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To tell them their baby name options aren’t great?

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Ellase · 15/12/2025 21:07

I can be fairly confident DS and DIL don’t use Mumsnet so I’m prepared to take a risk and post this.

DS and his wife are expecting their first baby, all very exciting, a little girl. Tonight they came over and we were chatting names and they told me what their two front runners are, and well they aren’t inherently awful, but they are diminutives that aren’t well established as names in their own right (so we aren’t talking Milly or Rosie which are now fully fledged names). I asked if they were planning to use a longer name too and was told absolutely not. This worries as I feel their child won’t much appreciate having a name that is not well established, sounds a bit off (I don’t know how to explain better than that), and could easily have a longer name that would provide more optionality however they choose to live their life.

Should I cautiously mention it or just bite my tongue? We have a very positive relationship generally and they tend to be open to advice.

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Everlore · 16/12/2025 00:57

Namechangerage · 16/12/2025 00:54

Oh dear god

I assume you don't get out much if you're shocked by the perfectly commonplace name Gigi.

Namechangerage · 16/12/2025 00:54

Ellase · 15/12/2025 21:17

I’ll share only as I’m fairly certain neither of them use this website and they said they haven’t shared the names with anyone else but their two top names were Tiggi and Gigi

Oh dear god

Everlore · 16/12/2025 00:50

MorningCoffees2 · 15/12/2025 21:21

Those names are awful. I don't see why it's such a bad thing for you to have an opinion. Isn't that how friendships and relationships develop, when we are open about our thoughts and feelings?Why does everyone have to remain neutral and positive? It makes for very shallow relationships.

Like many posters on here you appear to be having difficulty distinguishing between objective fact and subjective opinion. To clarify, what you actually mean is that you personally dislike those names and think they are awful, which is purely a subjective stance, not a statement of fact. Hope that helps.
OP, there is nothing objectively wrong with those names. I would always advise any prospective parent not to reveal their baby name to anyone, even close family, until the baby is here and the name is a fait accompli, otherwise people will, sometimes well-meaningly, try to talk you out of a name you love. There is no name which everyone will like. Some people take a strong dislike to names for a whole host of, often arbitrary, reasons, including having known someone with that name who they didn't like. These purely personal reactions are irrelevant to what someone else wishes to name their precious baby.
I would keep quiet, this would be my advice to anyone considering commenting negatively on someone else's baby choices. you will end up loving the name, whatever they choose, because it will be the name of your wonderful grandchild.

Leftsidefacing · 16/12/2025 00:42

NeighbourProblems3 · 16/12/2025 00:35

A friend of mine - thankfully - called her baby Gigi. I say thankfully because her alternative was Bunny 😱

I like Bunny. I like Bunty even more 🤷🏻‍♀️ Gigi…awful.

That’s why everyone gets to name their own child and everyone else (including Grandmothers) should just smile and nod.

dementedmummy · 16/12/2025 00:40

Ellase · 15/12/2025 21:17

I’ll share only as I’m fairly certain neither of them use this website and they said they haven’t shared the names with anyone else but their two top names were Tiggi and Gigi

Are you sure they are the actual choices? We got so fed up with everyone and his goat wanting to express their views on what our child should be called and which family member on which side should be the middle name, we started going with star wars names like Han and Darth and stuck with it for 4.5 months 🤣

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/12/2025 00:37

clary · 16/12/2025 00:35

I knew a woman called Pebble. She was a very successful teacher on the SLT at her school. I really don’t think being called Gigi will hold you back in your career, come on.

Especially when it won't be unusual for her friends to be called the likes of Dolly, Bambi & Pixie.

NeighbourProblems3 · 16/12/2025 00:35

A friend of mine - thankfully - called her baby Gigi. I say thankfully because her alternative was Bunny 😱

clary · 16/12/2025 00:35

GoodQueenWenceslaus · 15/12/2025 23:30

Of course it's OP's business. It's her grandchild, she's entitled to worry about the kid being bullied and laughed at at school or being held back career-wise.

I knew a woman called Pebble. She was a very successful teacher on the SLT at her school. I really don’t think being called Gigi will hold you back in your career, come on.

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/12/2025 00:34

ChasbutnotDave · 16/12/2025 00:20

I don't know why people say it's none of your business. Of course it's your business, it's your grandchild so you will be calling her one of these names if they do use one of them. Wasn't there a thread on here about a grandmother who never called her grandchild by their name?
Completely different if it's a stranger, you may not like the name but it wouldn't affect you, so yes none of your business.

I'd just suggest they have a formal name on the birth certificate and use Gigi/Tiggi day to day, frame it as giving your granddaughter the choice because no-one knows, until 10, 15, 20 years down the line if she wants to blend in with a more mainstream name or stand out with a more unusual name.

She isn't OP's child. She doesn't get a say in the child's name so no, it's none of her business.

They have already very, very clearly told her 'absolutely not' when asked if they will be nicknames. Saying any more won't go down well.

Ellie56 · 16/12/2025 00:30

They sound like the names of hair products to me, so no, not great OP.

OriginalUsername2 · 16/12/2025 00:22

Ellase · 15/12/2025 21:17

I’ll share only as I’m fairly certain neither of them use this website and they said they haven’t shared the names with anyone else but their two top names were Tiggi and Gigi

Ah they’re not so bad. At least they’re names and not fruits or a sequence of numbers.

ChasbutnotDave · 16/12/2025 00:20

I don't know why people say it's none of your business. Of course it's your business, it's your grandchild so you will be calling her one of these names if they do use one of them. Wasn't there a thread on here about a grandmother who never called her grandchild by their name?
Completely different if it's a stranger, you may not like the name but it wouldn't affect you, so yes none of your business.

I'd just suggest they have a formal name on the birth certificate and use Gigi/Tiggi day to day, frame it as giving your granddaughter the choice because no-one knows, until 10, 15, 20 years down the line if she wants to blend in with a more mainstream name or stand out with a more unusual name.

Cursula · 16/12/2025 00:17

The Gigi I knew was Ghislaine. Not ‘that one’ but that would be a good reason to dissuade……

ChristmassyCheers · 16/12/2025 00:16

I think Tiggì sounds Nordic

ChristmassyCheers · 16/12/2025 00:16

Pineapples123 · 15/12/2025 21:26

My nickname is tiggy (started as tigger when I was about 13), everyone calls me tiggs. It’s nothing like my real name 😆 I have a v professional, high earning job and tiggs flies absolutely fine. Only my parents call me by my ‘real’ name, and even they shorten that to just its first letter.

i guess even if they name their child one of these there’s a good chance it could shift to something completely different at some point

Edited

Come on, tell us your birth name! I'm intrigued

Ponderingwindow · 16/12/2025 00:13

the worst naming practice is naming your children one thing but calling them something else. If they are going to use a short name in practice, that is what they should put on the birth certificate

Theboymolefoxandhorse · 16/12/2025 00:11

GKG1 · 15/12/2025 23:46

Sorry I haven’t RTFT so perhaps this has been addressed. I completely agree with you that we share our true feelings and opinions as part of meaningful relationships. No one is suggesting applying this principle to every decision OP’s adult children make.

But baby names are a category of their own. If someone asks ‘please tell me your honest opinion’ = fair game. But usually they don’t.

It’s a very personal taste thing and also a very precious and serious decision for impending parents to make, not to be messed with. They will sense when people are hugely positive about names and when they just smile politely - that’s enough. Unless op wants to make it about her, which is not a good look, especially as MIL.

100% this.

unless asked directly I wouldn’t share your opinion on this. They probably already know you’re not thrilled by it by your reaction (unless you’re a good actress) which is fine. You don’t have to love it but you don’t have to share that you don’t love it. And when the baby is here it will be your gorgeous dgc and you wont care what their name is as long as they’re happy and healthy.

Having your first child is an exciting time but also a vulnerable one. Your daughter in law will learn soon enough that everyone has an opinion on everything she does and it’s hard to feel like you’re getting anything right. Respectfully you’ve had your children and made your choices, let them do the same. Parents and parents in law unless asked specifically otherwise are supporting characters, not main characters when it comes to dgc.

There’s no guarantee they will use either of those names when baby is here.

My MIL decided to tell me my dc was “horrible” on their first visit to meet them at the hospital when they were about 6hrs old. It took me about 6 months to not be livid about it lol

BeanQuisine · 16/12/2025 00:11

Can't imagine how anyone thinks such silly noises are acceptable "names" for anything other than a budgie or a tortoise.

But if they can't see that, no amount of persuasion is likely to help.

User5306921 · 16/12/2025 00:09

BauhausOfEliott · 15/12/2025 23:50

What makes you think you know better than two other adults what makes a good name? It’s not your child. Why do you imagine your opinion on what it should be called is superior to that of its actual parents?

These are all just personal opinions and therefore your advice isn’t any more relevant than it would if you told them they shouldn’t paint their living room in their favourite colour because you think your favourite colour is nicer.

Excellent and very well made point.

ThorsRaven · 16/12/2025 00:07

patooties · 15/12/2025 22:36

Quite some mental leaps here - you must be exhausted!

Hardly a leap from geegee to gee gee is it?

Cloudtime · 16/12/2025 00:06

Absolutely, definitely say nothing. Their child, their choice. You had the opportunity to name your children , give them theirs now.
They wont thank you and it wont alter their opinion .
I like Gigi and it is becoming more popular. I always think of tabby cats and uber posh people trying to sound cool when I hear the name Tiggy but it's their choice and won’t effect the child’s life in any significant way.

Leftsidefacing · 16/12/2025 00:00

Daisymaybe60 · 15/12/2025 23:55

Ada is the usual spelling of the name in the UK. Check out Ada Lovelace (or Ada Shelby 😊).

When I was learning French at school many years ago, we were all given French names on day one. Mine was Gigi, which I loathed at first but grew to love. There are much worse names. Tiggy’s one of them, imho, but you’d get used to it. And of course the main thing is, it’s not your child, so yes, you’d definitely be well advised to bite your tongue.

Mine was Clothilde!

I hated learning French but I still like that name.

Daisymaybe60 · 15/12/2025 23:55

MissIonX · 15/12/2025 23:32

It's so difficult but I agree with the majority that saying nothing is best. Tiggi is the worse of the two; Gigi whilst not my taste at least doesn't sound like a cat.

I have a neighbour who called her baby girl Ada... Trying to be unique not wanting to use Ayda and then complaining when friends asked to clarify pronunciation.

It's like that awful trend about 7-10 years ago where every girl name was name-mae; name-grace; name-rose and sounding like an extra in a bad country and western movie

Inside thoughts 😂😂

Ada is the usual spelling of the name in the UK. Check out Ada Lovelace (or Ada Shelby 😊).

When I was learning French at school many years ago, we were all given French names on day one. Mine was Gigi, which I loathed at first but grew to love. There are much worse names. Tiggy’s one of them, imho, but you’d get used to it. And of course the main thing is, it’s not your child, so yes, you’d definitely be well advised to bite your tongue.

Mwnci123 · 15/12/2025 23:51

I agree that the names are pretty awful but that no good at all would come of you saying anything. I'm sorry! You'll get used to the name. When you say they don't want a longer one, does that include middle names?

Leftsidefacing · 15/12/2025 23:51

LaurieFairyCake · 15/12/2025 23:41

Surprisingly I think they’re both fine, and I’m really conservative with names

you have to realise that people will assume that’s their diminutive and they have a longer name they don’t use. So they won’t automatically think there’s something ‘wrong’ with it

like Tiggy (Legge-Bourke) is I think Tabitha, and Gigi is probably Geraldine or something

I also like both names which is again weird for me

Tiggy Legge Bourke’s name is Alexandra.

AI overview doesn’t know why she’s known as Tiggy but it sounds like a boarding school nickname to me and may not have a real reason behind it.