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Things you do/have done that most mumsnetters would frown upon!

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Watermelonsugar345 · 16/12/2025 11:47

Just for fun.

What are some things that you have done in the past or do now that you know most MN’s would find you unreasonable for?

I’ll go first:

  • I’m so unbothered if you choose to have a child free wedding and my children aren’t invited. Even close family weddings. It’s your day I’m not going to kick up a fuss that you haven’t invited to my children. You’ve probably given me at least 6 months to a year notice, I’ll just arrange childcare. If I can’t - then I can’t come and you can’t be mad at me!
  • Chose to have 2 elective c sections for no medical need.
  • Given my children chocolate occasionally before the age of 2.
  • Son slept in a cot until almost 3!
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CatkinToadflax · 16/12/2025 17:40

LadyTangerine · 16/12/2025 17:36

How has a social worker funded a one off carers payemt isn't that the DWP's job? Must be spent on self care says who?

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Ah here we go! 😄 My point has been made perfectly!

KittyFinlay · 16/12/2025 17:38

RanyaJerodung · 16/12/2025 17:05

According to one woman on here, she just smothers the toilet in thick bleach and keeps flushing.
Others said they used disposable brushes.

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The disposable clip on ones for me, I just find the idea of a brush sitting there covered in whatever you last cleaned out of the toilet really icky.

LadyTangerine · 16/12/2025 17:36

CatkinToadflax · 16/12/2025 17:34

Tomorrow I’m going for a spa session funded by a one-off carers payment organised for me by DS’s social worker. The payment must be spent on self care. I feel like a right rebel though, given the view on MN about anyone receiving carers allowance, PIP or UC and daring to spend it on anything other than the gas bill!

How has a social worker funded a one off carers payemt isn't that the DWP's job? Must be spent on self care says who?

CatkinToadflax · 16/12/2025 17:34

Tomorrow I’m going for a spa session funded by a one-off carers payment organised for me by DS’s social worker. The payment must be spent on self care. I feel like a right rebel though, given the view on MN about anyone receiving carers allowance, PIP or UC and daring to spend it on anything other than the gas bill!

JohnTheRevelator · 16/12/2025 17:33

I like my next door neighbour.

RanyaJerodung · 16/12/2025 17:32

NooNooHead · 16/12/2025 17:31

How about closing the loo seat and keeping your toothbrush in a bathroom cabinet? Or not worrying about it as there's lots of bacteria already in the human mouth?🤣🤔😳

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Yes, millions of humans keep toothbrushes in bathrooms without getting ill!

NooNooHead · 16/12/2025 17:31

OilyRoundTheCogs · 16/12/2025 16:51

Erm, why would people keep.their toothbrush in the kitchen?😳🤔

@NooNooHead

Because of all the disgusting imaginary poo crumbs that erupt like a volcano every time you flush the toilet and cling to your toothbrush (and clothes, and hair etc).

So basically you are spoiler, you aren't brushing your teeth with actual faeces

How about closing the loo seat and keeping your toothbrush in a bathroom cabinet? Or not worrying about it as there's lots of bacteria already in the human mouth?🤣🤔😳

Beezz · 16/12/2025 17:30

I don’t feel the need to get bent out of shape if someone on the internet has a different opinion to me.

RanyaJerodung · 16/12/2025 17:29

Leftsidefacing · 16/12/2025 17:23

I don’t have one. I use bleach under the rim, let it run down into the bowl, leave it to soak, then flush and wash the whole toilet inside and out with a cloth and a cleaning product. I wear a rubber glove which gets washed, and the cloth thrown away.

I discovered recently that DH has a secret toilet brush that he uses to clean the toilets when he does it. He didn’t tell me because he knows my views on them!

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Why not just scrub it with a brush?

EverythingElseIsTaken · 16/12/2025 17:29

I open my door if someone knocks on it. I don’t make people remove their shoes in my home. I have loo brushes. I have bins in my bathrooms.

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 16/12/2025 17:26

I don’t have a toilet brush, apparently that makes me the unusual one lol. I do use bleach down there every time someone has a poo though and I know that’s bleach is a big mumsnet no no

Leftsidefacing · 16/12/2025 17:23

RanyaJerodung · 16/12/2025 17:05

According to one woman on here, she just smothers the toilet in thick bleach and keeps flushing.
Others said they used disposable brushes.

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I don’t have one. I use bleach under the rim, let it run down into the bowl, leave it to soak, then flush and wash the whole toilet inside and out with a cloth and a cleaning product. I wear a rubber glove which gets washed, and the cloth thrown away.

I discovered recently that DH has a secret toilet brush that he uses to clean the toilets when he does it. He didn’t tell me because he knows my views on them!

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/12/2025 17:22

Starlight1984 · 16/12/2025 16:38

Shared money with DH. Seems to be an MN no-no. What is the point in being in a team if you don't both benefit from teamwork?

This as @FragileIsAsFragileDoes says. I find it bizarre when people say things like "DH pays the mortgage and I pay for food shopping". Or likewise "DH isn't happy as I earn more than him".

Me and DH both love it when the other one gets a payrise as it benefits us both! It's our house, our bills, our food... I don't understand the thought process behind sharing lives but not finances.

I feel like joint finances are normal on MN? Maybe it just feels that way because we have separate finances and if it comes up on a thread, I'm always told that I have a room mate, not a DH or I'm clearly doing marriage wrong.

LadyTangerine · 16/12/2025 17:21

These are very noble posts, answering the door etc Xmas Grin, however I would bet a tenner you all do bizarre things that others would snigger at. We're all a bit weird even if you're proud for letting strangers use your bog.

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 16/12/2025 17:20

I got a bottle of Captain Morgan rum included in my Ocado shop that I hadn’t ordered or paid for. I kept it. Didn’t return it, didn’t tell them, just kept it. I don’t even drink rum. It got drunk at a bbq a year later.

MN would say I’m a thief but I have no guilt

LochSunart · 16/12/2025 17:18

Lifelover16 · 16/12/2025 17:03

I liked my MiL

#MeToo. And I'm a ruddy bloke.

katepilar · 16/12/2025 17:18

Have loo brush.
Make a loo roll last comfortably for 2,5 weeks.
Do laudry once a week or once a fortnight.
Do laundry at 40 and 60 degrees.
Dont use a dryer.
Wash sheets once a month.
Iron and starch the sheets.
Have bath at night not a shower in the morning.
Dont use soap to wash my whole body.
Dont use regular soap for intimate parts.

Knittedfairies2 · 16/12/2025 17:18

I don't think I buy 'thoughtful' gifts; just your ordinary, bog-standard ones...

Leftsidefacing · 16/12/2025 17:17

I eat and enjoy UPF. (Child of the 1970’s that I am).

I wear ‘tent dresses’.

I don’t use Vinted.

I’m happily married but go on holiday on my own.

I put things in the bin, don’t donate things I don’t want any more and don’t give money to charity.

I put the cat bowls in the dishwasher with our plates.

I don’t own a washing up bowl.

VineandIvy · 16/12/2025 17:12
  • Answer the door everytime it knocks
  • Every Toilet has a toilet brush
  • bedsheets changed every two weeks
  • Cat allowed to sleep in/on bed
  • happily carry the majority of the mental load in our home because then things are done my way
  • a whole chicken no matter the size is one meal
  • love cooking, hosting, taking care of people and giving/receiving gifts
  • make my husband lunch and bring it upstairs to his office everyday because I like to take care of him.
Punkerplus · 16/12/2025 17:09

Judgejudysno1fan · 16/12/2025 16:57

Im calling the police now......and the FBI

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Remember though on MN you don't phone the police but "log it with 101" 😂

almondfinger · 16/12/2025 17:08

Peclet · 16/12/2025 11:51

Have a loo brush.

This was my one.

I too answer the door and answer my phone to numbers I don’t know.

onlymethen · 16/12/2025 17:07

I reheat food and put defrosted food that’s not eaten back in the freezer have been married 35 years and nobody has had food poisoning yet.

RanyaJerodung · 16/12/2025 17:05

Amonthinthecountry · 16/12/2025 16:43

What? Why wouldn’t you have a loo brush? How do people clean their toilets?

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According to one woman on here, she just smothers the toilet in thick bleach and keeps flushing.
Others said they used disposable brushes.

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 16/12/2025 17:05

Don't understand the loo brush thing because the vast majority here clearly do have one. It's not having one that is frowned upon here.

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