We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

God he sounds awful. You sound lovely and fun!

The only reason to go away and spend it in a hotel is if you're planning to be naked all weekend!

You don’t live together so presumably you have no financial or other ties.

Give yourself and early Christmas present ans dump him!

That really isn't any way to live.

What right has he to be angry with you? Why go away and spend it in a hotel room?

He sounds awful, what is he bringing to your life?!

His initials weren't B.A. by any chance, were they?? He sounds identical to my exH, who also liked to go to Paris.

Just go out and have a nice breakfast somewhere before he gets up. Take your stuff with you.

He's stopped trying Op, 8 years in he doesn't feel the need to be nice anymore. You had a lovely evening, you could have a lot of them without him.

Hope you had some sleep, have a nice breakfast on your own, get home and delete his number as an early christmas present to yourself to not have to deal with this shit anymore

Must say, it's brilliant that you don't live together.
It's a simple case of "bye now" if you please.

I’m just wondering why you are with this man? What are you getting from this relationship?

You will get the mega ‘man baby’ sulking today.. so repulsive.
Dump him OP. You had a much nicer evening on your own and clearly are sociable and able to chat to new people.
Don’t let this misery of a man dull your light and waste any more of your precious life. You won’t regret it!

Well done for going out on your own! Life is too short to sacrifice your joy for someone else’s self inflicted misery.

If there’s a good man under whatever your partner is playing at, then you can potentially salvage the relationship. But you need to do the things you want to do without taking his negativity into consideration. Tell him you would love to do things together but if he won’t enjoy them you’ll just do them alone. Don’t try convince him, just go out , book the things, treat yourself on your birthdays and just because, go on your own or with friends, and invite people round for dinner because it’s your home too.

He will realise that you don’t need him to have fun, and he can’t keep you both miserable. He might then step up and start making an effort to have shared experiences with you. But in the process you might realise that you enjoy those experiences more without him.

It’s a win win for you to just live your life without letting him drag you down (whether that’s by ending the relationship or otherwise).

Oh fuck him. Just fuck him. Manipulative, controlling and angry.
Go home and ditch his arse.

Was going to add, the final straw came when he tried to ruin my sisters wedding by being rude and obnoxious to my family. That was the end for me.

I had a bf like this many years ago. He could switch into nasty mode at sny time.. nasty as in ignoring me/belittling me in front of other people/ being cold on trips away and really grumpy. It was a horrible time in my life, I never knew what mood he was going to be in, trod on eggshells constantly and my anxiety and stress levels were through the roof. I recall clearly one weekend in Paris which your situation reminds me of so clearly.

The best thing I ever did was dump his arse. It was a horrible time in my life, but the relief of getting rid and subsequent relationships with ‘normal’ people who didn’t switch moods faster than their underwear, was such a revelation and a relief.

Has he done anything like this before? On a special event? Birthday, Christmas, holiday?

He wanted to know what you were playing at?! What a joker- not being controlled by him!

No kids, property or marriage? It sounds like you’re tied together by habit. Rip the plaster off and walk away- quickly!

Can't see the connection. Nothing wrong I. Not living together. However not a good way to spend time together and I'm not sure id bother

Well done op, I’m so glad you went out, dinner at a jazz bar sounds amazing and I’m jealous!! Sounds like you can do much better than this grumpy boring fun killing loser.

So glad you went out and had a lovely time.

Are you sure he is not abusive?

Your earlier posts about being concerned about the fallout if you left him and went home (and you don't even live together!), waves a bunch of red flags.

And then him sending angry texts asking wtf you are playing at?? Did he seriously expect you would stay in the hotel room all afternoon because he didn't want to go out and do anything??!!! Seems he wants to keep you limited.

Honestly, @bagpuss90 , I think your relationship is done. You deserve better.

Life is tough already.
Do you really need this lazy fun sponger dragging you down.
If he can’t communicate his problem openly then there’s no chance of a successful relationship. You’ve demonstrated that you don’t have a problem, by going out alone and having a pleasant time without him.
Honestly OP, is he even worth the eggshells.
You owe him nothing.
Set yourself free !

I would be asking HIM wtf he’s playing at. Give him a piece of your mind then leave him, he isn’t worth wasting your life with.

Agree with this wholeheartedly.

OP you sound ace. Glad you met some nice ( normal!) people. I bet they raised a glass to your chutzpah in getting out yourself and not waiting for him.

At the start I had thought ‘ hmm, he’s missing someone else back home…’ . But by now I just think he’s a drip . Free yourself!

He’s going to be sulking this morning and trying to make you feel bad.
DO NOT APOLOGISE. Not even ‘I’m sorry if you felt I abandoned you’ … no apologies at all.
stay calm, don’t argue. If he tries to create a drama raise an eyebrow at how ridiculous he’s been and stay calm.
keep firmly stating he didn’t seem very happy and he was more interested in sleeping so there was no reason for you to also have a shit weekend.
And honestly when you get home, get rid. Sulking and making you walk on eggshells is abusive behaviour.
You can do so much better op x