Things you do/have done that most mumsnetters would frown upon!

We are in the same industry. I don't think I'd feel differently if we were in different industries but then I wouldn't be with someone who didn't agree with 50:50 anyway.

my husband doesn’t compete in a secret hobby that I can’t mention as it’s seriously outing

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And it's either golf, cycling or tennis which millions of people partake in.

Gotta love Superhans 😄

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I have two toilet brushes. Nobody has yet expired from this. 😃

I never really bothered limiting screen time for my children while they were growing up. They have turned out fine as adults.

We also wear shoes in the house when we want to and don't make a fuss if other people come in wearing them.

I have seven children and I'm on benefits. I get £15000 per month.

I like to name my children after celebrities, so my youngest is called Nigel.

I'm also a landlord, so I charge myself rent. The benefits would be shit otherwise.

I'm NC with my eldest, who is 13, because her grandmother left her money that should have come to me.

I go shoplifting in my dressing gown and big fluffy slippers.

I regularly attempt to understand things from more than one point of view! 😄

Given the number of anti-Labour threads, I think that Labour is the least worst option we have, and I'm still hoping that they are playing the long game, and working to have something to show nearer the time of the election, instead of trying to provide instant public gratification, which was Boris Johnson's strategy (attempting to provide it, not actually providing it). But maybe I'm just still relieved that it wasn't the Tories or Reform who got in.

I sometimes call in at Bonne Marche mainly as I have seen critical comments on here about it.

You're brave!

Voted Reform (hears screams of rage and indignation).

I think this works if two people work in the same / similar industry. I work in Finance and DP is a [type of] engineer and our pay scales and structures are vastly different, such that the senior people at his company earn less than some of our analysts and associates. Also bonuses are pitiful and there are limited ‘perks’ which facilitate having more disposable income (I have more free lunches than lunches I pay for). We don’t live together yet but I would have no problem in splitting shared costs proportional to earnings. Even if DP became the most accomplished engineer in his field, he would likely still earn nowhere near even mid-level staff at my firm. Enforced 50:50 would not be fair (and I would honestly see this as borderline financial abuse, especially if earnings are very different and both partners work full-time / there is no obvious slacking involved).

Our dog is a very spoilt little madam and referred to as the 'favoured grandchild' - but I don't expect anyone other than us to take any notice of her (though I do judge a little if they don't as - well, dogs are just ace - and I judge anyone who doesn't acknowledge a dog)

We are shoes off - upstairs, downstairs is dogs and laminate - but don't expect anyone else to be - though if people are staying they usually get the message and use the provided slippers upstairs.

I have doormats in both my porch and my hallway, they are for the wiping of shoes.

I'm another who is supremely indifferent about whether people take their shoes off or keep them on in my house. Do whatever you feel most comfortable doing! I can't get excited by it either way.

Also, DS and DD2 shared a room until they were 10 and 8 even though there was another empty room available. Neither seems traumatised by this - now in their 20s they still see each other at least once a week.

And I'm delighted if friends or family drop round to my house unexpectedly.

Oh and I quite like dogs, but I don't want one in my own house because a) they smell and b) I have cats.

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Nope, I look terrible in lycra

It definitely is cycling 🚲

Barely breast fed DD1. Didn't even try with DD2. Weaned them on jars of Hipp Organic. Never once regulated their screen or phone time. They both got into grammar school, played County sport and went onto to good universities.

Married a DH who's never done any house work, ever (but happily pays for a cleaner and gardener, so everyone's happy).

Use bleach. Wash at 60 degrees. Tumble dry everything.

Never cook from scratch. We either eat out or have super easy stuff from M&S.

Fly on several holidays a year and would never dream of camping.

I spend far too much on presents for our DDs, but I love spoiling them.

Wear make up every day, get regular gel manicures & pedicures and Botox twice a year (I find my 'inner beauty' shines more brightly with artificial help).

I'm not a feminist. I consider myself a Realist instead.

It's cycling isn't it?

I love my MIL, SILs, BILs and I love my son's partner as if she is my own.

I choose and buy all of my husbands family's Christmas presents - they're my family too.

My husband and I have a joint bank account and always have.

I never realised that meal planning, making appointments, paying bills, arranging social events, dealing with our finances etc were "life admin" and a "mental load". I just do these things and my husband does other things.

We both have friends of the opposite sex.

People on benefits don't cause me great anguish, I'm just grateful that I have never had to claim one.

My husband is as good a parent as I am.

I let everyone I know come to the hospital, then my house, after my two boys were born to meet them and didn't ask them to do my ironing!

I never moan about my husband to anyone - I will get over him annoying me, but they will always remember a temporary annoyance and judge him.

I have no problem with trans people using the spaces which corralate to their gender and never have considered public toilets as "safe spaces".

I like swearing - I'm Scottish.

HOWEVER, I don't have a toilet brush 😂

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Yes, that's already been explained upthread. As I said, it's a great idea. So many carers are doing amazing work, usually very undervalued.

It's to help carers from burning out. They do so much that would cost the taxpayers thousands if it had to be paid for.

An occasional treat should not be begrudged.

They do a great thing

It comes out of funding specifically for carers. Social worker would need to apply for it.

This ⬆️. People get very angry and personal about it all as well.