Should I do all the housework because I have no job?

Excellent. OP, tell him that you're not paying 50/50 financially anymore. It's his job.

Is this a pisstake? It’s hard to tell on here sometimes!

It is not a new job you need OP.

Don't be a twat. There's all sorts of reasons for being being tired. You sound like the partner.

@lulu55xxx Your DP is a manipulative, emotionally abusive, controlling prick. And he's gas-lighted you into thinking you have to do everything at home, that you can't do anything right, criticizes you about your appearance and shows nothing but contempt for you.

Please, please, please end it now.

He’s horrible and has no right to speak to you when you’re down you are doing more if you’re still paying half. He should be paying more 70% since he is working an you aren’t

While you don't work, the burdens of making your household work fall to you. The financial burden is (hopefully temporarily) his. So yes, it's down to you to cook, clean and do laundry, and do all the reading and homework extension exercises with your children.

Please dump him.

What is the housing situation?

I would ask him to pay you - for the 50% of the jobs you ae now doing.
You do the same 50% you have always done but - no - not all of them.

Endo is very unpleasant.

there are things that are worth trying that might help. It’s very individual to the person so you often have to work yourself into way through a few.

personally I used the depo injection and then the implant which meant I didn’t have periods. It prevented a lot of the pain.

they are quite long lasting though so you might want to try pill/mini pill first.

also mefenamic acid is a painkiller that is very effective for endo that your gp can prescribe.

have you had/are you on the list for a Lap? Burning it all off made such a difference to my life.

"Why? OP is contributing to the bills same as she always did. Why is she now responsible for being a servant to a perfectly competent adult?"

A pretty common approach on household chores sahm. Threads etc is to arrange things so both partners have similar amounts of free time....

That doesn’t follow at all from what I said,

for what it’s worth as you’ve raised this I think there are a lot of factors that impact what is a “fair” share of housework including but not limited to:

disability
caring for children
caring for other relatives eg elderly parents
ability and willingness to outsource work to cleaners/housekeepers etc.
money
free time

it certainly isn’t the case that I think that housework should be split by the reverse of income - in my case I am severely disabled and unable to physically do most of it. Most of it is outsourced and very little is done by me.

It’s clear from your op precisely why your mental health is in tatters. For some utterly unfathomable reason you are choosing to remain in a relationship with a cunt.

Absolutely not.
No able bodied adult should have another person tidy up after them or expect to be ‘looked after’. Relationships should be equal give take.

You're off work for your mental health and he's treating you like that?! He sounds awful. And it's not even just doing the normal housework, he's creating extra work for you. I think your health might improve more quickly without him

Yes - I’m a SAHM and I do most of the housework which I think is fair as both DC are at school now and DP works full time.

However, DP wouldn’t expect me to do anything if I was unwell, he does make me drinks and snacks and he does tidy up after himself, does his own ironing, house and car maintenance etc.

Your problem is your DP and how he treats you. I’d be using my savings to leave if I were you…..

This isn't about housework. This is about the fact that this dickhead thinks he's entitled to treat you like shit now you're not working. Despite you still paying 50/50!

I'd certainly expect whoever wasn't working to do more housework/chores than the one who was. However! This is NOT what's happening here, he's using it as an excuse to be a bully and a nasty bastard. I'd be astonished if being with this idiot isn't wrecking your mh, it sure will eventually.

I'm sorry you suffer so much with the endo, my dd has it and it's dreadful. The only way she can cope is taking the mini pill every day without a break. Please do NOT have kids with this loser if you haven't already. He will bully you relentlessly. You deserve better. 💐

i assumed this was a woman.

why do you feel I (shouldn’t/wouldn’t) say that to a woman?

genuinely baffled

He’s the issue here. You’re contributing 50/50 and have an ongoing health issue.

Is your mental health a mess because your partner is an arsehole? If I wasn't working I would do most of the housework, but for a man who acted like this, I would not want to be in the same house as him in the first place.

Deduct house services from what you put into the pot

Urgh did you know he was an obnoxious cunt before you left your job? At least you know now.

He's a bully.

He's a fucking arsehole. Tell him to fuck off. Disclaimer - I am pissed.

If he was paying all the expenses then yes. But running the house, does not mean picking up after another adult. So you still wouldn't be doing everything.

If you're still tipping up half then hand the lazy fucker his arse.