Not to buy new wrapping paper for SC?

I am not trying to show the op in a negative light at all, but her and her husband don't seem that bothered as I said wrap the presents how you want but children can and do notice being treated differently that includes the op children noticing their siblings not being "the same" it isn't about the paper as I keep saying.

Wow some posters are reaching!

This is a practical thing, different paper for different child to avoid her having to label them. Very normal.

Step child is still getting new paper. She's not getting fancy personalised paper for her kids and giving old used stuff to the step chid.

Let's focus on the step child getting lots of presents that they have lots of differnt papers- obviously they are treated like one of the kids and not just chucked a token gift.

Personally as a kid I preferred lots of different pretty papers. Maybe OPs kids are jealous SC gets that!

Just buy three fucking rolls of paper instead of two rather than innocently asking whether your low-key twattishness in fact makes you a twat. Because yes it does.

It’s not the practicalities that your friend is concerned about. No, the SC won’t know and it’s less wasteful on paper

It’s the lack of care the friend is getting at. That your kids have a special traditional of new paper especially chosen just for them every year….while the SC literally gets the leftovers.
It’s a like scene from Cinderella.

The problem isnt what you do…..I see the practicalities of it. But it’s that you’re happy to tell people and aren’t embarrassed in the slightest.

I did the same for my 3. Different paper for each child , no need for labels 👍
Therefore not necessary for step child as they’re not there! I doubt my kids ever noticed the paper anyway, just ripped it off !

Never thought I would see someone weaponising wrapping paper...

It wouldn't bother me to use old wrapping paper for anyone. Unless there's an issue around the stepchild in other ways, I wouldn't give this any more thought. People have different views on things; your friend was just expressing hers.

Obviously your choice but there are 3 children, 3 sets of gifts. Why wouldn’t you try to give them the same treatment, it’s paper ffs, using the leftover is a statement especially if the child was there for gift opening.

I think OP means different paper for each of her own children so that they can see whose is whose . And it’s not necessary for her step child as they’re not there on Christmas Day so they won’t know . Which I think is absolutely fine !

It’s not very nice to treat them differently but it’s boring having them all in the same paper anyway.

yabu

I don't think that OP is saying she wraps her SC presents in paper that has already been used. I think she is saying that there is always enough paper left between the two roles she buys for her children to wrap the SC presents.
I have to say I have no idea what my kids wrapping paper is like at their Dads compared to other step siblings but I do know they both come home a metric ton of nice presents. Son is getting an ipad from his Dad and daughter has had a the most expensive year ever with driving lessons etc from myself and her dad and she will get even more presents from him and her step mum

I think it's rubbish that your SC gets a hodge podge of whatever's left, while your own kids get nicely matching paper.

It's irrelevant whether it's brand new or was bought last year, but just chucking together whatever is left in a mish mash is a bit shit

I really couldn't get excited about this.

Basically OP is saying she uses one paper for DC1 and another paper for DC2 so that everyone knows which presents are their without having to write labels.

When DSC opens their presents they are the only child opening them, so they not need to be identified and therefore they can have a variety of different papers.

OP's wording is what's upset friend (and others here) but I can't imagine any of the children would care or notice the actual process.

Quite the reach. Making assumptions to paint OP in a negative light. It makes absolutely no difference to SC what their presents are wrapped in.

Theres a logical reason for OP to do what she’s doing. She can differentiate her kids presents and then use the left overs for the presents which don’t need to be differentiated from the others. Means no waste.

People will use anything as a stick to beat step parents with lol

Some of these replies are complete madness. OP, you said your SC isn't even there christmas morning so it's not glaringly obvious and honestly, it's what's under the paper they want, I cant imagine anyone cares about wrapping paper. it sounds like you are only wrapping your kids in different paper to differentiate whose is whose. Sounds like a non issue to be so carry on doing what you do.

If I understand correctly, the OP isn't re-using "old" paper that has wrapped presents before, just paper left on the roll from last year, so still "new" unused paper.

Her own kids get different paper from what they had last year and also different from each other. The SC also probably gets different paper from last year, it's just that their paper is a year behind as it's the same design as one of her kids had last year.

Does that make sense?

I don't think Christmas paper designs go out of fashion that quickly (unless it's based on a particular film character) so i doubt the SC will notice.

It's not about the paper, it's about treating the children differently. I was a step child growing up and things like this are a death by a thousand paper cuts. It all adds up to a larger, hurtful picture.

She uses the left over apart for SC clearly

Oh come on people. The Step children have two christmases whereas if OP has had children with the father, her own children get their own roll of paper but 1 Xmas.

ask any child if they want more presents or specially selected paper and I k ow how they’ll answer.

The Sc will also have two houses, two holidays a year if they’re lucky, two sets of birthday celebrations etc etc. They’re not going to give a stuff about the paper and if they do they’re into megabrat status

I mean I do this but my boyfriend doesn't care about it and wraps his kids presents up in whatever paper comes to hand. Also I put my presents in gift bags and he piles his under the tree.
I'm not sure what we would do if we lived together but my gut feeling is we would continue the same way for our kids individually. As long as the present is something they really want and not of less value that I think its ok.

I actually don't know why I do it but I have done it for years and have just remembered I have wrapped one of my daughters presents in the wrong paper 😂

Seems like a total non issue, I'm not sure how the SC will even know. If Dad has never brought it up as an issue, then your friend is making a fuss over nothing. There's only so many rolls of leftover paper you want kicking around the house.

Yabvu

Treat the kids the same fgs

The op cares though, it is a tradition she has chosen for her kids on the pretence she knows who they belong to so her children have that tradition of seeing different paper and it will be part of the fun of Christmas morning, she doesn't want her husbands children/child to be included, it might sound like it is about the paper but it isn't,.