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To be concerned about a war?

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Namechangesecretsignature · 16/12/2025 08:14

Woke up this morning opened my SM and first posts I see are about a basically inevitably pending war with Russia. It’s the first I’ve heard of it. Sir Richard Knighton said the threat needs to be taken seriously and “called for greater honesty with uk families about what it means to prepare for the very real threat to national security”. He also said security situation is more dangerous than it has been at any point in his career and the UK can no longer rely on military forces alone to keep security safe. Finally the comment of “sons and daughters must be prepared to fight” it would take a “whole nation effort” and “families would have to face real sacrifice”

i mean wtaf? I certainly won’t be rushing to the frontline that’s for sure. What’s going on? Very concerned

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Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:32

ViciousCurrentBun · 16/12/2025 10:20

If your country is being invaded or under threat of invasion you don’t have a choice do you. That’s the bottom line. My soldier grandad died in WW2, my Grandmother was in the WAAF. My grandparents on the Chinese said did have their country invaded by the Japanese and lost everything. No one wants it but people get caught up in it.

@Unicornsarefluffy possibly internment camps, they did it to Japanese civilians in America in WW2. All of them. The UK interred only those under suspicion. Europe is more multi cultural now though would be harder.

Exactly, it’s far harder now - my old neighbour is Ukrainian - they say that they moved here so their three sons could avoid fighting. But is their loyalty with Ukraine or Russia, they are very unhappy with Zelensky - who knows?

What countries would join with Russia - do we put all those people (on European soil) in internment camps? Or leave them in the UK, while our fighting age people go abroad?

How many people would need to be in the internment camps? This could be millions of individuals. Are the children put in internment camps too?

Who would police them? Would they refuse to be put in the camps?

MistressoftheDarkSide · 16/12/2025 10:31

kittywittyandpretty · 16/12/2025 10:30

They’d be sewing their cocks back on faster than you could say Jack Robinson

Or Tommy perhaps.

We see you.

kittywittyandpretty · 16/12/2025 10:30

Entangledlife · 16/12/2025 10:29

😂

They’d be sewing their cocks back on faster than you could say Jack Robinson

Entangledlife · 16/12/2025 10:29

kittywittyandpretty · 16/12/2025 09:38

Absolutely agree with that. The ones that have recently transitioned can go first 😜

😂

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:27

Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:18

I agree it’s a risk.

So how would that work in practice?

What about countries that sympathise with Russia? Do soldiers leave Britain and the Russian citizens and citizens of countries who sympathise with Russia stay here in their homes and avoid conscription or do they get deported prior to the soldiers leaving?

They are jailed or interned somewhere.

You wouldn’t know if somebody had secret affections for Russia, just as they didn’t know who had secret affections for the Nazis. You just conscript the eligible and anybody discovered to be a spy is shot.

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 16/12/2025 10:21

There won’t be a war. So, OP, you won't need to test your high-minded principles. You can just carry on telling us all about them with no fear of having to act on them.

Putin knows perfectly well that any military attack on any country west of Ukraine would be a disaster for his forces and for him. The Russian military would be destroyed very quickly.

ViciousCurrentBun · 16/12/2025 10:20

If your country is being invaded or under threat of invasion you don’t have a choice do you. That’s the bottom line. My soldier grandad died in WW2, my Grandmother was in the WAAF. My grandparents on the Chinese said did have their country invaded by the Japanese and lost everything. No one wants it but people get caught up in it.

@Unicornsarefluffy possibly internment camps, they did it to Japanese civilians in America in WW2. All of them. The UK interred only those under suspicion. Europe is more multi cultural now though would be harder.

Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:18

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:16

I doubt anybody with dual Russian heritage would be allowed

I agree it’s a risk.

So how would that work in practice?

What about countries that sympathise with Russia? Do soldiers leave Britain and the Russian citizens and citizens of countries who sympathise with Russia stay here in their homes and avoid conscription or do they get deported prior to the soldiers leaving?

Whatafustercluck · 16/12/2025 10:16

Princejoffyjaffur · 16/12/2025 10:07

So women do everything and men do nothing? You do know that this is a ludicrous notion, right?

I said women are expected to. And they are. Nowhere have I said that men do nothing. You've invented a totally imaginary scenario there and become offended by it - having initially provoked a response by allowing your own misogyny to show.

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:16

Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:08

If conscription happens you may be fighting alongside someone who lives in Britain but has Russian heritage. Would there be a risk that they just shoot their fellow soldiers on the battle field or spy for the opposition?

Is a risk assessment done?

Or do those with Russian heritage not get conscripted and they remain in the U.K? Which means they may fight on British soil or kill civilians?

Or do they get deported?

How will this actually work?

(Sorry to any Russians reading this) other countries will support Russia so this could be relevant to many people living the UK.

I doubt anybody with dual Russian heritage would be allowed

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:09

Whatafustercluck · 16/12/2025 10:07

This actually sank my stomach into my feet. This is the reality I'm afraid. When faced with this, the vast majority would lay down their lives.

Some here wouldn’t apparently due to something about housing prices and boomers 🤷‍♀️

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:09

Harshreality · 16/12/2025 10:08

Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it. You need to educate yourself. Shame on you

Care to explain your little outburst?

kittywittyandpretty · 16/12/2025 10:09

Whatafustercluck · 16/12/2025 10:07

This actually sank my stomach into my feet. This is the reality I'm afraid. When faced with this, the vast majority would lay down their lives.

Nobody likes to think about it, of course
And I would take my children’s place
Because I wouldn’t want to go on without them
But the reality is around the world every single day it’s somebody’s child being killed at warfare

Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:08

If conscription happens you may be fighting alongside someone who lives in Britain but has Russian heritage. Would there be a risk that they just shoot their fellow soldiers on the battle field or spy for the opposition?

Is a risk assessment done?

Or do those with Russian heritage not get conscripted and they remain in the U.K? Which means they may fight on British soil or kill civilians?

Or do they get deported?

How will this actually work?

(Sorry to any Russians reading this) other countries will support Russia so this could be relevant to many people living the UK.

Harshreality · 16/12/2025 10:08

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:02

You will have no say in it

Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it. You need to educate yourself. Shame on you

Princejoffyjaffur · 16/12/2025 10:07

Whatafustercluck · 16/12/2025 09:59

Jolly good, as long as they're not expected to do that, plus absolutely everything else, like they currently are. I can imagine legions of men wailing "but what do the kids need for school today?!"

So women do everything and men do nothing? You do know that this is a ludicrous notion, right?

Whatafustercluck · 16/12/2025 10:07

kittywittyandpretty · 16/12/2025 10:03

You’d be fighting to not have your 10-year-old boy raped in front of you as the Ukrainians have
Do you think they’re doing it so that they can convert the garage into a games room?
Move closer to work ?
WTF
i’m now less concerned about our ability to physically fight a water and more concerned that we lack the mental capacity

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This actually sank my stomach into my feet. This is the reality I'm afraid. When faced with this, the vast majority would lay down their lives.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 16/12/2025 10:06

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:04

Thank you for actually saying it and not dancing around the obvious.

The alternative to fighting is always much worse than fighting.

It’s only cosseted anxious types who seem convinced lying down and doing nothing would be better

Please explain how Russia will physically invade the UK. Preferably with a diagram?

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:04

kittywittyandpretty · 16/12/2025 10:03

You’d be fighting to not have your 10-year-old boy raped in front of you as the Ukrainians have
Do you think they’re doing it so that they can convert the garage into a games room?
Move closer to work ?
WTF
i’m now less concerned about our ability to physically fight a water and more concerned that we lack the mental capacity

Edited

Thank you for actually saying it and not dancing around the obvious.

The alternative to fighting is always much worse than fighting.

It’s only cosseted anxious types who seem convinced lying down and doing nothing would be better

kittywittyandpretty · 16/12/2025 10:03

Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:01

Fight for what? A government who lies constantly? Paedophiles getting no prison sentences? Rape gang cover ups? Knife crime? A clamp down on free speech? Rising house prices? Stopping jury trials? Our food security being taken away?

Surely the farmers iht will be reversed now as we need food security? Are we going to be encouraged to buy local produce and grow our own?

When do we stop buying Russian oil (via India) and get our own from the North Sea?

Also Europe is Multi Cultural does that mean some people living in Britain will fight British people in Britain as their allegiance is with their ‘home land’? How does that work?

You’d be fighting to not have your 10-year-old boy raped in front of you as the Ukrainians have
Do you think they’re doing it so that they can convert the garage into a games room?
Move closer to work ?
WTF
i’m now less concerned about our ability to physically fight a water and more concerned that we lack the mental capacity

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:03

Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:01

Fight for what? A government who lies constantly? Paedophiles getting no prison sentences? Rape gang cover ups? Knife crime? A clamp down on free speech? Rising house prices? Stopping jury trials? Our food security being taken away?

Surely the farmers iht will be reversed now as we need food security? Are we going to be encouraged to buy local produce and grow our own?

When do we stop buying Russian oil (via India) and get our own from the North Sea?

Also Europe is Multi Cultural does that mean some people living in Britain will fight British people in Britain as their allegiance is with their ‘home land’? How does that work?

Fight not to be captured, tortured, raped etc? Did that not occur to you? The number of posters acting like this is a ‘prove your loyalty to the king’ exercise rather than one in avoiding torture and death is infuriating!

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 10:02

Harshreality · 16/12/2025 10:01

I'm 100% with OP. Neither I nor my family will be forced to war. I'd rather take the punishments. You sound like one of those odious people handing out white feathers in 1914.

You will have no say in it

Unicornsarefluffy · 16/12/2025 10:01

Fight for what? A government who lies constantly? Paedophiles getting no prison sentences? Rape gang cover ups? Knife crime? A clamp down on free speech? Rising house prices? Stopping jury trials? Our food security being taken away?

Surely the farmers iht will be reversed now as we need food security? Are we going to be encouraged to buy local produce and grow our own?

When do we stop buying Russian oil (via India) and get our own from the North Sea?

Also Europe is Multi Cultural does that mean some people living in Britain will fight British people in Britain as their allegiance is with their ‘home land’? How does that work?

Harshreality · 16/12/2025 10:01

HoneyParsnipSoup · 16/12/2025 08:35

All this ‘I/my son/my dog wouldn’t be fighting, over my dead body’ is irrelevant as you’d been forced to by law, with the punishments for non compliance being worse than actually doing it. The whole point is that it’s mandatory.

I'm 100% with OP. Neither I nor my family will be forced to war. I'd rather take the punishments. You sound like one of those odious people handing out white feathers in 1914.

Whatafustercluck · 16/12/2025 09:59

Princejoffyjaffur · 16/12/2025 09:37

I say that this time round we send all the women off to fight first.

Jolly good, as long as they're not expected to do that, plus absolutely everything else, like they currently are. I can imagine legions of men wailing "but what do the kids need for school today?!"

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