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To be told to put in £20 to cover presents for team leads

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Hettiejane · 13/12/2025 21:18

So I work in a large team, I've been emailed along with the rest of my team by one of my colleagues to put in £20 each to cover a gift for our 2 seniors, their manager and and the reception staff.
We've had our office night out with no money paid towards it and no gifts from senior management. The seniors and their manager are on significant more money than the rest of us and tbh I've had some issues with one of the receptionists being quite rude to me.
AIBU to think its a bit much to ask for? There's about 15 or so in the team.

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Hettiejane · 13/12/2025 21:35

Glad everyone is in agreement thought I was going mad!
Now dont know how to handle it in the office, one staff member seems to take responsibility for these things and will chase us up for money and write down people's names who have paid on the envelope, its ridiculous

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KarmenPQZ · 13/12/2025 21:31

Wow that’s insane. Receptionists sure but not senior managers and they’re ahit managers if they’re not putting a stop to this craziness.

Vaxtable · 13/12/2025 21:30

I would be refusing. I never expected my staff to buy me anything, and I bought a small gift for my reportees

As Op says management are on far more than their staff

Pavementworrier · 13/12/2025 21:30

Like you're my colleagues not my kids

Pavementworrier · 13/12/2025 21:29

Absolutely no way I'd do this (I also ignore my boss's annual request to contribute to the staff party for juniors and only give to collections for people I know well and like -im not that popular at work 🤣)

InterestedDad37 · 13/12/2025 21:29

Way out of order!

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Hettiejane · 13/12/2025 21:28

biscuitscake · 13/12/2025 21:25

You should be doing a whip round for the staff who clean the offices and empty the bins not management. I wouldn't fancy working there if that's the norm!

Totally agree!
It seems like there is a collection every other week at the moment,
Id much rather give my money to our domestic staff

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Brefugee · 13/12/2025 21:28

say no. Or ignore.

Or make a counter proposal for a fiver each for the cleaning staff?

bingocard · 13/12/2025 21:27

I manage a team of 20 people I would be mortified. A couple of the team always arrange birthday presents for people and I've asked them loads of times to stop as it puts unfair pressure on people, which thank god they are now dropping and we are just going to do secret Santa moving forward

biscuitscake · 13/12/2025 21:25

You should be doing a whip round for the staff who clean the offices and empty the bins not management. I wouldn't fancy working there if that's the norm!

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Hettiejane · 13/12/2025 21:24

Thanks in previous teams ive always thrown in a fiver to maybe get flowers for the senior but then they've always put money towards our xmas dinner and drinks and also a small gift each.
Just seems strange for such a large amount especially for the very senior staff who earn a considerable amount more and have little direct involvement with the team

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Neverflyingagain · 13/12/2025 21:21

I would be horrified if people I managed back in the day were instructed to do this. I bought my team gifts!

Brightbluesomething · 13/12/2025 21:19

I’d not be happy if my staff were required to put in for a gift for me. Say no.

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