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AIBU to think puberty blocker trial is child abuse?

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F1rstDoNoHarm · 14/12/2025 12:53

Have we not learnt from Tavistock closure?

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AnteatersAreCute · 14/12/2025 17:50

What clinical trial evidence is already available for the use of puberty blockers in children with gender dysphoria? A trial will only be ethical if it adds significantly to current knowledge of how best to treat these children.

I believe the Cass review suggested that a carefully performed clinical trial would be necessary to test the idea that puberty blockers were effective.

Ihatetomatoes · 14/12/2025 17:29

OLDERME · 14/12/2025 13:11

You are absolutely correct. No other way to describe it.

This.

It's abuse of vulnerable children.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 14/12/2025 17:28

It's absolutely horrifying that any parent would go along with a child asking for this.

Helleofabore · 14/12/2025 17:28

There is a difference in blocking puberty for precocious puberty and letting puberty then start and finish and not allowing puberty to finish fully because the treatment is then switched to the sex hormones in quantities for the opposite sex.

It seems dishonest to use precocious puberty comparative to the other usage.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 14/12/2025 17:26

I've been banging on about this for about a decade, I think. The thing that leapt out at me right from the start was that if a child is put on puberty blockers their brain isn't going to mature and they will be stuck with a child's brain. That is a very tough thing for a child to cope with while their peers are going through normal puberty and starting to grow up. But they are then asked to make one of the biggest decisions of their lives, i.e. whether to go onto cross-sex hormones, without the necessary maturity to even understand what they're being asked. Think back to childhood. Did any of us understand what sex was about before puberty? Did we have any grasp of what an orgasm might be like, of what it might be to have sexual attraction to another person? Not really, I'd say. What about having children? So many kids are quite determined they will never want to have children of their own, but the majority will come round to the idea in adult life. How can anybody think that a child who hasn't gone through puberty can make the decision to give up an ordinary sexual response and to become infertile? Of course they can't.

Shedmistress · 14/12/2025 17:26

BlackCatDiscoClub · 14/12/2025 15:52

I believe all drugs should be trialled. This is a medical trial and the results will determine whether these are safe to prescibe. Saying that drug trials are child abuse would mean that we could never trial medicines to make sure they are safe, leading to worse outcomes for thousands of people. I say that as someone who had a family member with muscular dystrophy. When he was a child his parents consented to radical new surgery. It was a risk, but one which if it paid off (which it did) would lead to better quality of life for him. His bravery, and his parents bravery, paved the way for an evidenced based treatment that helped thousands of boys.

No it isnt a trial as they are giving them to all the kids, and we know what happens with these drugs already.

Not sure any condition even exists where the treatment is to literally stop kids from progressing down the path of growing up into adults. It is absolutely mental.

F1rstDoNoHarm · 14/12/2025 17:21

BlackCatDiscoClub · 14/12/2025 15:52

I believe all drugs should be trialled. This is a medical trial and the results will determine whether these are safe to prescibe. Saying that drug trials are child abuse would mean that we could never trial medicines to make sure they are safe, leading to worse outcomes for thousands of people. I say that as someone who had a family member with muscular dystrophy. When he was a child his parents consented to radical new surgery. It was a risk, but one which if it paid off (which it did) would lead to better quality of life for him. His bravery, and his parents bravery, paved the way for an evidenced based treatment that helped thousands of boys.

I agree that drugs should be trialled. I also think it's entirely reasonable to assume that gender clinics operate under the same principles as any other area of medicine. Sadly this is not the case. What is actually happening in gender clinics is a medical scandal. The puberty blocker trial isn't like any other medical trial - and this is precisely the problem. It is catastrophically flawed.

If you are interested in the details, you can read more about it in the Open Letter to Wes Streeting from Marcus and Susan Evans, reported by Nick Wallis, an investigative journalist, who is well known for his work and books on Post Office scandal.

Tavistock whistleblowers call for immediate halt to puberty blocker trial – Gender Blog

Tavistock whistleblowers call for immediate halt to puberty blocker trial

Marcus and Susan Evans Susan and Marcus Evans – two of the first whistleblowers involved in exposing the scandal at the Tavistock’s GenderIdentity Development Service (GIDS) – hav…

https://genderblog.net/tavistock-whistleblowers-call-for-immediate-halt-to-puberty-blocker-trial/

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 14/12/2025 17:17

Inchworms · 14/12/2025 15:18

I didn’t say anything about what would happen later. Purely that the poster I quoted implied that people would stay on blockers forever and as you’ve rightly noted, that is not the case.

No I didn't imply that. I said there is a massive difference between using them to delay and to prevent puberty. Those who go on to cross-sex hormones are using them as a way of preventing puberty.

Additionally, it is not clear whether those who use them up delay puberty beyond the normal timeline will go through the normal cognitive development associated with puberty if they come off them. They will have the physical changes though.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 14/12/2025 17:15

Very disturbing, wtf are we doing to our kids.
They need our protection.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 14/12/2025 17:10

Winelondon · 14/12/2025 15:45

and who in their sane mind would have set up a bloody clinic (tavistock clinic to facilitate young people changing gender in the first place!!! totally insane thinking. I feel so sorry for the fact young people are exposed to this sort of mentally derranged thinking!

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As I understand it, it wasn't set up to facilitate that at all. It was a specialist clinic set up in the late 1980s for a tiny number of children and teenagers in England and Wales (about two thirds boys, one third girls) who were experiencing extreme distress related to their gender, i.e. feeling that somehow in spite of having a perfectly healthy male or female boy there was something about their personality that made them feel they couldn't actually be male or female. They felt more like the opposite sex. This makes no sense at all unless you think that there is only one valid way to be a boy/man or a girl/woman, which is obviously nonsense, given how different gender stereotypes are from one society to another and from one historical period to another.

At the time the standard treatment for gender dysphoria in children was watchful waiting. The child and parents/guardians would have many appointments. A detailed medical and developmental history would be taken. The psychiatrists and other clinicians would diagnose any other conditions that might be affecting the child, e.g. depression, anxiety, eating disorder. They would look for signs of neurodevelopmental disorders, e.g. autism, ADHD. They would ask about things that might have affected the child, e.g. medical problems, family break up, bereavement, witnessing domestic violence, experiencing abuse or bullying. There would be a lot of talking. It was important to talk to the adults as well as the children to try to get it across to them that if their little boy was a sensitive, quiet child who liked dressing up and playing with dolls that didn't mean he wasn't a real boy. How were they responding to his developing personality?

The rationale behind watchful waiting was that research showed that virtually all children and teenagers feeling like this became reconciled to their sex once they were through puberty. Only a tiny minority went to the adult gender clinics to ask for medical intervention to make their bodies look more like the opposite sex.

Unfortunately, however, a Dutch gender clinic decided to try a new approach, prescribing puberty blockers and then if the child and parents wanted it to put the child on cross-sex hormones. This was supposed to happen only in a tiny number of cases after exhaustive assessment. It didn't. The US medical industry spotted a huge moneymaking opportunity and very soon the standard treatment across all wealthy countries (oddly, gender dysphoria is not a big thing in poor countries, go figure) was to rush kids onto puberty blockers more or less on request.

Look at the numbers of children seen at GIDS many years ago. Look how fast they were going up and how quickly the balance swung from mostly boys to mostly girls. The clinicians who just accepted this without wanting to know why have failed in their responsibility. They really ought to be held to acccount.

AIBU to think puberty blocker trial is child abuse?
OchonAgusOchonOh · 14/12/2025 16:49

Inchworms · 14/12/2025 14:10

Without getting into the wider debate, everyone will go through puberty and the use in kids who are questioning their gender is to delay puberty while further investigation into whether they will start on cross-gender hormones is done. It’s not about putting off puberty forever.

It's not actually clear whether they will go through the cognitive changes associated with puberty, particularly if they start on cross sex hormones

Lottapianos · 14/12/2025 16:46

'Puberty is uncomfortable. Painful. Messy. Confusing. This is normal. Calling it dysphoria and claiming it needs irreversible treatment pathologises a perfectly normal condition that everybody experiences.'

Very well said @JellySaurus . Adults should be reassuring youngsters that what they're going through is perfectly normal, and that it will pass. Dysphoria is an unpleasant but common experience when you're going through an enormous hormonal transition - pathologising it does no one any good

bridgetreilly · 14/12/2025 16:46

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 15:51

I meant all medication. Everything will need to be tested on its target group.

Medicine is rarely tested on under-18s because it is fundamentally unethical to do so.

TheNightingalesStarling · 14/12/2025 16:38

Society needs to stop lying to children. The children think they want these drugs, they think they are "hated", they think if anything negative issaid it its "transphobia".

If they were supported, taught that it was ok to be different, that society doesn't gate them maybe they wouldn't think drugs were necessary.

Cynic17 · 14/12/2025 16:30

You are 100% right, OP.

JellySaurus · 14/12/2025 16:29

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 16:11

Some will experience severe distress and dysphoria by going through puberty into a body they aren’t comfortable in - I’m not sure how anyone could be against medication that will help with this. Testing is the first step.

Puberty is uncomfortable. Painful. Messy. Confusing. This is normal. Calling it dysphoria and claiming it needs irreversible treatment pathologises a perfectly normal condition that everybody experiences. Pathologises an important life stage, and replaces it with something even more unpleasant.

PencilsInSpace · 14/12/2025 16:26

BlackCatDiscoClub · 14/12/2025 15:52

I believe all drugs should be trialled. This is a medical trial and the results will determine whether these are safe to prescibe. Saying that drug trials are child abuse would mean that we could never trial medicines to make sure they are safe, leading to worse outcomes for thousands of people. I say that as someone who had a family member with muscular dystrophy. When he was a child his parents consented to radical new surgery. It was a risk, but one which if it paid off (which it did) would lead to better quality of life for him. His bravery, and his parents bravery, paved the way for an evidenced based treatment that helped thousands of boys.

She didn't say drug trials are child abuse, she said the puberty blocker trial is child abuse.

We already know they're not safe to prescribe because the expected effects already constitute harm to children's healthy bodies, before even considering unwanted side effects such as loss of bone density and a significant drop in IQ. This study will provide very little useful evidence because the control group are also being given the drugs, just a year later.

It is deeply unethical to prescibe these drugs to a whole new group of children without even bothering to collect and analyse the data from the children who have been previously treated.

Sometimes it's worth trialing and prescribing drugs and treatments with known harms when they are used to treat serious life-threatening and life-limiting conditions. Drugs which reliably induce permanent sterility should only be trialed in children for the most serious conditions, where death is the likely alternative outcome, not for mental health conditions which tend to resolve naturally if puberty is allowed to continue unhindered, not for conditions which weren't even really a 'thing' until a couple of decades ago.

JellySaurus · 14/12/2025 16:23

BlackCatDiscoClub · 14/12/2025 15:52

I believe all drugs should be trialled. This is a medical trial and the results will determine whether these are safe to prescibe. Saying that drug trials are child abuse would mean that we could never trial medicines to make sure they are safe, leading to worse outcomes for thousands of people. I say that as someone who had a family member with muscular dystrophy. When he was a child his parents consented to radical new surgery. It was a risk, but one which if it paid off (which it did) would lead to better quality of life for him. His bravery, and his parents bravery, paved the way for an evidenced based treatment that helped thousands of boys.

We already know that these drugs are dangerous! There is so much evidence of harmful, permanent, side-effects from their use in slowing down precocious puberty, that they are used for the shortest time possible, just until the child reaches the lowest normal age for puberty. And then they are allowed to go through all the normal hormonal changes of puberty. Which include emotional and mental maturation.

At the Tavistock, almost every single child who was put on puberty blockers went on to take cross-sex hormones. They never had a chance to mature emotionally or mentally. Yet the vast majority of gender-confused/distressed children come to terms with their sexed bodies as they mature - when given the chance to.

What should be being trialled is the role of psychotherapy, social therapy, talking therapies, anti-depressants etc in treating these distressed children and their parents.

What should also be explored are the outcomes for children who were given blockers and those who were allowed to mature without interference: the state of their health, happiness, sexual orientation, and even their gender identity. There should be at least ten years of data…

VaddaABeetch · 14/12/2025 16:22

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 16:11

Some will experience severe distress and dysphoria by going through puberty into a body they aren’t comfortable in - I’m not sure how anyone could be against medication that will help with this. Testing is the first step.

but even if children are uncomfortable with the body of their sex they can never have the body of the opposite sex.

Puberty blockers will stop the completely natural process of a childs transition to adulthood in favour of being medicalised with artificial hormones for the rest of their lives.

Telling a child that they can be the opposite sex is a lie, cruel and imoral

FloralHighNotes · 14/12/2025 16:16

No child should be given puberty blockers because adults have lied to them by telling them they can change sex. They can't. It's impossible.

They are being sold an impossible dream that will damage them physically and mentally for the rest of their lives.

Very few of them will ever "pass" and those that do will only pass some of the time. Those closest to them might pretend they have changed sex, but literally no one will actually believe it.

These children need honesty from the adults who are supposed to care for them. They need to be encouraged to like and love themselves for who they actually are and not be persuaded that drugs and surgery can make them someone else.

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 16:11

LastTrainsEast · 14/12/2025 16:03

Yes, they are running tests to see just how much damage it does to children who do not have a condition that needs medicating.

That should be grounds for arrest and the other sort of trial.

Some will experience severe distress and dysphoria by going through puberty into a body they aren’t comfortable in - I’m not sure how anyone could be against medication that will help with this. Testing is the first step.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 14/12/2025 16:10

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 13:26

Some kids will really benefit from
puberty blockers. How else will you ensure it is safe for use without tests?

Note: Not all families think like you, and they deserve to make the right choice for their family.

Puberty blockers were designed to prevent precocious puberty in very, very young children, ie where babies were already seen to be sexually maturing.

They've since been used to halt sexual maturation in teenagers who think they were born in the wrong body.

One use is outright abuse, one use is medically necessary. Which is which to you?

LastTrainsEast · 14/12/2025 16:03

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 14:33

That is why they are running tests, rather than allowing them for use.

Yes, they are running tests to see just how much damage it does to children who do not have a condition that needs medicating.

That should be grounds for arrest and the other sort of trial.

OrangeSlices998 · 14/12/2025 16:02

For precocious puberty they’re used for a short period to delay puberty, not to stop it forever. Puberty is a huge developmental process the body goes through, it’s not just boobs whatever, the brain changes and so do muscle development, heart & lung development - it’s huge. Why we’d want to do this to children and affect their sexual development forever is beyond me.

yorkshiretoffee · 14/12/2025 16:02

BlackCatDiscoClub · 14/12/2025 15:52

I believe all drugs should be trialled. This is a medical trial and the results will determine whether these are safe to prescibe. Saying that drug trials are child abuse would mean that we could never trial medicines to make sure they are safe, leading to worse outcomes for thousands of people. I say that as someone who had a family member with muscular dystrophy. When he was a child his parents consented to radical new surgery. It was a risk, but one which if it paid off (which it did) would lead to better quality of life for him. His bravery, and his parents bravery, paved the way for an evidenced based treatment that helped thousands of boys.

What about using the information from the thousands of children worldwide who have already had them?