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To tell them their baby name options aren’t great?

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Ellase · 15/12/2025 21:07

I can be fairly confident DS and DIL don’t use Mumsnet so I’m prepared to take a risk and post this.

DS and his wife are expecting their first baby, all very exciting, a little girl. Tonight they came over and we were chatting names and they told me what their two front runners are, and well they aren’t inherently awful, but they are diminutives that aren’t well established as names in their own right (so we aren’t talking Milly or Rosie which are now fully fledged names). I asked if they were planning to use a longer name too and was told absolutely not. This worries as I feel their child won’t much appreciate having a name that is not well established, sounds a bit off (I don’t know how to explain better than that), and could easily have a longer name that would provide more optionality however they choose to live their life.

Should I cautiously mention it or just bite my tongue? We have a very positive relationship generally and they tend to be open to advice.

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Everlore · 16/12/2025 08:35

I know I should be used to it by now, but I am still surprised by how easily shocked and outraged some of the nervous Nellies posting on here are when confronted with, really very normal, baby names. Anything more unusual than John or Jane seems to be greeted by the most bizarrely unnecessary pearl-clutching!
As I commented previously, I would strongly advise against sharing your baby name with anybody until baby has arrived and the name is a fait accompli to avoid having everyone and their dog sticking their oar in and trying to talk you out of your chosen name. There is not a single name which everyone will like. Someone will always have been to school or worked with someone with that name who was horrible or have some other esoteric association with the name that they will claim will be universal, even if it specific to them and is very much their own personal problem.
The number of posters on here banging on about the film Gigi, released in 1958, is very amusing to me. The idea that this will be the first cultural reference that will occur to the majority of people on hearing the name Gigi now is a bit silly given that this film was released many years before most of today's kids' grandparents were even born! That this is the most contemporary cultural reference point for the name Gigi for multiple posters on here says a lot about the demographics of contributors on these threads and might go some way to explaining how out of touch so many seem with pretty commonplace baby naming trends.
As for the posters claiming children with, again, completely unremarkable names, will be bullied at school and will never be taken seriously in the workplace, I really don't know what to say other than that you must live in an extremely insular and reactionary environment which is really quite sad.
In short, MN would be the last place I would come for sensible or rational baby naming opinions! It's depressing that there's a whole section of the site dedicated to this topic. However, maybe it could be useful, if your suggested name causes a mass fit of the vapours to break out amongst MN posters then it's probably a good one!

MrsVBS · 16/12/2025 07:45

It’s their child not yours, mind your business. My MIL would know what would happen if she gave her opinion.

MermaidMummy06 · 16/12/2025 06:47

They're not ridiculously bad. Come hang around my DD's school & listen to some of the names. More than once I've had to stop my myself saying 'what now?' to their 'unique' names.

LBFseBrom · 16/12/2025 06:47

Ellase · 15/12/2025 21:17

I’ll share only as I’m fairly certain neither of them use this website and they said they haven’t shared the names with anyone else but their two top names were Tiggi and Gigi

Flipping awful names! What is the matter with people saddling their kids with ridiculous monikers like that? They are nicknames, not real names.

I don't blame you for disliking the names but - as others have said - nothing you can do, say nothing, stay out of it. You'll get used to it.........in a few years.

Raintoday2323 · 16/12/2025 06:43

Those names are very popular right now. Ziggy is also having a moment. I don't dislike any of them.

Elektra1 · 16/12/2025 06:39

My DD (7) has a Gigi in her class. It’s a lovely and, contrary to your view, very well “established” name. One of Colette‘s novels is called Gigi.

Tiggy I also like, though agree it’s more of a nickname. But it’s not so outlandish as to be weird.

Even if they wanted to call her Tinkerbell I’d keep my mouth shut, if you want a decent relationship with them and your grandchild.

HerNeighbourTotoro · 16/12/2025 06:33

Shame they dont have your genius foor giving names.
Neither of these is awful really, I have known two Gigis and both are adults and didnt face grief because of their names.
Im glad you decided to butt out of this, please stick to this decision- unless you wanna be an object of "MIL criticises my baby name" thread some months down the line.

clary · 16/12/2025 06:33

ThePerfectWeekend · 16/12/2025 03:45

My GC has a diminuitive of a few names (Ella), but I don't mind it as a stand-alone . I don't think any negative comments would have been appreciated and wouldn't have changed their minds. I arent keen on either of those names, still aren't convinced commenting would be the welcomed.

Do you mean you are regarding Ella as a diminutive? That's been a regular name for many many years. I knew an Ella who would be about 100yo now.

@Bungle2168 yes she got that joke a lot.

@Ellase I don’t think Gigi will be mispronounced tbh, it’s fairly popular. You really cannot and should not say anything, believe me. All the posts on here from ppl whose parents did comment show that I think.

Mumdiva99 · 16/12/2025 06:19

clary · 15/12/2025 21:47

Gigi is a sweet name – and it is not a nickname for anything AFAIK. It’s a French name surely? Collette used the name in the 1940s (tho that story is not really aspirational).

Tiggi I am not keen on personally and pretty sure that is usually a nickname (for Matilda I think? Or Antigone?? which is deffo not a good story for a name).

But either way, I have heard a lot worse tbh. And no you can't say anything. My mother, on hearing DS1's name, said it sounded very old fashioned and like a cat's name. I have never forgotten that even tho it was 20+ years ago (and we were well ahead of the naming curve haha). She should have said Oh that's lovely dear. Suggest you do that OP.

Edited

If I'd used the name every time my dad would sing (in a bad French accent) 'Thank heavens for little girls....they grow up in the most delightful way.' 🤣But only that as he doesn't know any more lyrics. That would be enough to put me off. Although I think it's quite a sweet name.

Epidote · 16/12/2025 06:16

Whenindoubthugitout · 15/12/2025 21:07

Bite your tongue

Nail it. 100%

Carlou · 16/12/2025 06:12

Their child... their name. Period. Butt out.

Sartre · 16/12/2025 05:23

Gigi is ok but I fear it would be a lifetime of correcting British people on the pronunciation. I have images of it becoming giggy or gee gee with a hard G.

Not even sure what Tiggi is a diminutive of but it’s terrible. I’d just sway them towards Gigi because it’s the better of the two.

FarmingHard · 16/12/2025 04:49

OK, they're both awful names and I'd think they were nicknames if I were introduced. However, their baby, their choice. If they love them, you'll get used to it. Tiggy is the better, if I had to choose between them.

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 16/12/2025 04:08

MissIonX · 15/12/2025 23:32

It's so difficult but I agree with the majority that saying nothing is best. Tiggi is the worse of the two; Gigi whilst not my taste at least doesn't sound like a cat.

I have a neighbour who called her baby girl Ada... Trying to be unique not wanting to use Ayda and then complaining when friends asked to clarify pronunciation.

It's like that awful trend about 7-10 years ago where every girl name was name-mae; name-grace; name-rose and sounding like an extra in a bad country and western movie

Inside thoughts 😂😂

Actually Ada is how it was always spelt when it was popular in the 1930's. Ayda is the 'younique' spelling.

ThePerfectWeekend · 16/12/2025 03:45

My GC has a diminuitive of a few names (Ella), but I don't mind it as a stand-alone . I don't think any negative comments would have been appreciated and wouldn't have changed their minds. I arent keen on either of those names, still aren't convinced commenting would be the welcomed.

anon4net · 16/12/2025 03:43

I was going to say that staying quiet is likely the very best option.

I've heard the names. Oh goodness, they aren't to most people's taste...

Probably best to still stay quiet for the sake of the relationship.

Are you sure they aren't pulling your leg?

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 16/12/2025 02:30

ThorsRaven · 15/12/2025 22:11

Both could be a lifetime of piss-taking.

Gigi would end up being "gee gees" as in the horses, which could then lead to her being nicknamed "horsey" or "donkey".

Or even worse... Some older male leering at 13 year old her "gis a ride little horsey".

While Tiggi could be: Tiggi > Tigger > Piglet > Piggy.

Or worse: Tiggi > Tigger > Pussy cat > pussy > [insert any vulgar reference to female genitals]

OP, if you were going to say anything, you might be better off gently reminding the parents that children and teenagers can be nasty, cruel and spiteful, and the playground can be a brutal place. Get them to consider how any name they choose could be used by school bullies.

This is the weirdest shit I have read on the internet today, and that's saying something.

Buildabear25 · 16/12/2025 02:24

There's an influencer on Instagram- super posh/rich. Her daughter is Gigi. It actually really suits her and it's grown on me as a lovely name. However, I do think it's short for Georgina.

There's not much you can do OP. Anything you say - it just won't go down well.

CypressGrove · 16/12/2025 01:58

GoodQueenWenceslaus · 15/12/2025 23:30

Of course it's OP's business. It's her grandchild, she's entitled to worry about the kid being bullied and laughed at at school or being held back career-wise.

What century are you working in? Neither of these names would raise an eyebrow in my workplace now, let alone in 20 years.

Mothership4two · 16/12/2025 01:57

I had a cousin called Gigi (full name Giselle) who, as a child, gave herself a nickname that stuck,

Agree Tiggi does sound like a cat's name and (to me) Gigi could be a pony or horse - sounds like gee-gee

Frozensun · 16/12/2025 01:53

Ellase · 15/12/2025 21:17

I’ll share only as I’m fairly certain neither of them use this website and they said they haven’t shared the names with anyone else but their two top names were Tiggi and Gigi

Do you know that other ‘news’ sites pick up posts from here and repost them all over social media? Your son and DIL my not be on here but they will be on other sites

DallazMajor · 16/12/2025 01:48

Whilst it’s not your place to say anything you definitely should recommend they use “ziggy wiggy” as a middle name.

Alexandrine · 16/12/2025 01:35

Yeah, they are pretty bad, especially Tiggy/Tiggi - why would you choose a name that could rhyme with Piggy? As a nickname it’s slightly different but as a given name imo, unless she is the slimmest girl ever it’s just asking for trouble at school. I wonder if there’s a subtle way to point that out like “Oh I’ve just remembered what Tiggy reminds me of… probably just me being silly but I hope it never causes any problems -you know what kids can be like”.

Gigi really isn’t my personal taste (sounds like a Cabaret dancer stereotype) but there were nearly 70 of them born in E&W last year and the name is rapidly increasing, probably thanks to Gigi Hadid. So I can’t see the name would cause their DD any issues these days. Horses for courses.

Bungle2168 · 16/12/2025 01:31

clary · 16/12/2025 00:35

I knew a woman called Pebble. She was a very successful teacher on the SLT at her school. I really don’t think being called Gigi will hold you back in your career, come on.

Were her parents Fred and Wilma?

Giraffehaver · 16/12/2025 01:09

You've named your offspring. Let them name theirs