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Things you do/have done that most mumsnetters would frown upon!

613 replies

Watermelonsugar345 · 16/12/2025 11:47

Just for fun.

What are some things that you have done in the past or do now that you know most MN’s would find you unreasonable for?

I’ll go first:

  • I’m so unbothered if you choose to have a child free wedding and my children aren’t invited. Even close family weddings. It’s your day I’m not going to kick up a fuss that you haven’t invited to my children. You’ve probably given me at least 6 months to a year notice, I’ll just arrange childcare. If I can’t - then I can’t come and you can’t be mad at me!
  • Chose to have 2 elective c sections for no medical need.
  • Given my children chocolate occasionally before the age of 2.
  • Son slept in a cot until almost 3!
OP posts:
OhDear111 · 16/12/2025 12:46

I spend quite a lot of money! We’ve always done this and plenty left over! Can’t do frugal.

SharpBrickMaker · 16/12/2025 12:46

Let my kids have greggs sausage roll

justpassmethemouse · 16/12/2025 12:44

I asked my mum to catsit!

MargoLivebetter · 16/12/2025 12:44

Let DD have her dummy until she was 5! She is mid 20s now and I don't think anyone would know ;-)

Left the DC home alone when they were still at primary school. I didn't go to Saint Tropez or anything but even a 15 minute pop to the shop is deeply disapproval worthy.

Made the DC go to school when they were a bit poorly and told them to take those paracetamol melt things without telling the teachers because I had to go to work.

Did the DCs homework for them when they were small and tired and none of us (particularly me) had any more fucks to give. I don't think it held them back - they are graduates with jobs.

Gave store bought cakes to the school cake sales.

Don't track anyone at all on the various phone tracking devices. Never tracked the DC ever.

Allow whoever wants to to wear shoes in my house.

Swear lots and don't think that sweariness shows a lack of culture or intelligence.

RanyaJerodung · 16/12/2025 12:44

I have had my adult DC live with me, and not charged them rent.

Countesdracula · 16/12/2025 12:43

Got pregnant at 15 on purpose and didn’t abort.
Use a toilet brush
occasionally buy lunch from greggs

Eastie77Returns · 16/12/2025 12:42

Have no issue with the fact DP has female friends and goes to lunch with female colleagues.

Change my bedding very infrequently.

I don’t think a man with a successful career married to a SAHM owes all his success to his wife and she should be entitled to access all his money forevermore.

Never organised birthday parties for DC. We’ve always taken them out for meals etc to celebrate but I simply cannot be bothered with parties.

KittyFinlay · 16/12/2025 12:40

I let my 5 yo out to play unsupervised.
She doesn't go to sleep before 9pm.
I don't regulate her screentime (except not at bedtime or mealtimes).
I drink alcohol around my daughter.
We eat UPFs.
I never lock my door when I'm in during the daytime.
I let anyone who asks use my toilet.

FastFood · 16/12/2025 12:40

I take my dog to friends and family

tanoshi · 16/12/2025 12:38

I practice Tantric sex

I've had at least one affair every year

I think kids should leave home and school at 16 and get a job

Paisleybuddy · 16/12/2025 12:38

secretllama · 16/12/2025 12:36

Agree with all of these

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Totally agree

secretllama · 16/12/2025 12:36

BeaRightThere · 16/12/2025 12:29

I don't hate all men or think the majority are depraved lazy abusive perverts. I don't care about porn and I think my partner's masturbatory habits, provided they don't impact our sex life, are none of my business.

I don't think the mental load is the massive deal the internet would lead us to believe.

I don't like co-sleeping. I formula fed and my kids were in their own bedrooms as soon as they outgrew their Next-to-Me cot. I let my cats outside.

I work hard to maintain a good relationship with my in-laws even when they are difficult because my own family are very important to me and because I want my kids to have good relationships with both sides. I don't take offence where none is meant and I appreciate sometimes people can say things that are blunt or rude without having any actual ill intent.

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Agree with all of these

Coffeeishot · 16/12/2025 12:36

EchoedSilence · 16/12/2025 12:33

I don't lock my front door if I'm in.

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I don't lock my door if im in either.

Lemonyyy · 16/12/2025 12:35

EchoedSilence · 16/12/2025 12:33

I don't lock my front door if I'm in.

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Yeah I think that this is normal but a recent thread made me think otherwise!

Lou7171 · 16/12/2025 12:35

I pay little attention to gender/trans topics.

I'm a single mum and my child has a diminutive name 😱

I eat junk food and drink occasionally.

I can't drive.

I have a low paid job and have never considered taking in some ironing.

Chiseltip · 16/12/2025 12:34

RealEagle · 16/12/2025 12:27

Became a nan at 45 , according to mumsnet i should have just had a child in reception . Also i tumble dry bath towels.

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The old "any woman can have a child past 40, just by eating a balanced diet and DTD".

Makes me laugh.

EchoedSilence · 16/12/2025 12:33

Lemonyyy · 16/12/2025 12:31

I discovered recently on mumsnet that I’m extremely odd for not locking us into the house. Apparently my door should be locked at all times unless someone is walking through it 🤷‍♀️

I don't lock my front door if I'm in.

Chiseltip · 16/12/2025 12:33

Peclet · 16/12/2025 11:51

Have a loo brush.

You filthy animal. 😂

Lemonyyy · 16/12/2025 12:31

I discovered recently on mumsnet that I’m extremely odd for not locking us into the house. Apparently my door should be locked at all times unless someone is walking through it 🤷‍♀️

EchoedSilence · 16/12/2025 12:30

Didn't limit screen time
Didn't remove teenagers phones at bedtime
Share towels
Love a caravan holiday
Cats dishes go in the dishwasher
Eat UFP
Have a weekly takeaway.
Prefer Domino's Pizza to home made
Use frozen mash
The list is endless

BeaRightThere · 16/12/2025 12:29

I don't hate all men or think the majority are depraved lazy abusive perverts. I don't care about porn and I think my partner's masturbatory habits, provided they don't impact our sex life, are none of my business.

I don't think the mental load is the massive deal the internet would lead us to believe.

I don't like co-sleeping. I formula fed and my kids were in their own bedrooms as soon as they outgrew their Next-to-Me cot. I let my cats outside.

I work hard to maintain a good relationship with my in-laws even when they are difficult because my own family are very important to me and because I want my kids to have good relationships with both sides. I don't take offence where none is meant and I appreciate sometimes people can say things that are blunt or rude without having any actual ill intent.

RanyaJerodung · 16/12/2025 12:29

Overtheatlantic · 16/12/2025 12:26

Use my tumble dryer on a sunny day.

I tumble dry everything....all year round! 😊

Iocanepowder · 16/12/2025 12:29

shhblackbag · 16/12/2025 12:01

I have a bathroom bin and a loo brush. But hands off my towel!

Omg do people have an issue with bathroom bins on here as well??

RealEagle · 16/12/2025 12:27

Became a nan at 45 , according to mumsnet i should have just had a child in reception . Also i tumble dry bath towels.

AInightingale · 16/12/2025 12:27

Let my cats outside, use a tumbledrier, don't drive.