We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

So pleased you had a lovely evening. But this relationship sounds miserable. Leave him and have lots of other lovely evenings without him. This doesn’t sound like it will get better.

Blimey, what a bore he is. A miserable one at that. What’s he like this morning? When are you supposed to be going home?

That's the same thing OP. Scared of him or scared of how he will react, there's no real difference. You will be okay on your own, and it has to be better than this!

Glad you had a great evening OP. Well done you! It was fabulous to read that you don't live with him. You need to let him go - he is emotionally abusive. Who needs that, when it's so easy to free yourself?

Are you safe this morning @bagpuss90? I hope he's apologised for how he's been, but I suspect he will have doubled down on you being out of order for going out.

Now you've had a tiny taste of how upbeat your social life, and life in general, could be without him, now will you dump him?

I had an ex bf like this. Started off as a really lovely, kind guy but 3 years in wouldn’t hesitate to give me the silent treatment over the most minor thing. Of course he wouldn’t come out with what was wrong so we could talk it out, he had to spend the whole meal or day being ice cold.
I remember one holiday just sobbing silently in the shower. I should’ve dumped him there and then but my self esteem was so low at that point. Anyway, I finally did it and he was gobsmacked. Promised he’d do better, go to couples counselling etc but it was too late. I met the love of my life soon after and haven’t looked back.

Brilliant, pleased you had a good evening. My ex used to do this, sulk if he didn't want to do something.

I've only read the OP's updates, but - - - is it possible there's another woman? I had this with my now ExH. My works Christmas dinner, he pointedly sat next to other people way over the other side of the table from me, ignored me for all of the evening, went to bed early at the hotel. When I went to bed he was texting on his phone ...
We went out for lunch with a large group of friends - again, pointedly sat away from me, went out to "the loo" for about 15 minutes -
MIL over Christmas and he walked the dog at the same time, was gone for ages. I said one morning we'd join him, his face changed, he disappeared into the park's cafe loo's for 10 minutes (MIL asking if he had an upset stomach, you could feel the waves of anger coming off him).
NYE, out with a large group of friends to see the fireworks in London, as the bells chimed we all hugged each other, he body swerved me and as it quietened down said loudly "I didn't even get a kiss", scowling at me ... Reflecting back afterwards I should have said "Neither Did I"!

When, 6 weeks later, I saw his mobile phone bill with all the calls to the OW, it made sense. At the time I thought I was going a little crazy. Yes, it took me that long to figure it out ....

It's the time of the year when this stuff happens, there'll be more in the next 2 weeks. You're with each other more over Christmas, the OW (occasionally) is someone they work with, etc ....

I'm glad you went out and did something nice.

Now do something else good for you: dump him.

Sod him! Don't feel awkward, you go out and have a lovely time. Treat yourself to a nice meal and do all the things you want to do, and leave him to rot in the hotel room.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend, OP. I suspect your P will sulk and strop because you didn't 'keep him company' (while he was asleep) and you dared to break your programming by going out alone. If you can't easily get home (and why should you, you're entitled to enjoy your weekend away!) then have a lovely time today sight seeing and browsing. Even if he insists on coming with you (because he might sense you are slipping away) don't let him. Tell him you'll have a better time on your own.

Then go home later and bin him off and tell him he's too miserable for you.

Glad you went out OP.

I hope he's behaving himself this morning. If he has an attitude then I really would just go home now.

Is he missing someone at home? It's odd behaviour to behave like that on a trip you both planned.

Life is too short for this bollocks

What a vile man. Abusive, of course. This is controlling behaviour. It’s really good that you don’t live together as it makes ending things much easier. I’m glad you went out and had a nice time. Keep acting for yourself and in your own interests.

Wtf is wrong with him?! If DH had a face on I'd ask him what the problem was. If he behaved like yours he'd be in the bin.
Are you frightened to ask him why he's got a face like a slapped arse?

Good. That will make it easy to bin him as soon as you get home.

So it’s not just this weekend, you say he’s more and more like this.
And as it’s not the way you want to live, time to end it. You are walking on eggshells round this man, and will have a better life without him

Hope you go out for a lovely breakfast OP. For some reason I thought you might be in Cirencester!

What and this gives him the excuse to ruin a weekend away? Come on.

@bagpuss90 My ex used to do this sort of thing- he would be utterly passive at the planning stage, agree to everything (or in one case, a wedding) insist on coming and making the plans we did, then find an excuse to be absolutely passive-aggressive silent treatment horrible. It would immediately put me onto eggshells and it would get worse after the event, when he’d punish me for whatever. Could be something tiny like my relative said something he didn’t like to him, or he didn’t enjoy his dinner, could be something he refused to name, but it would be my fault and it was destructive and harmful and ruined so many occasions- and the memories of those occasions. please LTB. Life is so much nicer on the other side!

If there's a fall-out this morning, I would say 'John, we've come away for the weekend, to explore and do things, not spend it in a hotel room. I'm going out, to XYZ, and then ABC, you are welcome to join me. I am not staying in the hotel all day. It's up to you'. I would, once you're home, take a long look at your relationship. Your partner seems disinterested and quite frankly boring - you get one life, don't waste it with someone who doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere and when you do is grumpy and poorly behaved.

I feel for you, Bagpuss, but wonder if your husband has an illness, maybe is in pain and discomfort a lot of the time but has not yet sought medical advice. He could well be worried about something like that. Just a thought.

I’d have been so tempted to just reply to his “wtf you playing at?” texts with photos of the jazz bar, drinks and your new found friends, no words just pics.

It's so great that you went out and had a nice evening by yourself - well done!

It doesn't sound like you and him are compatible at all. Have a think about whether life would be lighter, freer and more peaceful without him. As others have said, you get one life and there are no medals for martyrdom

You are best off out of there for sure, but it does sound as if he may be unwell in some way either mentally, physically or both.

Not your responsibility and doesn't mean you have to stay with him a moment longer but you could suggest when you leave that he sees someone as you are concerned.

What he does with that is up to him.

Hope you're up and off to do something lovely this morning op...with or without him. And please dump him....don't let him suck the joy out of you