to have anything to do with a rating in the Navy. They ended up married for over 60 years!

Why is it so wrong that he didnt want to get married? Not everyone wants to get married.

There's nothing wrong with not wanting to get married. The GF ended it because they didn't want the same things.

Well done that woman.

Quite, if it was that important she could have made the proposal - I still say there is another man in the wings.

and when faced with her ending it after he belittled her feelings, suddenly he wants to go out and buy a ring together and start planning! Absolutely don't blame her for not biting there.

I'll bet there is another man on the scene - sorry for your son.

Why is it so wrong that he didnt want to get married? Not everyone wants to get married.

Also, if it was such a big deal to her why didnt she ask him to marry her? Bit pathetic these days to wait for a man to ask if that what she wants.

He's better off without her.

Have you asked him why he didn't want to marry her? I know its a bit late now, as shes sensibly kicked him out. I think you need to have a word with him and tell him to pack it in. He's now harassing her. If he wanted to marry her that badly he would not have dismissed her when she asked.

My daughter is in the same position as this young woman . I do wish she would give an ultimatum but definitely not getting involved . I worry that he is content to just drift along but nothing I can do .
My son is the other side too as he doesn't seem in any hurry to get engaged or married . I think that is more about affording a wedding or complications regarding her separated parents. Either way it's absolutely none of my business unless I am asked.

There was a recent thread where a poster had dumped her partner of 3 years, this being 5 years ago and he had gone back home and sat in his room gaming etc and now his sister was blaming the poster as apparently he couldn't have a baby (he was now 30). Don't let your son be this man. Your son had his time and was even given the opportunity to commit or not. He chose neither, she chose not to since there was no commitment from his side.

Maybe the sad old spinster has a new fella already?

In effect, the GF has already proposed. She asked him if he would marry her and he said no. He turned down her proposal so it's perfectly normal and natural to end the relationship at that point. I'm surprised that he's surprised tbh.

She sounds great, honestly it is so refreshing to hear abo it a woman who knows what she wants and needs and acts accordingly,
You need to tell your son to leave her alone.

She's changed her mind because my son kept texting and calling her begging for another chance and she's said it's all a bit much.

So he harassed her so much while she's away she's had no choice but to kick him out...

Do you still think he's one of the "good guys" or have you finally given him a rocket about how he's treated her?