We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

You can't live like this. I mean, you definitely can (and should) have lovely evenings chatting to interesting people, but having a miserable man who makes you walk on eggshells is NOT how you should be going into 2026. I hope this weekend gives you the impetuous you need to LTB!

Look you’re not compatible and need to separate. Don’t waste anymore time on him.

Now you have had a taste of freedom, consider how nice the rest of your life could be without this millstone of a man dragging you down!

You get one shot at life OP, do you want this to be your forever? Really?
Walking on egg shells, never doing anything fun…

Get rid.

I imagine you'll be in for a mega sulk this morning OP. Hope it all goes OK.

You sound great! Far too good for Arseface there!

I bet you'll get a 'punishment sulk/strop' this morning... use it as the springboard to get free! 🤗

Sorry for your loss @SparklyGlitterballs

Glad you had a lovely evening. Now to sort out a happy DP-free Christmas for yourself.

Hopefully your night out last night gave you a small taste of how much more fun and interesting your life could be if you ditched this man. Don't be dragged any further into his life of solitude and misery. Life's too short, believe me (my DH died last year aged 59). You don't live together, so make plans to go it alone when you get back. I reckon you'd soon build up a solid social life and reignite friendships; hopefully meet interesting new people. Just don't get caught up in the "we've been together 8 years, so I need to stay with him" mindset. Live the life you want, and the one you deserve.

So pleased you enjoyed your evening.

You have the luxury of not being wedded to him or tied by property and/ or children
Make the most of that position and set yourself free xx

I’m so sorry I didn’t see this in time - I’d have been commenting to say absolutely go out to eat! I know it’s daunting especially in a restaurant environment but actually it’s much more common than you think. Before I had my son I always used to go to the pictures alone, would go on little outings like to museums etc by myself and it was lovely. My viewpoint is why should we miss out on life because we’re waiting for somebody to go with us? We shouldn’t miss out! We have as much right to enjoy these things as anyone, and life is so short. 🧡

So glad you had a lovely evening, this can be the start of a new chapter for you filled with lots of lovely evenings without this awful man dragging you down.

Please dump him. He’s a pathetic loser.

Oh God, I'm having flashbacks to my marriage to a horribly moody, abusive man. He would be like this - ruining birthday parties, family events, holidays, and most weekends.

I cannot STAND men like this. My late father was just the same. Who on earth do they think they ARE? It's just another way that many men throw their weight around and dominate women.

I'd rather live in a nunnery for a thousand years than put up ever again with a man who doesn't think he needs to be pleasant.

Well done. And no matter what he says, live YOUR life the way YOU want to live it, from now on

Now to run the rest of your life in a lovely way!

I’m so glad you went out 💐
Maybe time to have a think about how compatible you are and if this is long term, OP. You sound lovely-I promise there’s more to life than this.

Life is too damn short.
Keep that mantra in your head, enjoy your jazz, and think seriously if this man builds you up or brings you down.

I hope you’re having a great night. It can be fun going out on your own.

OP, I'm so sorry to hear this in fact I was absolutely gobsmacked to read your words, every single one of your posts I could have written! I have the same problem, a partner, been together eight years, don't live with, absolutely 100% was not like this at the beginning, very slowly crept up getting more and more miserable, (you could say grumpy but it's way beyond that) and it's not a financial thing, and I don't think it's a mental health thing but he won't talk about it and he won't see a doctor or anything so I wouldn't know, and life is like walking on eggshells. You make these plans together, in fact most of it is his input and you go along just to not rock the boat, and then when you go out there, he gets more and more miserable like you were the one dragging him along and he really doesn't want to go, and it doesn't make any sense, and you try your best to be light and easy going and happy and keep the mood good, and sometimes it helps a little bit for the most part it's horrible. And when he's off sulking or in the shower or having a nap and you're sitting there thinking why am I here? Why am I doing this? This is ridiculous. How did I get to this point?

I was so happy to hear that you decided to go out for yourself for the evening to a jazz bar and have something to eat because you know what, my god, I would have done the exact same thing! It's utterly astounding to read your words because if I didn't know better, and I had some kind of dissociative second personality, I would have thought that I was writing these posts myself and just didn't remember it.

His behaviour sounds petulant and grumpy. Is he a homebird generally and doesn't much like going to different places? Not making excuses for the idiot, he could have said that before you booked.

I wouldn't be able to cope with a man child with the grumps. You did the right thing to go out yourself, it is probably amazing him that you would go out without him!

I have to admit that my DP and I enjoy different things (during the day) when away but we know this and it's not a grumpy thing, it's by mutual agreement. If there is something we would both enjoy, we'll do that, otherwise he does his thing and I do mine. Works perfectly since who wants to be with someone who is yawning and bored and can't wait to move on from YOUR thing, and vice versa? It means there's lots to talk about and go over when we go out to lunch and dinner. I'd say there are many couples who would LIKE to each do their own thing, but habit makes it a together thing. Anyway I digress.

If you are not happy that this is a one off, think about forging another life for yourself. The life we do have is very short. Best of luck.

Have a really good evening and dump the miserable fucker when you get home.

Good for you! That was very brave and you’ll have a great time without him bringing you down!