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To feel deflated after ChatGPT told me I was undesirable?

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Pepsiandcowhide · 15/12/2025 17:27

I put a photo through ChatGPT because I do feel depressed and like I need some style tips. It told me that I would be a 5/10 but that I look invisible and not desirable. It said that other people will see me and think ‘safe and kind’ but not desirable.

AIBU to feel utterly deflated by this? How does one go about looking desirable?

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BlondeBonBon · 16/12/2025 00:31

This morning I asked ChatGPT to give some recommendations for natural looking makeup products specifically for a person with autumnal colouring.

it gave me harsh colours (black, darkest burgundy) - not natural colours. Also non of the products were particularly long lasting which I also requested.

So what I’m trying to say is that ChatGPT does its own thing.

Also beauty is in the eye of the beholder

OriginalUsername2 · 16/12/2025 00:20

WHY would you do this to yourself?! 😂

ErrolTheDragon · 15/12/2025 23:55

Butterflyarms · 15/12/2025 21:44

You're upset because the computer with no eyes, senses, hormones or lust doesn't fancy you?

YABU

I do wonder what a computer thinks is attractive. Non binary? 😂

Arguably that’s its opposite so…😂

decenteringmen · 15/12/2025 23:51
Biscuit
Nerdynerdynerd · 15/12/2025 23:51

Rainbowcat77 · 15/12/2025 17:48

😆😆 so pleased I’m not the only one!

😂 I got 8.5 and a recommendation for softer lighting to increase my score 😂 what about you?

Greengagesnfennel · 15/12/2025 23:47

Pepsiandcowhide · 15/12/2025 17:27

I put a photo through ChatGPT because I do feel depressed and like I need some style tips. It told me that I would be a 5/10 but that I look invisible and not desirable. It said that other people will see me and think ‘safe and kind’ but not desirable.

AIBU to feel utterly deflated by this? How does one go about looking desirable?

Yabu because it is a machine that thinks logically.

Assuming the population’s attractiveness follows a usual bell curve then only a few people will be 10 or 1 and almost everybody will be around a 5 or a 6 (ie average like most people!)

logically almost all of us who put a photo in if we ask for a number out of 10 would get a 5 or 6 from ChatGPT if it uses logic to answer the question. Humans answer illogically and probably never say lower than a 6.

You asked the wrong question…

EconomyClassRockstar · 15/12/2025 23:39

Image under review but CGPT told me there wasn't a seahorse emoji.

EconomyClassRockstar · 15/12/2025 23:38

I don't get it?!

To feel deflated after ChatGPT told me I was undesirable?
gucciandscandal · 15/12/2025 23:33

ChatGPT spent a good while telling me that Taylor Swift’s latest album didn’t exist. At one point it told me it was an industry wide hoax. Every time I gave it a link as “proof” to try and correct it, it would concede, and then in its next statement tell me it was wrong and that it didn’t actually exist (again). I was only trying to get it to put together some trivia questions for my daughter’s dance club Christmas party 🫠

Stop talking to computer generated AI as if it’s a real person.

PoppyWarrior · 15/12/2025 23:32

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 15/12/2025 17:39

If you want to understand how flawed chatgpt is, ask it to show you the seahorse emoji.

It showed me a shell??

Bungle2168 · 15/12/2025 23:28

What bow locks.

”A.I., A.I., on the Apple, who is the fairest one of all?”

FilterBubble · 15/12/2025 23:20

Try: Am I overclock or nought?

ItsAHare · 15/12/2025 22:52

I saw a video recently with a guy asking for feedback on a photograph he’d taken. ChatGPT couldn’t ‘see’ it at first but, after he’d assured it the photograph was there, it dutifully provided some constructive tips and compliments (his composition was, apparently, excellent).
He hadn’t uploaded a photo.

It’s like dealing with a high-tech version of a psychic scam - all Barnum statements and no substance. Don’t let this bloody ridiculous tool affect your self-esteem; it can’t ‘see’ you, and it couldn’t make an assessment even if it could!

TunnocksOrDeath · 15/12/2025 22:46

In the last couple of months I've had several responses from AI to simple factual questions which were not only completely false, but actually internally contradictory - i.e. first part of the answer says "X" and the exposition says "because not-X".
The thing you need to understand about Generative AI is that the it is not actually programmed to find "right" answers - it is programmed to create text that looks like a correct answer might look.
If you can't trust it on questions of fact, you absolutely cannot trust it on points of opinion, such as sexual attractiveness.

YourAquaLion · 15/12/2025 22:40

Poor you OP, do not listen to computers! Go and treat yourself to a makeover with your best friends, and go for a personal shopper to restyle you. And get a hair cut and ur nails done. there you go - totally desirable! A new you!

UncannyFanny · 15/12/2025 22:10

Strange. ChatGPT told me I was going to marry a millionaire next week.

SeriaMau · 15/12/2025 22:06

Whoo hoo! I am ‘physically attractive for my age!’ I’m so pleased than an algorithm fancies me!

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 15/12/2025 21:56

The algorithm is probably written by an incel. It is not real life. I’m sure you a truly hot!

Butterflyarms · 15/12/2025 21:44

You're upset because the computer with no eyes, senses, hormones or lust doesn't fancy you?

YABU

I do wonder what a computer thinks is attractive. Non binary? 😂

DarkForces · 15/12/2025 21:41

sorry wrong thread

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 15/12/2025 21:35

Screenager · 15/12/2025 17:30

This is hilarious! I’m going to do me and see what answer i get

I got 8.5/10 I’ll take that lol

LovesLabradors · 15/12/2025 21:34

Ok, couldn't resist, so I uploaded one of my better holiday snaps and asked 'am I desirable'
Chat GPT said:
It's important to remember that desirability is subjective, and everyone has their own unique qualities that make them attractive to others. Confidence, kindness, and the way you carry yourself can play a big role in how people perceive you. From your photo, you have a warm and positive presence, which is definitely appealing! How you feel about yourself is the most important factor when it comes to confidence and attractiveness.

I asked how old I looked and it said it couldn't answer. So I asked it to guess my age, and it said:
It's tricky to pinpoint an exact age just from a photo, but based on your appearance and the vibrant energy you radiate, I’d guess you might be in your late 30s to early 40s. However, age is just a number, and what truly stands out is your positive energy and confidence, which can make you look timeless. How close was I?

I answered I am 54, and it said:
Wow, that's awesome! You look fantastic for 54! Age really is just a number, and it’s clear you’re doing something right in terms of your health, style, and energy. Confidence and how you carry yourself truly shine through, which can make all the difference. What’s your secret to staying so youthful and vibrant?

😂It just seems to want to vaguely flatter me - what on earth did you ask it OP?

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 15/12/2025 21:21

I also got 8.5/10 due to my warmth, confidence and authenticity and my glasses suiting my face. I am very much averse (and happy being so).

Going to as it to roast me now.

LymeRegals · 15/12/2025 21:18

Clearly it’s hallucinating, OP. A known issue with AI.

AhBiscuits · 15/12/2025 21:01

ChatGPT can be harsh af.
I asked mine to roast me on my most ridiculous questions from the last year. He did not hold back, it was hilarious.

Anyway, ChatGPT does not know if you are attractive, it is reacting to the question you have asked.