Dog has me at my wits end.

I used to do what I called a 'sniffy walk' for my German shepherd, it knackered her out much more than a long walk. I used chopped up raw carrots into little pieces, took her to our back garden which is actually a field across the road, sprinkled the bits all over the grass. She spent hours sniffing them out. She'd be tired out and calm for hours after.

Entirely your fault OP. You’ve got a dog without thoroughly researching the breed or investing in proper training. Now you want to dump it off somewhere like a piece of rubbish. Hope your kids do the same to you when you get old.

I don't blame her. Long time dog owner here who made huge numbers of mistakes when we got our much loved Lab X who got lots of training and lots of walks and was not perfect.
Unless I've missed it, OP doesn't say if she's at home all day with endless time to deal with the dog or whether she's trying to work at home. If she's trying to work, then no way can she spend 3-4 hours at least walking, playing with, training the dog and it would be better off in daycare, which is monumentally expensive. Maybe agility training might help if it's gently done but it's yet more time we have no idea that OP has.
On holiday in Cornwall I noticed nearly every dog (and there were loads) was a poodle cross. As a child, the only poodle I ever knew belonged to someone who had to have it put down as it bit people. It was a very highly strung, snappy little dog and yet here we are, breeding those genes into nearly every crossbreed dog.

I have a Cavapoo and she is nothing like this. Most well natured dog, quite happy on her own, rarely barks and has never destructed a thing, maybe I’m just lucky

Not surprised to hear that, thanks.

Sorry OP- not intending to have a go at all, but 3.5 miles total isn’t very long. Do you have enough time in the day to up the mileage? Or funds to book a dog walker?

A bit like mumsnet

He’s also not an accredited behaviourist and has no recognised qualifications.

Not an avid watcher but he has never asked (for me) two critical questions. Is the dog neutered and does it get enough exercise.

Millions of totally random and unregulated sources 😬

What a good idea. Of course some will say you need experience but chat gpt will be able to access millions of sources for advice.

I have two cavapoo littermates. I asked chatGPT for help in a low moment. It has changed my life (and theirs) and my house is so much calmer. I was at my wits end and couldn’t cope much longer - I’ve used two real life trainers previously, one was excellent but ChatGPT was like having that trainer in my house to guide me through every eventuality. They’re not perfect now but a million times better and still improving. My dogs are almost 8. Highly recommend trying it, you won’t regret it.

edit to add: we already used crates at bedtime but now use them more during the day too for them to settle in. You’ll be surprised how quickly they learn to switch off with the right leadership from you. It was stressful but totally worth it!

Hats off to you being able to retrain a dog. Thats not easy and your dog is extremely lucky. I dont get the feeling the OP was looking at putting in the hard yards and dedication needed to achieve similar.

If people didn’t buy these dogs there would be no market to breed them for … irresponsible people, I WANT as dog so I shall have one regardless as to whether I am capable of looking after it properly!

People should not breed dogs like this.

Are you just doing walks? It’s probably not enough. My dog does around 7-10 hours a week at a scent training ‘club’, hydro/fun swimming 1-2 times a month, daily walks (albeit she will sometimes refuse a rainy walk as it’s not her main source of stimulation anyway), daily training for 10-15 mins, 10-15 mins of daily physio exercises.

In between that she mostly just wants down time on her own or snoozy cuddles.

She’s a dachshund, so technically a working breed, but we do a lot to tire her brain out.

After 8 years?!? 🤣🤣

Disgusting comment. Hope you don’t have pets … or kids for that matter!!

Then it’s someone else’s problem … typical. People like this should not have dogs!!!!

You’ve allowed her to get like this over an 8 year period … she should have been trained when a puppy!! This is now the result of poor pet ownership … then get rid of her onto someone else, disgusting.
You need to sort this out, take her training and keep going and working with her at home. Is she crate trained?

Agree with this 👆

She’s having a long gap between walks, what’s happening during the day? Have you tried a lick mat, snuffle mat or a kong? Some hide and seek in the garden ? It’s a long time with no mental stimulation

Please don't rehome her. She's 8 with separation anxiety - what the hell do you think will happen to her?

Poor dog.

My friend has a cavapoochon so i'm guessing pretty similar and he is the most annoying dog in the world. Not his fault, she hasn't trained him and doesn't walk him which I think is bloody cruel.

I'm sorry but a walk of 2 miles and 1.5 miles is not a big walk, its a small walk. He is bored and understimulated hence his behaviour, poor thing. Apart from those two tiny walks per day what else are you doing with him, or do you just go about your day and expect him to potter about and amuse himself?

I don’t think OP is coming back.