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Why do people ask you for a present idea then ignore you?

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Ughhhhh77 · 15/12/2025 16:58

First world problem I know but why why why do people ask, “what would DC like for Christmas?” so you tell them a specific thing off their Christmas list within budget and then they DON’T BUY IT. Because now I have to go out and get it last minute when I’ve already done the whole mental load of the present anyway. It frustrates me so much, I’ve started saying to people “please let me know if you don’t get it so I can get it for them”. But it sounds so rude and ungrateful 🙈

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ThatGladTiger · 15/12/2025 17:18

It is so annoying! I used to pass on what the kids wanted to grandma and have to think of other ideas. To end up with her picking something else and them not getting what they actually asked for. I now always make sure we buy what they want and either say “I don’t know” or ask for vouchers from family!

zipadeedodah · 15/12/2025 17:18

It's deliberate spite - to make sure they don't get something thats wanted.

Needmorelego · 15/12/2025 17:16

I agree it's so annoying.
I often think it's nice if the gifts match or go together.
When my daughter got her Baby Born doll one grandmother got a pretend cot for the doll, the other grandmother got clothes and accessories.
This was all co-ordinated by the 3 of us.
It made a really nice gift all together.
I don't think you can insist on others following the list - but if they actually ask I don't understand the logic of them ignoring it.