To tell them their baby name options aren’t great?

What makes you think you know better than two other adults what makes a good name? It’s not your child. Why do you imagine your opinion on what it should be called is superior to that of its actual parents?

These are all just personal opinions and therefore your advice isn’t any more relevant than it would if you told them they shouldn’t paint their living room in their favourite colour because you think your favourite colour is nicer.

There were a lot of girls named Ada in my Mum and Grandmother’s generations, and the few generations before them - I’ve never seen it spelled Ayda though.

I think you might be mistaken about the normal spelling.

Sorry I haven’t RTFT so perhaps this has been addressed. I completely agree with you that we share our true feelings and opinions as part of meaningful relationships. No one is suggesting applying this principle to every decision OP’s adult children make.

But baby names are a category of their own. If someone asks ‘please tell me your honest opinion’ = fair game. But usually they don’t.

It’s a very personal taste thing and also a very precious and serious decision for impending parents to make, not to be messed with. They will sense when people are hugely positive about names and when they just smile politely - that’s enough. Unless op wants to make it about her, which is not a good look, especially as MIL.

I've only know Ada spelled Ada.

The other version Ayda looks made up.

Surprisingly I think they’re both fine, and I’m really conservative with names

you have to realise that people will assume that’s their diminutive and they have a longer name they don’t use. So they won’t automatically think there’s something ‘wrong’ with it

like Tiggy (Legge-Bourke) is I think Tabitha, and Gigi is probably Geraldine or something

I also like both names which is again weird for me

Ada is the more common spelling surely? Ayda is (usually) pronounced Ida.

OP I would bite your tongue as things may change when the baby arrives. Neither name is awful although Tiggy is the conventional spelling and is usually posh so unlikely to hurt career wise.

Tiggy - spelled with a y - isn’t for me but I don’t hate it. Gigi also isn’t revolting.

Honestly it could be much worse. I do quite like Tig as a diminutive of Tiggi/Tiggy. It’s strong and confident and can play really feminine or masculine so whatever type of human she grows up to be, her name can stretch to accommodate. Steer them to Tiggy with a y.

She can have an opinion but she needs to remember that is all it is .....her opinion and she absolutely should not voice.
She is not entitled to interfere in two adult's decision to use a name they like.

My MIL who happens to think she is an authority on everything decided to inform me that she didn't like my daughter's name. I happen to think the names she gave her own children are awful but I didn't feel the need to share this with her.

I was going to say YABU and then I read the name choices good god what are they thinking they are signing their daughter up for a lifetime of ridicule if they choose the name Tiggi.

It's so difficult but I agree with the majority that saying nothing is best. Tiggi is the worse of the two; Gigi whilst not my taste at least doesn't sound like a cat.

I have a neighbour who called her baby girl Ada... Trying to be unique not wanting to use Ayda and then complaining when friends asked to clarify pronunciation.

It's like that awful trend about 7-10 years ago where every girl name was name-mae; name-grace; name-rose and sounding like an extra in a bad country and western movie

Inside thoughts 😂😂

Of course it's OP's business. It's her grandchild, she's entitled to worry about the kid being bullied and laughed at at school or being held back career-wise.

Both awful names, but its not your baby and not your business, sorry OP.

I don’t think you should say anything.

It’s their baby and it’s not your place to say you think their names are shit (even if they are).

A guy in work told me they were calling their kid a really nice name, but were considering ‘Dawn’ as the middle name. I blurted out ‘you can’t give her the bloody middle name Dawn. It’s the name of someone in their 60’s!). Anyway, turns out it was a family member who had died and they did end up using that middle name.

Fortunately it was someone I could have a laugh with, but I thought after that was pretty rude of me and I will also never comment on a name again!!

Say nothing but i have to say what is going on with people these days that they have to make up daft names as if the child is a teddy bear or doll, that will never grow up.

actually i know it is a celebrity thing cos we are all specials and our baby is gonna be famous and amazing and i can shine in the reflective glory.

reality being tiggy, stop pulling Gigi’s hair

Gigi and tiggy i am begging please go to sleep etc.

The names aren't to your taste but they're not upsetting or offensive.

I don't think Gigi will raise any eyebrows though people might ask what Tiggi is short for.

Oh my 😂

Tiggi and Gigi, incidentally, sound like utterances a baby would make.

Juvenile name choices, I’m afraid.

That’s because the poster comes across as a leery old man.

Agree, nothing good will come from it, they will only be upset, especially if their hearts are set on these names. As others have said I would only tell them if the names were offensive.

We told my MIL the name we wanted for our girl - we picked it out years before she was conceived. When we told MIL all she said was “keep thinking” which I imagine she thought was tactful but it stung from someone I respected. It didn’t change our opinion and we used it anyway - it is a perfectly normal name, and very common in the region. I don’t resent MIL but I’ll never forget her reaction.

Tiggy is quite sweet, they might not know it can be a shortened version of Antigoni? So you could check they know that.

Gigi.... 🤔
I feel like it's what glamorous grannies get their grandchildren to call them

I'd not be too critical but try to steer them towards Gigi out of those options.

None of your business. My mum hated both of our boy names, luckily we had girls but would have used our boy names. You’ve already had your chance to pick baby names and it’s their child

Gigi like Hadid? Quite on trend I’d have thought.

Tiggy/Tiggi(e) imo isn’t much different to Kitty, which I think isn’t everyone’s taste but I find I much prefer to some of the more popular names around at the moment.

it’s not your place at all to say anything.

I’ll go against the grain. Yes, for that child’s sake you should say something (constructive) but be prepared for them to disagree.

I don't think either of them are too bad. You'll just get used to it as her name as she grows.

Mumsnet is a bit snobby classical about names!