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Told me repeatedly about the gloves for ex-DH, AIBU?

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Justnoodaga · 14/12/2025 21:19

DH and I separated in October. He had been having an affair and he’s been absolutely bloody awful to me. My parents know all about it.

We are keeping the Christmas plans to have Christmas at my parents house (his parents are no longer here). It’s been a very difficult year for one of our DC and we want to keep the stability as they have Christmas holidays. Ex DH has found somewhere to move to and the tenancy starts in January.

My parents have bought ex DH a pair of gloves for Christmas. They don’t actually know him massively well as we lived abroad for first few years and only ever had one Christmas all together.

I don’t have an issue with these gloves specifically or the fact of them (though I do think it’s unnecessary) but what I do have an issue with is that this topic has come up repeatedly. No exaggeration my mum has probably told me about these gloves and how nice they are, how expensive they are, for the last four times I’ve met her or spoken to her on the phone. She makes a point of bringing it up. Initially I asked why they had bothered after what he’s done and they said it would be embarrassing not to get him something when everyone else has. Fair enough I accepted that. But why the constant mentioning of it? That’s a sincere question, am I reading into this too much or is this a nasty thing to do? Is she getting a kick out of it and if so why?!?!

OP posts:
Sillysoggyspaniel · 14/12/2025 21:22

"Mum, I don't care. Give them or don't give them, but can we stop talking about the bloody gloves."

This would be valid even if you were still together!

Screenager · 14/12/2025 21:21

Sounds really weird. But also, you’re a stronger/nicer person than i am!… there’s no way is be entertaining a cheating ex for Christmas